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RE: Volunteer Cuckoldry versus "Forced" Cucko... - 3/22/2012 11:58:29 PM

xXLithiumXx

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ORIGINAL: GreedyTop

Wow! that school stuff sucks! *hugs* glad you're getting back on track, though :)

I dunno, it wasn't me!! Mom taught me to shut the door behind me ;)

Swear ta Jeebus!

I leave you guys alone for five minutes and look what happens...you let your drunk friends uncle fester in and he pisses on the good rugs.

You are -all- grounded!

Lol

Yeah school is some bitches...but I got them...No worries.

Work is kicking my ass...but I think that's what I get for being good at what I do....It's so difficult being this awesome. You have no idea.

=)

Ima wander around the boards for a while this weekend. I get 4 days off after Saturday...OOOOH the wonderful things I am going to do...like sleep...soooo much sleep I have lost.

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RE: Volunteer Cuckoldry versus "Forced" Cucko... - 3/23/2012 12:03:19 AM

xXLithiumXx

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ORIGINAL: VanessaChaland

Thanks. I can see I still have a great deal of work to do. You just proved that you have zero knowledge or understanding of the dynamics of cuckoldy, and in addition you also proved that you have no knowledge of the S/M-B/D world. :)
Cuckolds are not gay. They can not be gay or they never would have been married to a wife/woman who cuckolded them, lol.
Your intepretation of the word "force" missed the mark 100%. So glad I put a little disclaimer at the start of my post.
As to my...what was it, grandma pancake ass? Yea, its the finest ass you've ever seen and sorry that you will never experience the joy of having one like it.
Just curious, do you always show up days late with such lousy attempts at being witty? I mean is that a HillBilly thing or something? :)

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ORIGINAL: xXLithiumXx

Oh, Darling..I am not even close to jealous of you.

I know...It may come as a shock to you, there in that little bubble you call home...but quite frankly...you're not rare, you aren't special, and your situation is lack luster to say the least.

Your husband chokes when he thinks of anything to do with having another mans anything in his mouth because he isn't gay. You can't force him to be gay any more than we can force you to just shut the fuck up...

Basically, by forcing him you are potentially causing psychological damage that you are not responsible enough, in all of your infinite glory, to repair. In my opinion, I will be watching a true crime show one day and it will be about how your husband fed your freeze dried corpse into a wood chipper (Party at my house!) and I will shake my had and laugh because it's just another example of how karma comes back and gnaws viciously on a self important bitch like you.

So, no, I am not jealous in the least...I don't envy you even a tiny bit. I don't have to force men to do what I want them to do, they do it because they want to, and that is how I like it. It's so much nicer when they strive to please you and you don't have to waggle your non-existent grand ma pan cake ass and blue waffle in their face while making cold hearted and unrealistic demands that could potentially present a health risk to him, you and the general public.

In short, keep it in your pants, you out break monkey, and realize that if you wanted a bi cuck that you could bitch slap like a soccer ball then that's what you should have married, but don't come on here and post a bunch of bull shit plugging the same crap over and over and then get pissy when no one wants to answer your statements when you claim to be an expert. If you are an expert, then you should know the answer, why are you asking us? Go talk to yourself. You know it all.

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Lol.

Oh...you are going to be fun...I can already tell.

Yeah, I am always late...because I have this awesome thing...it's called a life? I hear you can get an app for your smart phone...may wanna check that one out.

Hillbilly? Interesting assumption that I would be offended at that statement because I live here.

Next you will try that whole fat thing too.

So high school and sadly typical.

Like I said, you're the expert, go talk to yourself and solve your own issues. You know it all, right?

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RE: Volunteer Cuckoldry versus "Forced" Cucko... - 3/23/2012 12:08:30 AM

xXLithiumXx

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Kids...I would love to stick around for this, but I have to be up in 4 hours for school....

Yall have fun with this one...personally I think we are beating on a dead horses ass and there is no real conversation to be had here.

Best of luck with that self produced stick figure animation you got going on there, chick. For real....Watch out for anything that tastes like almonds, his sudden need to replace appliances around the house, or the great idea to go from natural gas to wood burning heat...late night I.D. Discovery is already kinda crappy...I don't think I could ever see it the same if it suddenly became a comedy...

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RE: Volunteer Cuckoldry versus "Forced" Cucko... - 3/23/2012 12:10:44 AM

VanessaChaland

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Its interesting how the "score card" looks.
Fetlife, same topic, three threads, roughly 50 long and well thought out replies.
Blogs, same topic, five different blogs, roughly 20 erudite and very personal replies.
CollarMe, a couple of well thought out replies, multiple pages of bullshit, attacks, hate, jealousy, lies, assumptions and more bullshit.

Same questions, totally different results. No attacks on the other forums or blogs, just respectful discussion. And on CollarMe.....lol. :)

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ORIGINAL: xXLithiumXx
Blather, blather, blather.

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RE: Volunteer Cuckoldry versus "Forced" Cucko... - 3/23/2012 12:12:39 AM

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have a good night, Lithi!! *hugs*

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RE: Volunteer Cuckoldry versus "Forced" Cucko... - 3/23/2012 1:30:12 AM

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ORIGINAL: VanessaChaland

To MissImortalPain: My question in the original post: "Why is there so little evidence or discussion or example of the......compliant male eager to please his wife, who ends up being cuckolding by her, against all of his natural instincts? Why does there seem to be mostly one extreme or the other? Am I and my situation a rarity or is it just simply rarely discussed and kept more private in peoples personal lives for others?"

For this part and only this part.

I don't honestly think it is natural instincts. This is one of those areas that I'm inclined to believe we're hitting an area of nature vrs nurture, with a sprig of environment. There's a difference between what we are born with and what we are taught. It's really hard to say if it would even be possible to cuck someone without those learned influences because using them against the man is part of the kink for Me. That's the emotional sadism part from My perspective, especially in the area of jealousy.

The other question is one of possessiveness. I really don't know if that is a learned quality or not, but I lean toward thinking it is. It's something that I think those of us who went from a monogamous relationship to a poly one can identify with because we go from a mindset of not sharing our primary partner (possessive) to accepting we can love more than one person (non possessive). However, I see poly as a different type of relationship than a cuck dynamic, even though on the surface, they seem very similar.

It's somewhat hard to explain without giving a life story here, but there is a difference to Me in having a husband (current) who happens to be a voyeur and the submissive that I had who was a cuck (previous). The only way I can express it is that live sex is hot, but in one case, there are negative emotions (I hate that term) mixed in it and the other, there isn't. We didn't start in this place at all when he and I were first married, but today, My other half will tell you that him sitting back and watching another man bring Me to orgasm is a beautiful thing.

That probably sounds odd to a lot of monogamous people because we're taught that's not how we should feel about it. That other person belongs to you, damn it, and that's how it's supposed to be, right? That's why there is a part of it that feels 'bad' (at least a little) to a cuck, but not to a man who fully supports a poly relationship.

Which may not be what you are asking at all, but since we have had a few threads on cuckoldry lately, it's something I've been trying to convey in the last few weeks.

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RE: Volunteer Cuckoldry versus "Forced" Cucko... - 3/23/2012 6:26:19 AM

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Its interesting how the "score card" looks.
Fetlife, same topic, three threads, roughly 50 long and well thought out replies.
Blogs, same topic, five different blogs, roughly 20 erudite and very personal replies.
CollarMe, a couple of well thought out replies, multiple pages of bullshit, attacks, hate, jealousy, lies, assumptions and more bullshit.

Same questions, totally different results. No attacks on the other forums or blogs, just respectful discussion. And on CollarMe.....lol. :)

Infrequent posters get rough treatment here, often. For a thread to go well, it helps if the poster is already pre-accepted by the regulars. Posters who violate the CMMB norms get mocked for: their pictures, profile content, posting content etc. Fighting back makes the round-a-bout worse. The practice of mocking tends to be group-think, so the individuals piling on think they are being reasonable.

Those are just the common patterns. In sum, if you violate the norms or upset the regulars -- what follows is snarky criticism and banter. In the case of this thread, I think others have found your "attitude" objectionable --- so the thrust of their posting is about that and not your content. Telling those respondents to take a hike only reinforces their self-righteousness and indignation. Comments then become more snarky about your photos, website, and posts.

Rarely do you see someone correct themselves, admit a mistake, or show ignorance (saying I don't know.)

Off center or unpopular kinks get especially rough treatment as the objectors project their hatred/distaste of a kink onto the OP, the kink, and the practitioner's thereof. This bile often masquerades as "helpful advice" or "my honest opinion," when in fact its either overt or veiled bigotry.

Its a lot like the real world here. Its a splash in the face to some who might think its a safe haven or a "more progressive" community.

Like the real world, its easier if you try to fit in first and play by the rules while not upsetting anyone's sensibilities. The CMMB expects you to be audience centered, otherwise the audience gets hostile. Its less like that on other boards. Fetlife is simply way more differentiated than CM, so the audiences there reflect that.

In the end many (like you) get weeded out. On fetlife there's actually a CMMB refugee forum.

My very favorite posters have pretty much all, enmasse left here for fetlife. New exciting posters have not taken their place.

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RE: Volunteer Cuckoldry versus "Forced" Cucko... - 3/23/2012 6:31:53 AM

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That probably sounds odd to a lot of monogamous people because we're taught that's not how we should feel about it. That other person belongs to you, damn it, and that's how it's supposed to be, right?

About two months ago while attending a meet and great I rarely go to I entered into a discussion with a cuckold couple I had previously meet at different munch. I shared with them what I remembered about the cuckold opinions expressed in a previous thread on this site and expressed interest in understanding the mental emotional aspects of a cuckolding as opposed to the physical unfolding.

His innitial comment, “I adore my wife and we are very much in love. She is an emotionally resilient sexually powerful woman expressing dominance over me in every facet of our lives, including what she calls sexual independence.
She has sex with who she chooses and I am either chosen or I am not. There are times when I am present and times when I am not, times where I take part and times where I do not and there are times she where just tells me about it the following morning. At first I felt humiliated and angry, but I had a choice to make, we didn’t discuss it she simply gave me an ultimatum and I chose to love her unconditionally and on her terms."

Of course that led me to a host of other questions and I am currently in the process of speaking with a number of other cuckold couples they have introduced me to in Southwest Florida. The more I hear the more intrigued I become.

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RE: Volunteer Cuckoldry versus "Forced" Cucko... - 3/23/2012 6:40:25 AM

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ORIGINAL: VanessaChaland

Its interesting how the "score card" looks.
Fetlife, same topic, three threads, roughly 50 long and well thought out replies.
Blogs, same topic, five different blogs, roughly 20 erudite and very personal replies.
CollarMe, a couple of well thought out replies, multiple pages of bullshit, attacks, hate, jealousy, lies, assumptions and more bullshit.

Same questions, totally different results. No attacks on the other forums or blogs, just respectful discussion. And on CollarMe.....lol. :)

I see that this thread has grown to 4 pages since I last checked in on it. But sadly, very little discussion of cuckolding has gone on, while a whole lot of bashing and attacks have filled the majority of the thread.

Vanessa, I don't want to engage in a war of words. It's not my style. But I must say that looking at it objectively, you have contributed to the way this thread has gone. If you go back and re-read the thread, I think you'll agree that you could have steered the thread in a kinder, gentler direction. But instead, you chose to engage anyone who wanted to go toe-to-toe. That was your choice. So you have to accept at least partial responsibility for how the thread turned out. (BTW, that's not an attack, it's just a statement of fact.)

Here is the thread that I mentioned in my earlier post:

A more positive cuckolding thread

I think you'll enjoy the thread. Moreover, I think you'll discover that I am very much like your husband. I don't particularly enjoy cuckolding. I can't stand to watch, and I don't want to hear stories afterward. Yet, there is a part of me that also gets aroused from it. I really can't explain it. I'm not a psychologist, so I can't give a Freudian or Jungian explanation of what is going on inside my head while being cucked. I guess the best example that I can share is probably similar to what someone else mentioned in this thread; it may be analogous to a sub who doesn't like the pain, yet gets aroused when getting spanked/whipped/flogged.

I wish I had a better answer for you. That's primarily why I started my thread on the topic. I was seeking greater understanding of a kink that often perplexes me.

As I mentioned, I think that I may be very similar to your husband in my views/response to cuckolding. So if you'd like to discuss this further and get a male perspective, I'd be happy to share any insight that I can. Send me a private message. I think we can accomplish more that way. Thanks.

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RE: Volunteer Cuckoldry versus "Forced" Cucko... - 3/23/2012 6:49:04 AM

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ORIGINAL: Arienos

His innitial comment, “I adore my wife and we are very much in love. She is an emotionally resilient sexually powerful woman expressing dominance over me in every facet of our lives, including what she calls sexual independence.
She has sex with who she chooses and I am either chosen or I am not. There are times when I am present and times when I am not, times where I take part and times where I do not and there are times she where just tells me about it the following morning. At first I felt humiliated and angry, but I had a choice to make, we didn’t discuss it she simply gave me an ultimatum and I chose to love her unconditionally and on her terms."

Arienos,
Wow! I love that. It is so similar to how I've felt when in a cuck situation. The part that I bolded could have been written by me. It is almost an exact description of the rationalizing, and eventual acceptance, that went on in my own head.

Thanks for sharing that. Good stuff!

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RE: Volunteer Cuckoldry versus "Forced" Cucko... - 3/23/2012 7:12:05 AM

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To the others, check out my new profile pic. :)

so sorry, just ate, maybe later

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RE: Volunteer Cuckoldry versus "Forced" Cucko... - 3/23/2012 7:35:17 AM

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Arienos,
Wow! I love that. It is so similar to how I've felt when in a cuck situation. The part that I bolded could have been written by me. It is almost an exact description of the rationalizing, and eventual acceptance, that went on in my own head.

Thanks for sharing that. Good stuff!

My understanding at this time is, cuckolding stretches well beyond the physical, touches the very essence of the cuck and releases him from the shackling confines of social indoctrination. Although I have no practical or personal experience with cuckolding I do not believe based on what I know now cuckolding would not be something I would readily agree to.

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RE: Volunteer Cuckoldry versus "Forced" Cucko... - 3/23/2012 8:27:23 AM

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While researching some story lines, I found a web site that I wish I could remember so I could go back to it. There was a mix of all sorts of people there. It was all about sex and fantasy. I found the number one thing that men were wanting to experience, was watching their partner, have sex with another. There were men that wanted to watch and then men that wanted to be cucked. I read all of the posts on this wanting to understand it. I had contact with a number of men. I wrote a few stories and had many men responding. Each had their own story of either being cucked or wanting to be because it turned them on.

Those that had been, for the most part, got off to it on some level and yet... there was an aspect that they didn't like. For each it was a bit different. A couple of these men and I talked quite a bit as I really wanted to understand. I knew some cucks in my personal life and had been married to a man with many fantasies and one of those was to watch me with other men... to be cucked. He learned quickly he wasn't up to it. Those I knew that lived it longer... by online contact and in person... were not happy with their experiences in the end. I don't know everyone and know of those that happily lived this for years, but those I did know, in the end, no longer wanted to live as a cuck.

Those that have approached me wanting this have either not been reality based, were stuck in fantasy and weren't having any luck in being with a woman on any level.

From my own experiences and not from living a lifestyle of having a cuckold, my view is there is a lot that might turn us on in thought, but in living it out, it becomes something different and a steady dose of getting what we want, can be damaging. I do have to wonder how much of this is fantasy and for those that have worked it out for a long time, how or why they were able to. My number one thing is living an emotionally happy life and I don't ever wish to do harm. Therefore, I need to see healthy people, in healthy relationship, actually living this out without the ramifications I have seen more of.

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RE: Volunteer Cuckoldry versus "Forced" Cucko... - 3/23/2012 11:40:33 AM

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And yet here you are, 6 years later, still bitching about it. When I think a web site sucks, I just don't go there. What a silly boi am i

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RE: Volunteer Cuckoldry versus "Forced" Cucko... - 3/23/2012 12:21:55 PM

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Those that had been, for the most part, got off to it on some level and yet... there was an aspect that they didn't like. For each it was a bit different. A couple of these men and I talked quite a bit as I really wanted to understand. I knew some cucks in my personal life and had been married to a man with many fantasies and one of those was to watch me with other men... to be cucked. He learned quickly he wasn't up to it. Those I knew that lived it longer... by online contact and in person... were not happy with their experiences in the end. I don't know everyone and know of those that happily lived this for years, but those I did know, in the end, no longer wanted to live as a cuck.

I am not absolutely certain what the statistics are where a fulfilling happy long term marriage is concerned but one couple I am speaking with has been married 18 years, another 25 years and the rest appear to be 10 years and under with one couple recently married.

Not to divert from your post and I think the following is germane, a ceremony the recently married couple shared with me. Followed their church wedding and while still on the church steps another ceremony occurred, one where the wife asserts and affirms her sexual rights and freedoms and the cuck pledges fealty and support for his wife’s sexual independence. The reception followed.

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RE: Volunteer Cuckoldry versus "Forced" Cucko... - 3/23/2012 1:08:31 PM

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I didn't say it doesn't happen.

I knew some people long ago that made it happen. I don't know if they are still together and only know that he was getting fed up when I knew them. They had been married a number of years and for all I know, could still be together. (Edit to add, this was the couple I knew the best. There were others and they didn't work out in the long run.)

I am only saying that I don't know anyone personally... in person or those that I spoke to online, that have. I would like to hear about those that have and how they accomplished it all.

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RE: Volunteer Cuckoldry versus "Forced" Cucko... - 3/23/2012 3:59:23 PM

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ORIGINAL: Arienos
About two months ago while attending a meet and great I rarely go to I entered into a discussion with a cuckold couple I had previously meet at different munch. I shared with them what I remembered about the cuckold opinions expressed in a previous thread on this site and expressed interest in understanding the mental emotional aspects of a cuckolding as opposed to the physical unfolding.

His innitial comment, “I adore my wife and we are very much in love. She is an emotionally resilient sexually powerful woman expressing dominance over me in every facet of our lives, including what she calls sexual independence.
She has sex with who she chooses and I am either chosen or I am not. There are times when I am present and times when I am not, times where I take part and times where I do not and there are times she where just tells me about it the following morning. At first I felt humiliated and angry, but I had a choice to make, we didn’t discuss it she simply gave me an ultimatum and I chose to love her unconditionally and on her terms."

Of course that led me to a host of other questions and I am currently in the process of speaking with a number of other cuckold couples they have introduced me to in Southwest Florida. The more I hear the more intrigued I become.

The highlighted above is something I very much could have written, Myself because that is exactly the way that I feel about this particular kink. When we had the other thread that Rochsub was good enough to link, it was one of the main points that I was trying to get across from My perspective. It is also exactly why I do not feel suited for any male who actually proclaims that he wants this kink. This might be just Me, but when the male wants it, and especially has it on the table right up front, it loses something for Me somehow.

The closest that I can come to the description is the different ways that I view m/m oral. Tell Me that you (general you) are bi or bi-curious, and hey, it's a party. I enjoy watching it. It absolutely turns Me on, and it's awesome.

Then bring Me the guy who doesn't really want to do it. Getting him to that place where he becomes willing, for Me, is a whole other ball of wax. I actually enjoy the time investment that it takes getting him to that place. It's not even all that wrapped up in getting to the pay off. (Which is hot, don't get Me wrong.) I like watching the internal struggle that goes on in him as he is moving toward reaching that goal. It doesn't matter to Me if it takes months or even years to get there because I'm enjoying the progress every step of the way.

That's kind of a different kink though because I don't mix the emotional sadism up in that one. I want the struggle, but I don't especially want there to be pain involved in getting a male to the goalposts there.

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RE: Volunteer Cuckoldry versus "Forced" Cucko... - 3/23/2012 4:09:50 PM

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So my question and confusion is, where are the guys that are in between? It took me a few years to train my husband to.....tolerate my lifestyle and choices, with minimal results. For example, the examples I mentioned at the start of this post involve guys that may seek a divorce at best for his wife's philandering ways, and violence at worst. The wanna-be cuckold types seem to often dream of being "forced" to submit to a dominant woman and to engage in all sorts of sucking, cleaning, fluffing acts. And then guys like my husband, who even now, several years into our marriage and all my training, gags, retches and nearly throws-up when I make him use his tongue to clean up my lovers sperm, yet his dick is still hard and leaking pre-cum while doing so.

Maybe I am not making sense, but do you see what I mean? Why is there so little evidence or discussion or example of the......compliant male eager to please his wife, who ends up being cuckolding by her, against all of his natural instincts? Why does there seem to be mostly one extreme or the other? Am I and my situation a rarity or is it just simply rarely discussed and kept more private in peoples personal lives for others?

I'm not so sure whether or not I qualify as "in-between," or even a "bonafide" cuckold in terms of the D/s lifestyle.

Depending upon one's definition, I've been "cuckolded" in two prior female-led relationships. While cuckolding seems aligned with my lifestyle philosophy in that the woman is entitled to all the pleasure that she's willing to pursue, and it does seem to be a relevant and natural evolution of female-led relationships, and I actually do experience some sexual arousal from the dynamic; I've never been allowed any actual direct triad participation.

In other words, I've just been a "soft" cuckold; whereas I've never actually witnessed with my own two eyes either Domme having sex with other men, or even heard them through a wall having sex in an adjacent room. So I've never been subjected to what I would deem to be the immense humiliation of a smirking alpha-male or "bull" looking down on me. I could not even imagine the thought of her other lover being someone in the community, perhaps someone who might see me out in everyday life one day, whether that be soon thereafter or even 10 years later. So yes, there are some deep-seated and learned societal values at play within, that would conflict with a "hard" cuckold dynamic.

I helped prepare one of these lovely women for her encounters on several occasions. I saw the end result of her lovemaking upon her return several times. The other did not allow bareback sex with her lover, and wasn't interested in displaying end results to me anyway, as she kept the vast majority of the details of her affair private.

While it may be arousing to fantasize about, I'm sure I would feel at least some (if not a great deal of) reluctance should a future Domme require my active participation; especially for fluff or clean-up duties. I certainly would want to at least know what motivates her to subject me to such extreme humiliation.

Assuming that your assertions are real and not just marketing fodder; what motivates you to require your husband to eat your lover's sperm, even in spite of the fact that this still makes him want to vomit after multiple sessions? If this made me gag and want to vomit, my inexperienced notion tells me that I would hope it ended quickly; never to be repeated. I'm curious to know why a loving Domme would continue to require me to participate in an activity that made me physically ill?

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RE: Volunteer Cuckoldry versus "Forced" Cucko... - 3/24/2012 5:40:02 AM

SnowRanger

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Hello A/all,

To address what I perceive to be the original question, I think that there are two different things at work here. Your husband may be genuinely disgusted at having to consume your lover's ejaculate. Therefore he gags and wretches. On the other hand, your husband may be genuinely excited about this in-disputable expression of your power over him. Thus the erection. They may be two completely honest reactions to different aspects of this single event.

Respectfully,
Mike
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RE: Volunteer Cuckoldry versus "Forced" Cucko... - 3/24/2012 6:55:57 AM

Rochsub2009

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quote:

ORIGINAL: SnowRanger

Your husband may be genuinely disgusted at having to consume your lover's ejaculate. Therefore he gags and wretches. On the other hand, your husband may be genuinely excited about this in-disputable expression of your power over him. Thus the erection. They may be two completely honest reactions to different aspects of this single event.

This is the answer that came to my mind as well. It is possible to have both reactions. Disgust and arousal are not mutually exclusive.

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