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RE: Orgasm by command - 10/24/2012 10:54:10 PM

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without reading all the responses i personally dont see it happening without some sort of stimulation.. but thats just me .....

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RE: Orgasm by command - 10/25/2012 4:58:26 AM

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I can't but then I'm not into learning how to do it so its unlikely I ever will. On occasion I can have a full body orgasm and when I have tried to talk about that I just get faced with a wall of disbelief. I think some women can cum without stimulation and on demand but I don't believe its many and unfortunately for those women, they will continue to be disbelieved by the majority.
I also think a lot of men genuinely believe that their woman is cumming on demand when she's actually not!. He wants her to be able to do it, she wants to please him because she's submissive and 'bingo' its suddenly an achievable act. His ego shoots through the roof, she's happy that he is happy and nobody comes to any harm.

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RE: Orgasm by command - 10/25/2012 6:39:27 AM

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I also have different kinds or even classifications of orgasms. A full body orgasm takes lots of outside stimulation, as well as edging a few times. Mine can last several minutes.

The times I have had an orgasm on command w/o outside stimulation (and it was an orgasm, like Nueva, I know what one feels like), there is no buildup and thus very little let down, if that makes sense. It's far more of an emotional orgasm than a physical one, though I do have the internal contractions and lubrication of a true physical climax. They've never lasted very long, either.

That's been my personal experience, YMMV and all.

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RE: Orgasm by command - 10/25/2012 7:46:31 AM

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I can't but then I'm not into learning how to do it so its unlikely I ever will. On occasion I can have a full body orgasm and when I have tried to talk about that I just get faced with a wall of disbelief. I think some women can cum without stimulation and on demand but I don't believe its many and unfortunately for those women, they will continue to be disbelieved by the majority.
I also think a lot of men genuinely believe that their woman is cumming on demand when she's actually not!. He wants her to be able to do it, she wants to please him because she's submissive and 'bingo' its suddenly an achievable act. His ego shoots through the roof, she's happy that he is happy and nobody comes to any harm.

i also have had full body orgasms. they do take lots of stimulation though, and as ChatteParfaitt said also edging. these can actually be painful in my stomach depending on what position i'm in too.

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RE: Orgasm by command - 10/25/2012 8:39:44 AM

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I'm really pleased to hear that you ChatteParfaitt and you needles, have experienced this, though I'm sorry to hear you end up with stomach pains needles.
If you mean 'edging' as in being brought to the edge of orgasm, I have never done that but we are all different. I have observed that I can only full body orgasm when I am feeling explicitly happy, totally de-stressed as well as healthy and fit. Even then it can build up over a period of days, weeks or even months. I sit on the edge of a fbo for some time before the big bang!!

Back to topic. Like ChatteParfaitt has mentioned, we have different classifications of orgasm. They say that 10-15% of women will never experience an orgasm.
Up to 40% of women will only have one orgasm during sex/sexual stimulation and that orgasm will come prematurely.

Scientists have now discovered that the clitoral orgasm affects a different part of the brain than the vaginal orgasm.
This link is interesting and points to a vaginal orgasm not necessarily needing direct physical stimuli http://www.popsci.com/science/article/2012-04/qampa-phenomenon-exercise-induced-orgasms.
Its only recently that the size of a woman's G-spot was discovered and how that size can vary enormously from one woman to another (just like a mans cock).
Female orgasms and women enjoying sex has been debated heavily for hundreds of years. We still have a lot of headway to make and I for one will remain open minded.

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RE: Orgasm by command - 10/27/2012 11:13:46 AM

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How come there have been no guys on here that have said they cum on demand? WHERE ARE THE MENZ?????

I've had two partners (out of many) who I was able to condition to cum at My whim. The first was accidental. The second a successful experiment of Pavlovian conditioning. Many failed attempts.

I think much depends on the person, their susceptibility to conditioning, and their triggers or if they are auditory inclined.

Both instances required a very, very long time frame of conditioning and at least one physical prompt as well as an auditory one. With the first it was a specific tone of voice in addition to my running My hand done his back. The second it was the same specific tone of voice and tickling My fingers along the back of his neck.

It's not exactly what you are speaking of as I didn't just say, "cum for me, now!" Although I could say that with a certain tone as I added the physical cue and we could be standing in the middle of the shoe store and viola. Usually with an evil look directed My way, a quick untucking of a shirt, followed by, "fuck, I hate you." Haha.

I have no experience with women in this.

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RE: Orgasm by command - 10/27/2012 10:26:56 PM

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I think the premise of this conversation is flawed.

" No stimulation - none. "

That is, strictly speaking, not true if one considers the Dominants voice as a stimulant. Or ones own desires. Or circumstances being just right. This is all stimulation.

Three girls I've trained to orgasm on command.

1) She could cum f she was watching a movie with Nicholas Cage. Or if I spoke in a sexy voice (I didn't have to mimic Nick Cage.) Or if a cat meowed at her. Or if the sun rose in the East that morning. So I guess this doesn't really count. Hell, you could probably send her a text message and she'd cum for you. It was like shooting fish in a barrel (trickier than it sounds, but still bloody easy.)

2) Very submissive. It took some practice, but she eventually could manage it. I totally screwed up that relationship - worst mistake of my life and I've made some doozies.

3) Could never cum by intercourse alone. Couldn't cum at all until I was done and then she would manually stimulate herself. Even then she couldn't unless I told her to. I went completely the wrong way in training her*.

So what are my conclusions?

Possible? Yes.
Common? No.
Don't Try This at Home? Fuck yes. It can be awesome, but the risks outweigh the rewards.

*In my defense: I was new to WIITWD and listened to all the wrong people. Also I was drunk. Also I was depressed. Also I was <insert kitchen sink of excuses here>! Alright, I have no-one to blame but myself. At least I learn from my mistakes.

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RE: Orgasm by command - 10/28/2012 12:39:57 PM

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I have a few subs that will cum for me when and where ever i want them to along with my slave. I know for the subs the stimulation merely comes from the fact that i am giving them attention. I have to do nothing except command them to cum. Now it does not work 100% of the time and that is when some good old fashioned punishment comes in. ;) As for my sweet slave, she begs for me to command her to cum and she will not unless i say. In that same effect she can not unless i allow. That being said I personally can not cum unless supreme satisfaction has occurred to those under my will. I don't know if you want to call that on command but it happens very soon after there said satisfaction.

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RE: Orgasm by command - 10/28/2012 1:36:26 PM

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In my experience a lot of "cum by command" is kinda iffy, if you get punished for not doing iy, you will end,up faking it.

Also, some women cum easily, some can barely do it with a Hitachi set on stun. Getting a woman wgo cums eaily to orgasm without any foreplay can ne done but it far more to do with her than him.

Getting a woman on the edges of orgasm to cum on demand is pretty much pavlovian....

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RE: Orgasm by command - 10/28/2012 1:37:35 PM

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I have to do nothing except command them to cum.
Now it does not work 100% of the time and that is when some good old fashioned punishment comes in.
That being said I personally can not cum unless supreme satisfaction has occurred to those under my will.

Really? You would punish your sub for not being able to cum on command 100% of the time?
Nothing like adding performance anxiety to something you define as supreme satisfaction.

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RE: Orgasm by command - 10/28/2012 2:05:01 PM

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I have to do nothing except command them to cum.
Now it does not work 100% of the time and that is when some good old fashioned punishment comes in.
That being said I personally can not cum unless supreme satisfaction has occurred to those under my will.

Really? You would punish your sub for not being able to cum on command 100% of the time?
Nothing like adding performance anxiety to something you define as supreme satisfaction.

I got the feeling from his "winky face" he was talking about "funishment". Otherwise, as Michael mentioned, I see incentive to fake it.

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RE: Orgasm by command - 10/28/2012 3:02:45 PM

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if you get punished for not doing iy, you will end,up faking it.

I would expect fear of punishment to get in the way of a woman being able to orgasm.

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RE: Orgasm by command - 10/28/2012 4:13:29 PM

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It does happen but to me it is more of a braingasm. Quite hot how he can get my body to react just by his word to cum

It has never happened with another I feel it is how deep our connection is.

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RE: Orgasm by command - 10/28/2012 5:52:31 PM

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You see - I dont take guys - especially Male Doms or Masters word for what they think they can get women to do - as Ive stated before, its too easy for women to fake it. And the guys would NEVER KNOW. NEVER.

as I posted before -
In Brewer’s survey, more than 25 percent of women routinely used vocalization to fake it. They did it about 90 percent of the time they realized they would not climax. About 80 percent faked using vocalizations about half the time they were unable to have an orgasm.

Now with that said, I totally believe the women on here that say that they CAN do it - because they are the ones that actually experience it.

I also believe the women that say theyve seen the guys do it - (and actually are in the same room and see it with their own eyes) because if a guy has his hands on the table and he just cums with no touch - its kinda hard not to see what just happened.

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RE: Orgasm by command - 10/28/2012 6:13:33 PM

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only had it happen to me once after He had been away at sea along time and it was mind blowing that it could happen. but them it has never happened again to me.

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RE: Orgasm by command - 10/28/2012 6:13:41 PM

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You see - I dont take guys - especially Male Doms or Masters word for what they think they can get women to do - as Ive stated before, its too easy for women to fake it. And the guys would NEVER KNOW. NEVER.

as I posted before -
In Brewer’s survey, more than 25 percent of women routinely used vocalization to fake it. They did it about 90 percent of the time they realized they would not climax. About 80 percent faked using vocalizations about half the time they were unable to have an orgasm.

Now with that said, I totally believe the women on here that say that they CAN do it - because they are the ones that actually experience it.

I also believe the women that say theyve seen the guys do it - (and actually are in the same room and see it with their own eyes) because if a guy has his hands on the table and he just cums with no touch - its kinda hard not to see what just happened.

Sooo, what would you do is sayyyyyyyy Steven said "Yes, I can make my sub cum on command"
Then "Steven's Girl" comes in and says that Steven can make her cum on command.

You wouldn't believe him but you would her?

(I'm being a fucking smartass cause the weekend is almost over

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RE: Orgasm by command - 10/28/2012 6:16:18 PM

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I dont believe anything that Steven says .... everyone knows hes full of shit .... Im just kidding btw -

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RE: Orgasm by command - 10/28/2012 6:33:51 PM

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Janah, I just looked at your tagline.

Shouldn't "Something GRAND AND SPARKLY" maybe changed to "Something grand and sNarkly"

I might have someting for Aplha to look at there.

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RE: Orgasm by command - 10/28/2012 6:35:30 PM

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talk to 21 shes the one who picked it out. Fuck - isnt there a football game on? I need to go.

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RE: Orgasm by command - 10/28/2012 6:38:11 PM

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Have fun and be well.

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