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RE: Orgasm by command - 10/20/2012 1:22:59 PM   
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Status: offline 		The "OP show this to your dom" was from the piece I quoted from myself a year ago. Sorry if that wasn't clear, I should have put it in italics or something.

In referring to you, I would call you Janah, or (better yet) Grand and Sparkly One.

I only use OP if I can't remember the name and am feeling too lazy to scroll up and look. And yeah, I got that you were merely interested in the concept. It's my perception many doms are into this but are entirely clueless as to how to achieve it, thus my earlier quote.

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RE: Orgasm by command - 10/20/2012 1:24:08 PM   
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ORIGINAL: ChatteParfaitt

Actually, I think being able to orgasm on command without outside physical stimulus is about much more than:

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the sensation of her own vaginal walls pressing against each other,


Orgasm for me, as for most females, is far more emotional than it is physical. This is why it is much more satisfying for me to orgasm with my partner than to masturbate.


You hear a lot about dominants who want to "train" the submissive to come on command, really it is the dominant who is being trained. Getting a submissive to orgasm on command even with outside stimulus takes a great deal of patience and practice.

I think it take a very deep emotional bond, as well as a dominant capable of creating a Pavlovian response to the orgasm trigger word or phrase.

Once you are moving to orgasm w/o outside stimulus, first you have to realize some females will never be able to do this. Some dominants won't have the patience to get them there. I'm not sure I would liken it to hypnosis, but certainly a degree of suggestibility has to be involved in the same way that it is with hypnosis.

For those who don't believe this can and does happen, I will only refer you to the power of the human brain over the human body.




Smiles, yes, for those who have a trigger with the word hypnosis, try NLP. Its a wonderful thing, YMMV. I skipped going over details but CP provided quite a wonderful primer. In my experience (I stay at the TPE/ 24/7 side of the pool) it takes a bond between the two parties.

And thats all I have to say about that.


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RE: Orgasm by command - 10/20/2012 1:24:38 PM   
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very interesting considering these are some of the studies done on female orgasm -

About 75 percent of all women never reach orgasm from intercourse alone -- that is without the extra help of sex toys, hands or tongue. And 10 to 15 percent never climax under any circumstances.

http://abcnews.go.com/Health/ReproductiveHealth/sex-study-female-orgasm-eludes-majority-women/story?id=8485289

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Thirty percent of women have trouble reaching orgasm.
If you’ve ever had trouble climaxing, you’re not alone. According to Planned Parenthood statistics, as many as 1 in 3 women have trouble reaching orgasm when having sex. And as many as 80 percent of women have difficulty with orgasm from vaginal intercourse alone. Clitoral stimulation during intercourse can help, says Stern, but so can medical treatment. “Female sexual dysfunction (FSD), which encompasses the inability to orgasm, is very common—as high as 43 percent, according to some surveys—and has been a topic of much debate and medical investigation lately,” she says. “For some women, topical testosterone therapies or some oral medications can be helpful, but few medical treatments have solid evidence behind them.” Because FSD may be associated with certain medical conditions, be sure to see your doctor to rule out things like thyroid disease, depression or diabetes.

http://www.womansday.com/sex-relationships/sex-tips/10-surprising-facts-about-orgasms-111985

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According to several major surveys, only 25 percent of women always climax during sex with a partner. The rest of us either hit — or miss — depending on the night, or never experience a female orgasm during intercourse at all. Compared to the male version (more than 90 percent of men get their cookies off 100 percent of the time), the female "O"; is a fleeting phenomenon. The question is: Why? What the hell was Mother Nature thinking?

Read more at Women's Health: http://www.womenshealthmag.com/sex-and-relationships/anatomy-of-an-orgasm#ixzz29s9KozAu

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In Brewer’s survey, more than 25 percent of women routinely used vocalization to fake it. They did it about 90 percent of the time they realized they would not climax. About 80 percent faked using vocalizations about half the time they were unable to have an orgasm.

http://www.msnbc.msn.com/id/38006774/ns/health-sexual_health/t/sorry-guys-percent-women-admit-faking-it/


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RE: Orgasm by command - 10/20/2012 1:25:06 PM   
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To be honest I have always felt that the women who claim they can cum on command I have been skeptical. I figure either they are not sure what an orgasm is because they never had one before or it's a very very minor orgasm. There used to be women on another bdsm site that said they could cum just from a breeze. Yeah ok.



It's possible. It's a physical sensitivity thing. But just because a woman's orgasming doesn't mean she enjoys it necessarily.

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RE: Orgasm by command - 10/20/2012 1:27:06 PM   
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ORIGINAL: ChatteParfaitt

The "OP show this to your dom" was from the piece I quoted from myself a year ago. Sorry if that wasn't clear, I should have put it in italics or something.

In referring to you, I would call you Janah, or (better yet) Grand and Sparkly One.

I only use OP if I can't remember the name and am feeling too lazy to scroll up and look. And yeah, I got that you were merely interested in the concept. It's my perception many doms are into this but are entirely clueless as to how to achieve it, thus my earlier quote.



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RE: Orgasm by command - 10/20/2012 3:04:59 PM   
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So ... Ive heard it can be done. Ive read from numerous females that they can cum just by their owners commanding it by voice alone. Ive never heard of a male doing this = or even talked about.

I myself havent - and have never even come close to it.

So - hypothetically - say your owner is on a business trip and he/she calls you and tells you to sit, put both hands, palms down flat upon a table. And then tells you to cum. Could you do it? No stimulation - none.

How does that happen = anyone?
Can guys/girls cum w/o any stimulation?


Both are possible. In my experience it's much easier for women than for a man. Hypnosis is one way. It also helps if the person intended to have the orgasm is audio-inclined (responds well to sounds in general - of the four women I induced all were at one point or another music majors and trained singers/musicians).

You also have to allow for certain circumstances, like the movement of clothing (if you count that as stimulation then for a man it's extremely unlikely - after all, the penis is supposed to move and is likely to receive stimulation as a result. Still possible though.).


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RE: Orgasm by command - 10/20/2012 3:12:25 PM   
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ORIGINAL: littlewonder

To be honest I have always felt that the women who claim they can cum on command I have been skeptical. I figure either they are not sure what an orgasm is because they never had one before or it's a very very minor orgasm.


I've thought exactly the same thing. There was a woman here that once claimed to have 50 orgasms in an hour and my first thought was that she and I clearly have different definitions of what an orgasm is.


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RE: Orgasm by command - 10/20/2012 3:33:09 PM   
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Status: offline 		I think having 50 in an hour is pure BS, for sure! I think that myself, really ridiculous, and you could possible die from such pleasure.

I know what an orgasm is, believe me I do! lol. Each one I have had was worked on, not by just the giver but the reciever. I think in rare circumstances, there is just a connection in body, mind, spirit and heart that may allow for this phenominon (sp). Crazier things have happened.



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RE: Orgasm by command - 10/20/2012 3:55:41 PM   
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I can orgasm without physical stimulation. I've orgasmed from reading a mildly saucy text.
I can also orgasm from pretty much anywhere on my body. I can orgasm just from handling
a penis. Being forty-something is awesome.

Indeed it is! While I have never been tested in the "I command you to orgasm" scenario,
I have had orgasms without physical touch as well. I don't know how I'd handle the
pressure to perform though, if that makes any sense. Like myotherself mentioned,
it would be like shifting gears in the middle of the ride, and momentum has to build again.


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RE: Orgasm by command - 10/20/2012 4:41:10 PM   
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Status: offline 		Personally I've physically reacted to mental stimulus several times by chat based RP not to be confused with cybersex but more so self induced hypnosis into the inner workings of the imagination. The question is,. Is the mind powerful enough to induce an orgasm as response to a singular verbal command on demand!. Taking both positions on this they're stated below.

A Tasty dish of Yes: Such procedures of functional hypnosis have been studied and for all intensive purposes there are cases of induced sexual tensions that can cause an orgasm. The mind receives information and sends it back out in constant communication of the temple. A light version of this can be compared to being aroused by suggestive visuals such as Porn Orrr.. as simplistic as imagination used to physically self induce an orgasm such as masturbation,. If the mind is lead into a delusional state responding to " said command " to induce the non real stimulative culmination of pleasurable tactile sensation and thought,. then the response of the mind follows the orders as response causing said orgasm. This would leave me to believe that either the said individual might be in a state of a controlled substance or there fragin hallucinating,.... badly,. Stop taking grandma's happy meds!,.

Hypnotic Sessions from professionals have been used with some success to my knowledge to help the mentality part of sexual needs of males and females that have difficulty finding arousal and in many cases climax's.

A Tasty dish of No: First off the largest variable is that every female and male is different in mentality and in physicality. There are a high amount of factors to consider such as be it one is or isn't susceptible to hypnotic induction. While it is more then probable that hypnosis more then can potentially do it's part in creating a climax creating an event horizon orgasm on command?

Well,.. firstly said the orgasm would be very weak if anything as the human body needs time to acclimate resources for the induced response know as an orgasm. In this community that would be referred to as said session. For say if you had two hundred wood blocks and the purple one was the orgasm it's essentially how many blocks you can stack in given time before you top the stack off with the purple block creating said orgasm.. more then likely alot more time then a response of a verbal communication is needed to build what is reffered to as a climax,. Now on the flip note if there was someone already stacking blocks. Well then.. variable changes again..

Orgasm on demand? I'm giving this one a thumbs down, precum isn't and orgasm and anyone that can reach a climax within seconds of a response of audio stimulus from a position of non arousal might want to get a physical and some medical attention cause something isn't working right..


That's my ten bucks atleast on this topic.

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RE: Orgasm by command - 10/20/2012 6:12:38 PM   
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Here is an arcticle I found about male orgasms - & more or less - men can cum w/o ejaculating - but only under certain circumstances.


No it's also possible to learn to orgasm without ejaculating.

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RE: Orgasm by command - 10/20/2012 6:18:43 PM   
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So - hypothetically - say your owner is on a business trip and he/she calls you and tells you to sit, put both hands, palms down flat upon a table. And then tells you to cum. Could you do it? No stimulation - none.


I've yet to get a girl to reach that level of orgasm control, I so far have always needed to use a great deal more mental stimuli than that.

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RE: Orgasm by command - 10/20/2012 8:21:33 PM   
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Orgasmdenial12 -

very interesting considering these are some of the studies done on female orgasm -

About 75 percent of all women never reach orgasm from intercourse alone -- that is without the extra help of sex toys, hands or tongue.








I cant do it on command and never from sex alone. Without the extra's I get nothing out of it. I have heard some women say it is nice but I never orgasm. Hell it isn't even nice for me just waiting for him to get his rocks off so I can get back to what I was doing before.

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RE: Orgasm by command - 10/20/2012 9:07:27 PM   
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In an attempt to disprove that any woman could cum on command I inadvertently figured out how to do it!! It has nothin' to do with ~him~ ....he can tell me to orgasm on the phone, but I have to do the mental & physical work to make it happen.
I don't tell prospective dominants that I can anymore. It got to be quite tiresome cuz A) they take all the credit and B) it feels like I m their trained seal because they over-command........if that makes any sense!



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RE: Orgasm by command - 10/20/2012 9:13:35 PM   
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I don't tell prospective dominants that I can anymore. It got to be quite tiresome cuz A) they take all the credit and B) it feels like I m their trained seal because they over-command........if that makes any sense!





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RE: Orgasm by command - 10/20/2012 9:35:05 PM   
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RE: Orgasm by command - 10/20/2012 10:26:46 PM   
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but you still needed physical stimulation.

if by physical stimulation, you mean fingers, toes, penis or vibrator, nope!

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RE: Orgasm by command - 10/20/2012 10:28:32 PM   
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In an attempt to disprove that any woman could cum on command I inadvertently figured out how to do it!! It has nothin' to do with ~him~ ....he can tell me to orgasm on the phone, but I have to do the mental & physical work to make it happen.
I don't tell prospective dominants that I can anymore. It got to be quite tiresome cuz A) they take all the credit and B) it feels like I m their trained seal because they over-command........if that makes any sense!




Mental and Phsyical work,. that means time? such as rubbing one out,..... or do you spontaniously cumbust with saying a word like,... " Scorpion ",. This is about the idea of a single phrase causing spontanious orgasm,.. not suggestive induced verbal thought mind you. ^ - ^

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RE: Orgasm by command - 10/20/2012 10:38:39 PM   
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Mental and Phsyical work,. that means time? such as rubbing one out,..... or do you spontaniously cumbust with saying a word like,... " Scorpion ",. This is about the idea of a single phrase causing spontanious orgasm,.. not suggestive induced verbal thought mind you. ^ - ^   


LOL at 'spontaneously cumbust'----but no, the mental part is focusing on my center, just above the part of my body that starts an orgasm.  The physical part is clenching and relaxing my vaginal walls (think sexy Kegel(sp?) exercise!)
No words necessary, and lucky you that it ain't 'scorpion'!!!

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RE: Orgasm by command - 10/20/2012 10:50:59 PM   
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So - hypothetically - say your owner is on a business trip and he/she calls you and tells you to sit, put both hands, palms down flat upon a table. And then tells you to cum. Could you do it? No stimulation - none.

How does that happen = anyone?
Can guys/girls cum w/o any stimulation?


yes, no stimulation

how? hell, I dont question how... it just does.. and Im thankful

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