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RE: Unread Messages - 2/11/2012 6:10:02 AM   
LillyBoPeep


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Status: offline 		I actually haven't gotten many screamy mean replies to "thanks but no thanks" these days - I have in the past, so I know they exist, and I do still get them at times. A lot of the time, though, I get something pretty pleasant in return... nobody's obligated to respond to anyone, of course, but the experience of the other side does seem to be changing a smidge...

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RE: Unread Messages - 2/11/2012 6:10:58 AM   
momandaughter


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Status: offline 		The ones that really annoy me are the ones who get a polite "Thanks, but no thanks" (and I do try hard to send at least that much), and then want to argue about it... or get all whiney and "Well why not?" (Becasue you live a thousand miles away, your profile is unattractive, you're ugly and your mother dresses you fiunny..?)
Or, worse, "oh, well, my profle doesn't reflect the real me, I'm actually completely different and I don't really want to do X with you at all, in fact I hate it... "

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RE: Unread Messages - 2/11/2012 6:21:53 AM   
DomMeinCT


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quote:

ORIGINAL: DarkSteven

Step by step:

A. Read woman's profile.
B. Decide if the two of you are compatible.  Hint - if you're what she says she doesn't want, you're not compatible.
C. If you think you're compatible, write her.  Make sure that your letter is drawn from her profile or from a post she's made.
D. Expect a 5% - 10% response rate.  Don't take it personally.



Great instructions, Steven. I'll add a couple of steps.

E. Don't post your frustrations in your profile or on a message board. It's immature and a further warning to others to stay away (from whatever is initially keeping them from responding).
F. Since you can't change others' responses to you, focus on what you can change about you.

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RE: Unread Messages - 2/11/2012 6:25:11 AM   
Kaliko


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Perhaps I should add "Making blanket derogatory assumptions about a group of people as a whole without giving regard to their individual circumstances" to my list of dislikes.

I had written this on a previous thread. I just don't want to retype it all. (Bold added.)

"I don't respond if a man has ignored my preferences for distance and age. Which, incidentally, are listed at the very bottom of my profile, so that also means that either they didn't read my whole profile, or they ignored what I wrote.

If they make it past distance and age, then I look at the length/content of the message. An empty compliment ("Nice legs!") or chat request is ignored. My profile is lengthy for a reason. The man I'm ultimately with will be someone who enjoys reading a profile like that, and he will also be someone who will write more than three words upon first contact.

If their message does seem to have some content to it, then I look to see if he has referenced my profile specifically in some way. I've gotten enough form letter type messages to know that it's completely insincere. I assure you (and I have no idea if this is what you do, but I'm just saying) if you don't type out your first email from scratch each and every time, many women will be able to tell it's a copy and paste, even if only in part. That may not bother everyone. It does bother me, though. It seems creepy.

So...IF you are within the age and distance preferences, and IF you have written more than three words, and IF you reference my profile in a personal way...then I will always respond in one way or another.*

Of course, messages from forum users are different. The rules don't apply and I'm always happy to hear from anyone here.



*Unless I don't."


I had added the "Unless I don't" in there for a reason. Life happens. Kids get sick. Dinner burns. Deadlines loom. Though I can't recall a time I've done it, I'm sure it must have happened. There may be a number of reasons why I don't answer a perfectly good message that have nothing at all to do with the person who wrote the message. By the time I've returned to my inbox at a time I can answer, that message may be long gone from my view. It certainly doesn't make me a worthless, ill-mannered slut. It makes me human.

I would never assume that someone's lack of response is because they're worthless and have bad breath. Perhaps, just maybe, I don't know everything about that person's life and possibly, answering my email isn't the very most important thing on earth to them at that very moment.

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RE: Unread Messages - 2/11/2012 6:25:51 AM   
SoftBonds


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Status: offline 		I think a "thanks but no thanks," is a really nice thing to do. I also can see where someone just wouldn't have the time to read everything. If a girl gets 100 messages in a day, or even 10 but they are long, it would be a chore to read them all, much less read them all, respond favorably to the ones you like, respond politely to the ones you want to send on their way, respond appropriatly to the whiners, etc. In my job I spend (well, till my current assignment, but it will be back soon), an hour a day cleaning out my e-mail, and that is just to get it down to "important and urgent." Can't imagine spending an hour dealing with come-ons...
But Momandaughter, I have been guilty of asking "why not," because if you send out 10 requests and all you get back is one rejection, you will want to ask the one person who was nice enough to reply to give you a clue what you are doing wrong. I know that is even more of an imposition, but (to misquote C. S. Lewis), sometimes the reward for a good deed is being expected to do even more good deeds...
I did make sure to thank the lady for her reply, and I thanked her again for her feedback about my profile, and if she ever needs a friend I will be there for her.

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RE: Unread Messages - 2/11/2012 6:28:28 AM   
Kaliko


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quote:

ORIGINAL: LillyBoPeep

I actually haven't gotten many screamy mean replies to "thanks but no thanks" these days - I have in the past, so I know they exist, and I do still get them at times. A lot of the time, though, I get something pretty pleasant in return... nobody's obligated to respond to anyone, of course, but the experience of the other side does seem to be changing a smidge...


I agree. Not much screaming at all. What I do find, though, is that a number of men feel the need to convince me otherwise. That is where it gets a bit tiring. I hate to block people. (Because that, I feel, is rude unless they've truly earned it) but I would appreciate my "no thanks" being taken at face value.

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RE: Unread Messages - 2/11/2012 6:34:47 AM   
Kaliko


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quote:

ORIGINAL: SoftBonds

But Momandaughter, I have been guilty of asking "why not," because if you send out 10 requests and all you get back is one rejection, you will want to ask the one person who was nice enough to reply to give you a clue what you are doing wrong.


I have actually responded to a question like that a few times. (Assuming they meet my age, distance requirements - because if not, then their "why not" is obvious.)

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RE: Unread Messages - 2/11/2012 6:37:25 AM   
myotherself


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Status: offline 		I'm with the crowd that peruse profiles before the message. I think a profile says a lot about the person, and if I find the profile unpleasant then I may hover over the message to see the first few words, or I may just ignore it or delete it unread.

If the profile is ok and I hover over it and it clearly indicates the sender hasn't bothered to read my profile, I ignore that one too.

I read the OP's profile and it was so negative I would not have responded to him. I'm one of those people who can happily leave mails unread in my inbox for months at a time, until the system eventually deletes them automatically.


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RE: Unread Messages - 2/11/2012 6:39:21 AM   
LadyHibiscus


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Status: offline 		Those red letters set off my MAKE IT STOP urge, so I have to delete the mail that fails the cursor test. I don't have bulk mail settings anymore, my pals are of all ages, and there's no way to exclude or include specific countries.



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RE: Unread Messages - 2/11/2012 6:43:00 AM   
SpiritedRadiance


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Status: offline 		I get upwards to 60 to 300 messages a week..

Say it takes 3 minutes per messages ... so thats anywhere between 2 hours to 15 hours to read most of the trash i get in my inbox.

Do you have that much free time? To respond to?
Hot photos wanna fuck?
Wanna fuck?
Your pretty...
You like X?
Why is X a limit?
I wanna do x to you
hi..
wanna chat?

You get the point? I dont have that much free time.... I send out messages to those im interested in... I reply to those im interested in... anyone else cant rot...


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RE: Unread Messages - 2/11/2012 6:43:19 AM   
lizi


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quote:

ORIGINAL: SoftBonds

I think a "thanks but no thanks," is a really nice thing to do. I also can see where someone just wouldn't have the time to read everything. If a girl gets 100 messages in a day, or even 10 but they are long, it would be a chore to read them all, much less read them all, respond favorably to the ones you like, respond politely to the ones you want to send on their way, respond appropriatly to the whiners, etc. In my job I spend (well, till my current assignment, but it will be back soon), an hour a day cleaning out my e-mail, and that is just to get it down to "important and urgent." Can't imagine spending an hour dealing with come-ons...
But Momandaughter, I have been guilty of asking "why not," because if you send out 10 requests and all you get back is one rejection, you will want to ask the one person who was nice enough to reply to give you a clue what you are doing wrong. I know that is even more of an imposition, but (to misquote C. S. Lewis), sometimes the reward for a good deed is being expected to do even more good deeds...
I did make sure to thank the lady for her reply, and I thanked her again for her feedback about my profile, and if she ever needs a friend I will be there for her.


I've responded to a "why not" as well. If the person is sincerely seeking an answer I don't mind taking the time to enlighten him, however some don't want any answer you give, they want to argue with you about why not. So that stinks. At this point it's a toss-up whether I'll answer a why not or leave it go, I'm not into be brow-beaten by strangers.

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RE: Unread Messages - 2/11/2012 6:45:15 AM   
kalikshama


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quote:

I do, /really/ I do understand that subs, especially attractive female subs, get mountains of mail, but to simply let a message sit, unread, undeleted, unresponded...seems peculiar to me.


Like already said, probably your message is lost in bulk or she read it by hovering and decided you were not compatible.

I will respond to a well written message even if we are not compatible, or to a message from someone I know from the forums.

If you send me a sample first message, I will be happy to critique it. DarkSteven gave you some good advice in his post # 15.

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RE: Unread Messages - 2/11/2012 6:51:40 AM   
Lockit


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Status: offline 		I have struggled with how to explain how I do things regarding email and still haven't found just the right words to convey my take on it. First of all, I came to this site for my own benefit. There was something here I wanted to take part in and whatever that was, isn't always the same reasons others might be here. I am busy living my life moment to moment at times, doing what I do in a day, dealing with what I deal with in a day and each day that can be different. Isn't life like that for others? I know my life is different as it is different than just a few years ago, but don't we all have things that upset the time we each have in a day to do all that we must do? You can plan your day out and how many times have you in the first half hour of your day, had that time table upset? You may plan to get to something and just cannot and a few more of those little daily things and pretty soon you are falling behind and some days, you just say fuck it... I will get to it when I get to it or I won't. Sorry.

When life does what it does to me... I just have to flow with it and answering email becomes a chore I simply don't want to do because I typically am just not able to do it. I have looked for someone at times, but mostly, I have been here doing what I do here and am not really seeking anything in particular. Or am simply not so hungry for it that it matters all that much to me and believe me, with all I have going on... I can't take on what someone else wants from this site or in life and cater my life to their time frame, desires or what they seek from the site.

Even with people I consider friends, I cannot keep up. It may seem that I have time because I am logged in or am seen somewhere on site doing something, but I still can't get to emails. You cannot know what I am feeling, going through or anything else by what I am doing. I may be having moments of personal isolation because of pain and I am on the boards for laughs and may run into a thread I feel like posting in. That doesn't mean I feel good enough to do emails that might matter more than anything else being from a friend... that may have something going on and my words would have an effect and I want to say or do the right thing and just can't in that moment. Can anyone understand that? I doubt it because I can't even understand it. It sounds rather bad to say... I just wasn't in the mood as it isn't that simple, but basically I guess someone could see it that way.

Why try to figure something out that could entail a long and detailed story of a day or week in a life, what being here means to someone, what they are interested in and on and on? Sometimes it is simply too much work to explain! I don't mean to be rude or hurt anyone by my actions or lack of them. I don't have the time or wherewithal to explain it. I just say... I will get to emails and you... even if you are beloved... when I can.

I might try to explain to someone I know, but I am surely not going to explain to a stranger most of the time. I don't have time to explain myself. I am escaping on the boards... I am playing with someone... I am meeting my needs of whatever sort and if people that know me need me, they can call me. If people that don't know me think they are important to me... well, we may have a bit of an issue there. Do I need to explain that their cock picture is a bit much for me and I don't care to talk to them? Do I need to explain that they aren't my type when they could see that if they had taken some action themselves? Do I need to explain that little Billy just fucking threw up on my shirt and I am busy tending to myself and little Billy? Or shall I state... well, I woke up with this symptom and while dealing with that one another one hit and then I tried to deal with it and sixteen emails came in, while I was reading journals or the board to make my brain come to life and ignore all those symptoms? Do you really want to know why someone might not have the time to email you and maybe risk, their... fuck this day... get out of my way... you stranger you? lol

Sometimes, you just have to take what doesn't happen and deal with it and hope that something can happen with someone else. Don't take it personally and don't take it as being rude... you aren't walking a day with that person and know what's in their shoes.


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RE: Unread Messages - 2/11/2012 6:53:05 AM   
LillyBoPeep


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Status: offline 		I can't stand the red "New Message!" thing... I haaaave to get rid of it. :p

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RE: Unread Messages - 2/11/2012 6:53:39 AM   
lostinmyownmind


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quote:

ORIGINAL: DesFIP

In addition, many of us open the profile before the message to see if we want to read anything from you. If the woman has strict limits on age, distance, etc and you don't fit it, then she will delete it unread because you've already proved yourself to be someone who wouldn't stop if she safeworded. We're clear about what we want, when you assume that you can ignore what we say, you prove yourself to be unsafe.



^^^ Exactly this ^^^


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RE: Unread Messages - 2/11/2012 6:58:26 AM   
LillyBoPeep


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quote:

ORIGINAL: Kaliko

I agree. Not much screaming at all. What I do find, though, is that a number of men feel the need to convince me otherwise. That is where it gets a bit tiring. I hate to block people. (Because that, I feel, is rude unless they've truly earned it) but I would appreciate my "no thanks" being taken at face value.



Yeah, that can get old... the "but oooh we have so much in common!" thingie, or "why not just take a chance," or they go into some tale about their sexual prowess and all you're missing out on, whatever.
I just don't respond to those. I dunno what else to say that I havenn't already said, so I choose to say nnothing at that point. :p

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RE: Unread Messages - 2/11/2012 6:59:42 AM   
Duskypearls


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quote:

ORIGINAL: SoftBonds

I think a "thanks but no thanks," is a really nice thing to do. I also can see where someone just wouldn't have the time to read everything. If a girl gets 100 messages in a day, or even 10 but they are long, it would be a chore to read them all, much less read them all, respond favorably to the ones you like, respond politely to the ones you want to send on their way, respond appropriatly to the whiners, etc. In my job I spend (well, till my current assignment, but it will be back soon), an hour a day cleaning out my e-mail, and that is just to get it down to "important and urgent." Can't imagine spending an hour dealing with come-ons...
But Momandaughter, I have been guilty of asking "why not," because if you send out 10 requests and all you get back is one rejection, you will want to ask the one person who was nice enough to reply to give you a clue what you are doing wrong. I know that is even more of an imposition, but (to misquote C. S. Lewis), sometimes the reward for a good deed is being expected to do even more good deeds...
I did make sure to thank the lady for her reply, and I thanked her again for her feedback about my profile, and if she ever needs a friend I will be there for her.


Softy, I understand some fellas wanting to know why, if it's an authentic inquiry. But, as many have already attested here, too often, it turns into a situation where the fella turns it into a quest to project his rejection anger upon the gal(s) and make them wrong, or thinks it gives them permission to try to convince the gal(s) why/how they right for them. It's exhausting for us.

Many of them are emotionally/socially immature and retaliative when they don't get their way. They quickly lose any semblance of manners or courtesy, and start steamrolling over our boundaries. Too many have unrealistic expectations, and feel they are owed an explanation or apology, when in fact, they are owed nothing.

Most women want men who are already somewhat formed, and know how to be decent, courteous, emotionally mature, sensitive, and responsible. If they don't know, and we have to tell them what they need to do/be to become that, many will not be interested. We don't want men we have to raise up/teach to be men. We want those who have already worked hard to get there under their own steam. I, for one, will not choose a man based upon his "potential." My choice of man will already have done much work on himself, bringing much to the table. And of course, no one wants the task of turning a sow's ear into a silk purse.

That being said, if one has an authentic inquiry about 1 or 2 things, and if it's done in a mature, non-retaliative, non-confrontational manner, I am usually happy to offer a gentle suggestion. I understand many men these days have few positive role models/mentors, and are at the disadvantage.

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RE: Unread Messages - 2/11/2012 7:13:29 AM   
Duskypearls


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quote:

ORIGINAL: Lockit

I have struggled with how to explain how I do things regarding email and still haven't found just the right words to convey my take on it. First of all, I came to this site for my own benefit. There was something here I wanted to take part in and whatever that was, isn't always the same reasons others might be here. I am busy living my life moment to moment at times, doing what I do in a day, dealing with what I deal with in a day and each day that can be different. Isn't life like that for others? I know my life is different as it is different than just a few years ago, but don't we all have things that upset the time we each have in a day to do all that we must do? You can plan your day out and how many times have you in the first half hour of your day, had that time table upset? You may plan to get to something and just cannot and a few more of those little daily things and pretty soon you are falling behind and some days, you just say fuck it... I will get to it when I get to it or I won't. Sorry.

When life does what it does to me... I just have to flow with it and answering email becomes a chore I simply don't want to do because I typically am just not able to do it. I have looked for someone at times, but mostly, I have been here doing what I do here and am not really seeking anything in particular. Or am simply not so hungry for it that it matters all that much to me and believe me, with all I have going on... I can't take on what someone else wants from this site or in life and cater my life to their time frame, desires or what they seek from the site.

Even with people I consider friends, I cannot keep up. It may seem that I have time because I am logged in or am seen somewhere on site doing something, but I still can't get to emails. You cannot know what I am feeling, going through or anything else by what I am doing. I may be having moments of personal isolation because of pain and I am on the boards for laughs and may run into a thread I feel like posting in. That doesn't mean I feel good enough to do emails that might matter more than anything else being from a friend... that may have something going on and my words would have an effect and I want to say or do the right thing and just can't in that moment. Can anyone understand that? I doubt it because I can't even understand it. It sounds rather bad to say... I just wasn't in the mood as it isn't that simple, but basically I guess someone could see it that way.

Why try to figure something out that could entail a long and detailed story of a day or week in a life, what being here means to someone, what they are interested in and on and on? Sometimes it is simply too much work to explain! I don't mean to be rude or hurt anyone by my actions or lack of them. I don't have the time or wherewithal to explain it. I just say... I will get to emails and you... even if you are beloved... when I can.

I might try to explain to someone I know, but I am surely not going to explain to a stranger most of the time. I don't have time to explain myself. I am escaping on the boards... I am playing with someone... I am meeting my needs of whatever sort and if people that know me need me, they can call me. If people that don't know me think they are important to me... well, we may have a bit of an issue there. Do I need to explain that their cock picture is a bit much for me and I don't care to talk to them? Do I need to explain that they aren't my type when they could see that if they had taken some action themselves? Do I need to explain that little Billy just fucking threw up on my shirt and I am busy tending to myself and little Billy? Or shall I state... well, I woke up with this symptom and while dealing with that one another one hit and then I tried to deal with it and sixteen emails came in, while I was reading journals or the board to make my brain come to life and ignore all those symptoms? Do you really want to know why someone might not have the time to email you and maybe risk, their... fuck this day... get out of my way... you stranger you? lol

Sometimes, you just have to take what doesn't happen and deal with it and hope that something can happen with someone else. Don't take it personally and don't take it as being rude... you aren't walking a day with that person and know what's in their shoes.



Well said, Lockit. I totally understand and agree, and have highlighted, in your post, some of the very same feelings I have.

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RE: Unread Messages - 2/11/2012 7:33:07 AM   
OsideGirl


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quote:

ORIGINAL: JanMikal

I understand why someone would delete a message unread; I find it rude, not to at least reply with something akin to 'No thank you, not interested', but that's just me. Some people have different standards.


There's a reason why we don't respond "No thank you". It's because it often leads to receiving another email that either contains a diatribe calling us ugly, fat, and other derogatory terms...or it contains a demand to know WHY we said no. So, you have no one to thank but your fellow men for getting your email deleted rather than a "no thank you".


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RE: Unread Messages - 2/11/2012 8:04:34 AM   
YourQueenErisca


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Status: offline 		dear Jan Mikal (I'm being courteous here ),

Many of us receive a lot of messages each day. We do not have time to read and reply to each one of it. Call it rude, call it whatever. But that's the ugly truth. Most of us do not wish to waste our time on anything or anyone who does not interest us. Remember that CM messages are not the only messages one gets when they are on their pc. Work emails, friend's forwards, emails, facebook chats, facebook messages, twitters, etc etc. Even office emails, I do not reply with "received or thank you" unless it's an important email. What more for messages from strangers that do not fall in my interest "group".

When I see plenty of messages, I move the cursor to read the early part of the message, if it's what I seek, I will open and read the message fully. then check the person's profile and decide to respond or not. I hate the red "new Message sign" too. so I will eventually deleted out the emails in future when I have free time. I still have a few unread CM messages that I have not deleted yet bcos it's several pages away and I have new messages to read. If I'm busy, I will read the messages and reply later when I'm free. Messages that gained my interest will be replied as I will remember the sender.

No body will send a message blindly (except for some idiots with sewage as their brains. lol. I have received some emails with other Mistress names too, typically a copy and paste message which he blindly sends to all the Domme's he came across. If I scroll the cursor and see it as " Dear Queen Patricia.... / Mistress slyvia" definitely I'm not going to read ).
When someone sends me a message, it shows that he's interested in me and he will probably be waiting for my response. When he sees a message from me, he will be very excited and a "no, thank you" message will only make him more disappointed. Why give him a lame hope and waste his time?? When a guy who sits across my table in a restaurant smiles at me, I do not smile back (even when it's polite to smile back) because I do not want to give him lame hope.

A NO RESPONSE IS A RESPONSE TOO. IT'S A CLEAR RESPONSE THAT THE PERSON IS 100% NOT INTERESTED IN YOU AND DON'T EVEN WANT TO WASTE THEIR TIME READING/ REPLYING YOUR MESSAGE.

If the guy is extremely interested in me, he will message me back politely asking why I have not replied. and if I like that second response from him, I might reply back but the chances are light. Most men even sends in emails asking why their message was read and not replied. they try to keep dragging the message until I stop replying.
If he's above 40, I'm not interested. It's simple but there are so many men, especially the over 45 rich guys who have so little brains. If I have checked his profile and he's over 40, I'm not bothered to read his message, simply because I do not want to waste My time reading messages from him.
When I was very free, I have sent out a few "no, thank you" message, to which I have received " oh you must be really ugly, etc etc". And this idiotic male-ego messages keep coming back again and again. Most males have a problem to face rejection. They prefer silence ( unread or no reply ) than a clear rejection ( "no, thank you" reply).

AGE PREFERENCE AND LOOKS IS IMPORTANT FOR ME. IT IS FOR MANY PEOPLE. READ THE GIRL'S AGE PREFERENCE BEFORE YOU MESSAGE HER. IF SHE SAW YOUR PHOTO AND SHE DOES NOT LIKE WHAT SHE SAW, MOST PROBABLY SHE WILL NOT BE BOTHERED TO READ YOUR MESSAGE. which is good as definitely you do not want to waste your time too (unless you are unemployed and have so much time to waste).


BTW, an interesting quote from your journal entry: 5/30/2011 1:58:47 AM
Secondly, many I see a lot of profiles that demand 'respectful and courteous'. I will tell you a secret, my children; I do NOT respect you. Not one bit. Respect is earned, and I certainly do not respect someone I have never seen, spoken to, or met before. Not one bit. Courtesy should (and I say /should/, since there are clearly a number of people here that do not understand the concept) be taken for granted, but you cannot demand respect and have it offered immediately. If you don't like what someone says to you, you can always send back 'You are rude and I do not wish to speak to you' and then ignore any other correspondence. But to demand respect from someone you've never met...is just silly"

Reading a message and not replying is rude. A courteous person replies to the messages they receive. To leave your message unread is simply an act of being disrespectful. Why you worry so much on it when you have said it in your profile that demanding respect from someone you’ve never met is silly.


Queen Erisca


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