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RE: Weddings - 4/8/2012 7:23:24 PM

RedMagic1

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ORIGINAL: Baroana

Really? I'm the only one here who has a problem with exposing kids to d/s before they're mature enough to understand it?

I'm the only one here who has a problem with giving information to kids that they shouldn't have about their parents?

I'm the only one here who has a problem with putting images of female submission into young, impressionable minds?

Shame on you all.

I do have a response to this, and you might even find it interesting. But first, may I ask you, how do you differentiate this from attending a gay wedding? Or perhaps you don't, and consider children watching two men kissing equally bad? I'm curious.

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RE: Weddings - 4/8/2012 8:18:34 PM

DomRidersSwitch

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If DomRider and I were to get married I would definately wear his collar during the ceremony. Those that are in my life know about my life choices and the same with his.

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RE: Weddings - 4/8/2012 8:24:32 PM

DomRidersSwitch

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How about the attention from your kids and grandkids who will look at your wedding pictures decades later?

I have been in the lifestyle for 17 years and I have children who have seen me interact with my dominants. I am curious to how you think a child of any age is / would be affected by seeing someone wearing a collar? I'd also ask you shy should a woman, a mother be ashamed of her choice to serve?

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RE: Weddings - 4/8/2012 8:44:14 PM

JeffBC

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ORIGINAL: DomRidersSwitch
I have been in the lifestyle for 17 years and I have children who have seen me interact with my dominants. I am curious to how you think a child of any age is / would be affected by seeing someone wearing a collar? I'd also ask you shy should a woman, a mother be ashamed of her choice to serve?

Excellent questions. Mostly I'm curious about this shame that is being attached to submission. And even more curious about why anyone would participate in anything so shameful. Aren't there some honor and integrity questions in there somewhere?

If I thought Carol was doing anything that I could not explain to a 5 year old I'd have to ask myself why I was letting the woman I love do such things?

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RE: Weddings - 4/9/2012 3:30:31 AM

Alecta

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ORIGINAL: Baroana

However, for reasons that I consider obvious, it's especially bad to teach female submission to children.

Whereas it would not be so bad to teach male submission to them? Or female supremacy? Why?

I have an issue with the idea that there should exist any "information that kids shouldn't have about their parents". Kids should have any and all information on their parents. Mind you, they should also be taught mature ways to process and evaluate that information for themselves.

I do not think the type of information you give your kids is quite as relevant as how you get them to understand it.

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RE: Weddings - 4/9/2012 5:25:20 AM

MmeSerenity

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FR - wearing your collar is a deeply personal choice. My beloved will be wearing the 20mm band from Kinksmith http://www.kinksmith.com/collections/phallus engraved with the wedding date.

A collar does not have to be visible to the public to still be meaningful to the couple.

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