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RE: Feminism and Submission - 7/5/2012 12:35:00 PM   
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I understand times changing, but I cannot fathom fringe nutcases like Dworkin being quoted as voices of feminism. Perhaps it's resentment that the glass ceiling got polished, but not removed? The anti transfolk issues...I am shaking my head at those.


It's not the fact that Dworkins or Solanises exist. Whenever you have a pleasant-sounding movement, you'll have people doing their damnedest to warp it to their own ends. The problem is when they're embraced. Nutcases in other fields are usually either pushed to the fringes or outright expelled, not asked to testify before congress or referred to as the greatest minds of their generation.

And yes, you can say that feminists are pooh-poohing their embarrassments like anti-porn and anti-trans stances. (Stances many of them personally argued fervently for at the time, but never mind that.) Can you tell me with a straight face that future generations won't look at "fat people are the most oppressed people" the same way? How many times do you need to say "whoops, we can't be held accountable for the things we say"? How many times do you think a man could say that before losing all credibility?

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It *does* make you a feminist if you believe in equality between men and women. (Well, that and the belief in freedom, on many accounts.) I think your idea of what feminism is has gone wrong there, Aries.


That's the difference between you and me. You define feminism based on its PR. I define feminism based on the behaviors of actual feminists.


The younger set of transfolk has definitely pointed fingers at my generation for not being LGBT advocates at the time, and of course for not also allying with women of colour. To which my only answer is "we fought our own fight, and didn't have the energy for other people's" The Detroit riots were 1967, Stonewalll 1968. Neither event really touched the white middle class existence of the bulk of the feminist movement.

I am not going to apologize because we didn't fix every damn thing, and only managed baby steps for ourselves.

Are future generations going to see Rush Limbaugh as the voice of the Republican party? Possibly, since the extremes are what get remembered.

The current phrase seems to be "but it doesn't affect ME". I hear that all the time, whether it's to do with welfare rulings, climate change, foreign politics, or whether you really want to invite that rapist to your party. Many many things that go on in the world do not affect me directly, but they do affect me because I am a member of a greater society.


While the mainstream media is purely evil and twists everything for its own propaganda, ie the Rush Limbaugh is extreme comment above, when by the real actual facts that he gets 20 million people to listen to him every day means he is the most mainstream radio personality, and more mainstream than most tv shows as well, you cannot compare what feminism was to what it seems to be now.

When I see feminists now all I see is hate. I see Now and Code Pink and feminists spouting communist and marxist ideologies without understanding them.
The History and Psychological Roots of Anti-Semitism Among Feminists, Their Gradual Palestinianization and Stalinization [incl. Rashid Khalidi]

If feminists really were for equality, where is the outrage at how muslims treat women? It is against the law for women to go to school in many muslim countries.

Feminism Is a Hate GroupThis type of thing is all you here feminists say on college campuses. Anything they dislike they attack, without question, and more importantly, without reason. These types of statements are why females are refusing to call themselves feminists. What once was an equality movement has been taken over by radicals and communists.

Anyone that hasn't been to a college campus in the past few decades still thinks feminism in the context of voting rights and equality, and todays feminist movement has nothing in common with that one.

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RE: Feminism and Submission - 7/5/2012 12:42:05 PM   
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I finished my second graduate degree in 1993, and that was at a private business school, so I am absolutely not in touch with the zeitgeist of today's youth!

I really don't pay much attention to what happens in colleges, then or now... lots of noise, signifying nothing. What do those shouters do once they're out of the heady atmosphere of learning?

www.theahafoundation.org is but one group helping Muslim women and those victimised by child marriage, FGM, etc. Talk is cheap.

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RE: Feminism and Submission - 7/5/2012 1:29:59 PM   
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While the mainstream media is purely evil and twists everything for its own propaganda, ie the Rush Limbaugh is extreme comment above, when by the real actual facts that he gets 20 million people to listen to him every day means he is the most mainstream radio personality, and more mainstream than most tv shows as well, you cannot compare what feminism was to what it seems to be now.

When I see feminists now all I see is hate. I see Now and Code Pink and feminists spouting communist and marxist ideologies without understanding them.
The History and Psychological Roots of Anti-Semitism Among Feminists, Their Gradual Palestinianization and Stalinization [incl. Rashid Khalidi]

If feminists really were for equality, where is the outrage at how muslims treat women? It is against the law for women to go to school in many muslim countries.

Feminism Is a Hate GroupThis type of thing is all you here feminists say on college campuses. Anything they dislike they attack, without question, and more importantly, without reason. These types of statements are why females are refusing to call themselves feminists. What once was an equality movement has been taken over by radicals and communists.

Anyone that hasn't been to a college campus in the past few decades still thinks feminism in the context of voting rights and equality, and todays feminist movement has nothing in common with that one.


I'm assuming your post was ironic?

I mean, quoting an article on an anti-feminist propaganda blog, and following it by a deeply biased paper that seeks to conflate the objections that many feminists have to what they perceive as the brutality of the Israeli government's treatment of the Palestinian people with anti semitism.... That must be irony, surely.

I mean, someone as clever as yourself would surely see that this sort of shit is put out there by people who have this thing called an "Agenda"? Right?

Because, let's face it - you would have to be pretty fucking stupid to think otherwise.

And yes, you can rest assured that many feminists are fighting for the cause of women in Muslim countries.




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RE: Feminism and Submission - 7/5/2012 1:32:47 PM   
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When I see feminists now all I see is hate. I see Now and Code Pink and feminists spouting communist and marxist ideologies without understanding them.
The History and Psychological Roots of Anti-Semitism Among Feminists, Their Gradual Palestinianization and Stalinization [incl. Rashid Khalidi]


From the article you cite:

"The American and European Left and feminist and gay movements have made a marriage in Hell with Islamist terrorists. "

What . . . .?

Jeezus, IS. This writer is bordering on the insane. Surely you're not asking that we take him seriously?

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RE: Feminism and Submission - 7/5/2012 1:38:08 PM   
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I'm assuming your post was ironic?



I genuinely assumed that myself, at first. I thought Insane was sending up antifeminists and my point about hate propaganda directed at feminism by jokingly providing a sample of the more ludicrous sort himself! Far out!

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RE: Feminism and Submission - 7/5/2012 1:41:09 PM   
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I'm assuming your post was ironic?



I genuinely assumed that myself, at first. I thought Insane was sending up antifeminists and my point about hate propaganda directed at feminism by jokingly providing a sample of the more ludicrous sort himself! Far out!



I must be extraordinarily cynical, I thought he was being serious in believing that stuff.

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RE: Feminism and Submission - 7/5/2012 1:44:27 PM   
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Perhaps I'm just being extraordinarily naive... Are there really people out there that are capable of reading on one hand, and yet capable of believing that shit on the other?

Fuck me, we're doomed.

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RE: Feminism and Submission - 7/5/2012 1:58:34 PM   
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I define 'feminism' on the basis of the accepted definition within the social sciences, in the way it's taught in schools and colleges...people are so frightened of the term that they'll use words like 'humanist' to describe themselves instead


This, I think, gets at the heart of the issue, Peon. You are defining feminism, and labeling people feminists, according to the Oxford Dictionary definition. The only problem with doing so is that we don't live in George Orwell's 1984, and we don't abide by some modern day Dictionary of Newspeak. We don't live in a world where a select group of individuals, hidden away in a government compound, gets to decide what a word like "feminism" means, and the rest of the world has to adhere to that pre-agreed upon definition upon pain of imprisonment. Language is constantly evolving and changing. No one super special person or group of people gets to decide what a word means. All of society, through their use of a word and the context in which they use said word, ultimately decides what a word means. Sure, according to the Oxford Dictionary, Dworkin may not be considered a feminist, but by proclaiming herself as such, and gathering the support of other self-proclaimed feminists, she is altering the meaning of the term. She is stretching the term "feminism" to include her ideology. That's how language works.

This, I think, should be obvious. I mean, have you read this entire thread? Everyone here seems to have a slightly different view of what being a feminist entails, based on their experiences with self-proclaimed feminists, based on their experiences with various feminist philosophies, and according to how they were raised. Clearly, the definition of feminism isn't as clear cut as your proclaim. If so, I doubt this thread would exist.

I don't use the term "humanist" to describe myself because I am a coward. I do so because the term is far less muddied, and much more likely to be perceived as I intend, then the word "feminist." And, really, aren't there more important issue out there to argue over then what the hell we call ourselves? I mean, seriously, at the end of the day doesn't what we believe in and fight for matter more?

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RE: Feminism and Submission - 7/5/2012 2:02:08 PM   
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We fought our own fight, and didn't have the energy for other people's...Many many things that go on in the world do not affect me directly, but they do affect me because I am a member of a greater society


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Obvious contradiction is obvious.

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RE: Feminism and Submission - 7/5/2012 2:07:43 PM   
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I don't use the term "humanist" to describe myself because I am a coward. I do so because the term is far less muddied, and much more likely to be perceived as I intend, then the word "feminist." And, really, aren't there more important issue out there to argue over then what the hell we call ourselves? I mean, seriously, at the end of the day doesn't what we believe in and fight for matter more?


Hey, I can understand and genuinely respect your choice of "humanist", but here's how I'll ask you to come back to the feminist label.

Humanism isn't subjected to the hate, the lies and the downright stupidity that Feminism is because it's not perceived as a threat. No-one with a vested interest in the status quo feels that humanism is likely to bring change.

If you let people drive you away from feminism, then that's one fewer reasonable, smart, articulate people who can be associated with it.

I would urge you, and smart people like you, to reclaim feminism - and take it out of the hands of the people who are deliberately trying to mischaracterise it.

It's amazing the lies these people tell... Take the article that InsaneSerenity pointed to... it contains the following claim...
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“In a patriarchal society, all heterosexual intercourse is rape because women, as a group, are not strong enough to give meaningful consent.” — Catherine MacKinnon


That's a lie. Plain and simple, it's a fucking lie. MacKinnon never said that. Nor did Dworkin (who is also 'credited' with the words). These people are just making shit up to discredit the feminist movement.

Which is ironic, because the movement has its share of whackjobs (just as pretty much any movement - including the Republican and Democratic parties has).

But you've got to ask yourself - Why would people make shit like that up about feminism... What would motivate someone to deliberately spread falsehoods about a social/political movement?

I don't claim to know for sure... but my bet is "Fear".

So... I'd urge you to get back onto the feminist bandwagon, reclaim it.

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RE: Feminism and Submission - 7/5/2012 2:49:16 PM   
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I define 'feminism' on the basis of the accepted definition within the social sciences, in the way it's taught in schools and colleges...people are so frightened of the term that they'll use words like 'humanist' to describe themselves instead


This, I think, gets at the heart of the issue, Peon. You are defining feminism, and labeling people feminists, according to the Oxford Dictionary definition. The only problem with doing so is that we don't live in George Orwell's 1984, and we don't abide by some modern day Dictionary of Newspeak. We don't live in a world where a select group of individuals, hidden away in a government compound, gets to decide what a word like "feminism" means, and the rest of the world has to adhere to that pre-agreed upon definition upon pain of imprisonment. Language is constantly evolving and changing. No one super special person or group of people gets to decide what a word means. All of society, through their use of a word and the context in which they use said word, ultimately decides what a word means. Sure, according to the Oxford Dictionary, Dworkin may not be considered a feminist, but by proclaiming herself as such, and gathering the support of other self-proclaimed feminists, she is altering the meaning of the term. She is stretching the term "feminism" to include her ideology. That's how language works.


I didn't define it according to the OED, HP, but according to that which is used within the social sciences. There's a big difference and this is implied by that word 'sciences'. We have to isolate words and define them clearly in sciences of any sort. This may be much more difficult in the social sciences than the pure sciences, but it's just as crucial that we make the attempt. Perhaps even more so.

So, how do we define political terms, then? Do we go solely by those who announce themselves as adherents of a given belief? If Dworkin, for instance, is to be taken as the authority on what 'feminism is', then should we also accept what Thatcher said conservatism is, or Bush - with his version of freedom as all of us surveilled, or even what Hitler, as a 'national socialist', thought 'socialism' is? *That* is a route towards the Orwellian newspeak that you talk about. In fact, one of the prime examples of Orwellian newspeak was that depicted by Napoleon the Pig in 'Animal Farm': tyranny by the pigs over the rest of the animals became 'freedom and equality' for those animals. And the majority of those other animals put up with that redefinition either because they agreed, or because they were too frightened to speak against it. Likewise Stalin (upon whom Napoleon was modelled) redefined socialism. We don't need to go with what a majority believes, still less the power that pumps the propaganda at that majority to get it to accept the definition that that power wants it to accept.

If language 'works' as propaganda, then it's working wrongly. I'll go with the scientists in preference to the majority opinion, or even those who consider themselves followers in a given 'ism' therefore authorities on it. Likewise, I'll go with a biologist on his definition of a term like 'heart' or 'lung' rather than some hypothetical majority, who've decided that what I've so far called 'hearts' are now to be called 'elbows'. There *is* a certain level of elitism in that, to be sure, but I do believe that it's the least of all evils when it comes to definitions such as these. The social science definition isn't, though, as you characterise it. It doesn't derive from some cloak and dagger bunch of government officials behind closed doors (in fact, the kind of hate-propaganda stuff I've talked often *does* get produced in exactly that way). The social science definition is open to interrogation publicly.

As a rider . . . I agree with Crazyml. You want to take 'humanist' in preference to 'feminist', that only sidesteps the problem temporarily. As soon as any given 'ism' becomes seen as a threat, it gets villified. Once, a 'socialist' was simply someone who believed in a social world rather than a world of disparate individuals. You couldn't have imagined a more innocuous term. Nowadays, it's difficult to imagine it being used without spitting at the same time.


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RE: Feminism and Submission - 7/5/2012 4:22:40 PM   
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I occasionally get hate mail due to the fact that my profile starts off with a quote from a feminist but I am a submissive.

I'd like to know what you sweethearts think.


I actually get hate mail because the word is out that I can fuck for 4 hours straight (but I take 3 - 15 minute breaks...it's rigor). Don't worry about it hon....it's all hate shit.

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RE: Feminism and Submission - 7/5/2012 4:58:09 PM   
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Hey, I can understand and genuinely respect your choice of "humanist", but here's how I'll ask you to come back to the feminist label.
Humanism isn't subjected to the hate, the lies and the downright stupidity that Feminism is because it's not perceived as a threat. No-one with a vested interest in the status quo feels that humanism is likely to bring change.
If you let people drive you away from feminism, then that's one fewer reasonable, smart, articulate people who can be associated with it.   


Thanks for this, CM and PFH; I couldn't quite figure out why it bothered me that some folks here said they would rather call themselves a 'humanist' rather than a 'feminist'. After all, humanists are to be applauded for their view point. But, I don't see where these two labels are (or have to be) mutually exclusive.
Unfortunately, the radical feminists have always been part of women's liberation movement. I remember one speaker in a meeting I attended say that all women should be lesbian in order to be a 'real' feminist. I asked 'but what if that doesn't float my boat'? Never did get an adequate answer to that!
As I said in my previous post, there are radical members of every group we can name; those who kill in the name of their god or religion, the people who believe the right to bear arms means they can shoot anyone they don't agree with, etc etc.
One can be a feminist and reject the 'lunatic fringe'. But no matter one's gender, one cannot be a humanist by rejecting half of the human race!
Yes, feminists are a threat to the status quo, that is why Aries83 says
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  Only problem is the same old problem, feminists
having a whine. anyone who isn't on their side is
apparently a traitor or stupid or a man who's afraid
of women...

Western society has it pretty good ladies, how
about you all move to africa or something if you
want to fight for womens rights, your Flogging a
dead horse here... I'd even settle for you to stay
and stop harrassing people for their life choices, it's
Really none of your concern.






When women say they want equal rights they are “whining” but when he says women in America have it 'good enough' it's 'logical'? We should move to some under developed country to appreciate our 'good enough' status regarding rights and equality? Gee, does anyone else hear the racist echo of whites telling blacks to move 'back to Africa'?? Yes, Aries83, I am calling you on your sexist attitude.
I am a feminist and a humanist.....but because I am a woman, I am a feminist first.
Edited to fix a typo (as it wasn't 'good enough' to leave in!

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RE: Feminism and Submission - 7/5/2012 5:59:53 PM   
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I stand by everything I said, interpret or twist
it as you like.

Along with Feminist and Humanist, Im also now
a Sexist and a Racist? Or am I racist against your
Sex?

Whatever the case may be, it's all ridiculous.

I edited this to remove a counterproductive
Although witty, Dig at Catize

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RE: Feminism and Submission - 7/5/2012 6:02:26 PM   
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Hm. +1 for Catize.

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RE: Feminism and Submission - 7/5/2012 6:05:10 PM   
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I didn't 'twist' anything, I quoted you directly.
Ah, yes, Sigmund, women have "hysterics" not valid points!   While men can rest assured that anyone who is "hysterical" needn't be listened to.................



No, I did not call you racist, I said you were sexist. I find it quite interesting that you 'stand by' your sexism, but take umbrage (a little hysterical?) at the thought I might have suggested you are racist.

I am not whining, nor am I hysterical.............I'ma bitch slappin' ya for your ill informed attitude!

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RE: Feminism and Submission - 7/5/2012 6:54:14 PM   
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And I wasn't quick enough in removing
It, just forget I said it, I stooped low in
a moment of annoyance saying that. So
now I will address a few things to try and
make it up.

quote ARIES:

  "Only problem is the same old problem, feminists
having a whine. anyone who isn't on their side is
apparently a traitor or stupid or a man who's afraid
of women..."

I was saying, Feminists who accuse people of being
A traitor to their cause,or to stupid to see their right,
or say a man that disagrees is only afraid of independant
women. Is all talk not worth listening to.
I am not saying that women who believe in fair treatment
are whiners.


Quote: ARIES
"Western society has it pretty good ladies, how
about you all move to africa or something if you
want to fight for womens rights, your Flogging a
dead horse here..."

This was ment to incite a bit of emotion but
I wasn't saying I am racist against feminists, and
they should move to another country, I was saying
There are places in the world where a strong Feminist
Movement is sorely needed, the Western world is
A haven in comparison to a lot of other places, where
womens rights are concerned.


In the context that women in the western world have so
Much freedom and rights and are still obsessing over whatever
tiny gap they see as still being there,
While women are stoned, burned to death, have their
Brests burnt with hot irons, in other countries, all out of
tradition... "I think they are ungrateful whiners."

I know its not so simple a topic bit its how I see it.

Catize, Me making a borderline inflammatory statement
Then saying the person who was offended is being
Hysterical or irrational was childish and I apologise.
What I said in this post tho, is what I was actualy saying
not what you read into it.

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RE: Feminism and Submission - 7/5/2012 6:58:46 PM   
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Apology accepted!  Shake hands and be friends??

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RE: Feminism and Submission - 7/5/2012 7:16:35 PM   
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RE: Feminism and Submission - 7/5/2012 7:29:07 PM   
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