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RE: Pro dommes or findommes or whatever - 11/5/2012 11:22:54 AM

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oh. ok.

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RE: Pro dommes or findommes or whatever - 11/5/2012 11:53:08 AM

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You do not have a profile, and your not giving good advice!

Your upset at the people here for what??

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RE: Pro dommes or findommes or whatever - 11/5/2012 8:19:56 PM

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Irony, for the win.

Ha!! That was right on time.

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RE: Pro dommes or findommes or whatever - 11/6/2012 5:09:32 AM

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Subs/slaves should understand that for women who aren't even in this bdsm lifestyle get turned on by gifts and money. Its literally in majority of our DNA.

Speak for yourself cupcake. Gifts and money mean squat to me unless there is actually love behind them, and then it is the actual LOVE, not the gifts that mean something.

Women like you give findom a bad name.

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RE: Pro dommes or findommes or whatever - 11/6/2012 6:59:42 AM

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Hi belgiansubmale/ George.

Pleased to meet you here mate

My ex was my Domme/Top I bought her stuff because it pleased me to please her. She wasn't pro she was just mine for 13 years here's a breakdown on prices of stuff bought (all in sterling)

Basques x 5 or 6 80 quid a pop
Corset 200 quid a throw
Shoes x numerous 50 quid a pair
Stockings numerous 10 quid a pair
Knickers numerous 10 quid a pair
A saddle 200 quid
Crops Paddles etc probably totalling 400 quid
Handcuffs 50 quid a pair
Dresses probably a couple of grand over the years
Pearl necklace over a grand for that one

Now my point is it pleased ME to see her like that so I gets to help pay for it.

Oh I forgot various pairs of combat pants as she filled them beautifully.

So that's why Dommes go pro. This shit costs serious money. Factor in BDSM furniture & premises &there you have it

So here we are in the middle of a recession & cash is tight for Subbies & Dommes alike so get out your toolbox & barter your SKILLS for hers. You will get takers in the pro community.
Remember bartered skills don't go on the books so aren't taxable. Self employed people like this.

Hope that helps George.

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ORIGINAL: belgiansubmale

Sigh.... i thought lifestyle was not about money....

Sooo, if a devoted sub of a NON-pro Domme wants to pay for his mistress' new refrigerator, or new set of tires for her car, in your eyes should that then make her ineligible to be on this site? Life COSTS money, and whether you are going to a pro, serving as slave to a non-pro, or are lucky enough to find a GF who is a Dominant, money will USUALLY enter into the lifestyle in one way or another.

One of my friends made a comment that has stayed with me. She said that male subs want female dominants to look a certain way. "Corsets, thigh high boots, long nails, lingerie, great hair and make up...now go look at how much some of that stuff costs."

If you want someone to have a specific appearance, you shouldn't complain when you're asked to support that appearance.

I too find MOST of the fin-dommes to be irritating, though I outright laugh at some of their pages. OCCASIONALLY I run across one who actually has Her act together and is doing it in a more "respectable" way (instead of being a screeching troll begging for money, She's calmly providing a place for those with the fetish to indulge)

For those of you who want to find a non-Pro Domme but don't want to "pay", don't forget to factor in all the costs of just a "meetup" with you (A 3-hour round trip to meet a subbie last month cost over $60 in gas), taking a day off from work, perhaps getting hair and nails done (oh, and let's not forget daycare/babysitter if She's a mother). And for many such as Myself, it costs $100/month for phone/internet to keep in touch with subs daily, etc. All the little things add up too.

I think some subbies are too accustomed to Mom paying for everything and since "Domme" rhymes with "Mom" they get confused.

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RE: Pro dommes or findommes or whatever - 11/6/2012 9:56:59 AM

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ORIGINAL: MAINEiacMISTRESS "Domme" rhymes with "Mom".

Not if you happen to speak proper English.

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RE: Pro dommes or findommes or whatever - 11/6/2012 10:01:45 AM

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If you pronounce it 'dom-A' I promise there will be torture involved.

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RE: Pro dommes or findommes or whatever - 11/6/2012 10:17:03 AM

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And that's why professionals such as myself pronounce it Dominatrix (rhymes with Trixie Belden Amateur Sleuth.......in a very loose way), and avoids the virtual kerfluffle altogether.

And it just sounds hawt, that way.

Don't make me give up another fishing hole here kids, I will not be amused.

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RE: Pro dommes or findommes or whatever - 11/6/2012 2:00:43 PM

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So that there's no room for doubt, I shall henceforth use the term 'Dommeykins'. That suit you, LP?

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RE: Pro dommes or findommes or whatever - 11/6/2012 2:08:50 PM

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And that's why professionals such as myself pronounce it Dominatrix

Do you pronounce that 'DOM-inatrix' or 'domin-EH-trix'? Must admit, I prefer the first. The latter sounds a bit awkward on my ears.

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RE: Pro dommes or findommes or whatever - 11/6/2012 2:14:00 PM

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The strong way, as you do. I'm like LP in that way. Call me Ron(ne) .... Ron-NE will get you an asswhippin.

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RE: Pro dommes or findommes or whatever - 11/6/2012 2:15:06 PM

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Good. I approve.

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RE: Pro dommes or findommes or whatever - 11/6/2012 2:21:36 PM

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ORIGINAL: LadyPact

If you pronounce it 'dom-A' I promise there will be torture involved.

He's begging for it.

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RE: Pro dommes or findommes or whatever - 11/6/2012 2:38:27 PM

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ORIGINAL: coldslayer

The way she worded it may be turning you off, but most relationships in general are to be mutually symbiotic... otherwise they dont work.Some of us just tend to be receptive to different forms of support... And we're obviously not looking for just love lol

Actually, I'd question if most of these FinDommes things qualify as a relationship. From what I can see from reading blogs is that the male sub sends a gift/tribute, doesn't get what he wanted or expected, then starts looking for someone new while the FinDomme" berates all submissives as being fake/losers/wannabes.

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RE: Pro dommes or findommes or whatever - 11/6/2012 3:01:06 PM

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ORIGINAL: MAINEiacMISTRESS "Domme" rhymes with "Mom".

Not if you happen to speak proper English.

*facepalm* Obviously you need help before someone strangles the sass out of you, so here it is:
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Dominatrix
There is even an audio link so you can hear the word Domme/Dom pronounced (as it states, the e on the feminine form of a word is silent, same as with femme and blonde).

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RE: Pro dommes or findommes or whatever - 11/6/2012 3:48:36 PM

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So that there's no room for doubt, I shall henceforth use the term 'Dommeykins'. That suit you, LP?

Suits Me just fine. It's just that, in My version, you're saying it while tied to a chair as I'm pulling your hair to yank your head back far enough for you to realize it wasn't such a good idea.

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RE: Pro dommes or findommes or whatever - 11/6/2012 3:55:27 PM

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So that there's no room for doubt, I shall henceforth use the term 'Dommeykins'. That suit you, LP?

Suits Me just fine. It's just that, in My version, you're saying it while tied to a chair as I'm pulling your hair to yank your head back far enough for you to realize it wasn't such a good idea.

Okay....that was a hot image.....

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RE: Pro dommes or findommes or whatever - 11/6/2012 5:06:40 PM

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Actually, I'd question if most of these FinDommes things qualify as a relationship. From what I can see from reading blogs is that the male sub sends a gift/tribute, doesn't get what he wanted or expected, then starts looking for someone new while the FinDomme" berates all submissives as being fake/losers/wannabes.

For the real FinDommes out there, these relationships do qualify as relationships. Not all of us are screeching, berating, scamming bitches. The ones that won't speak to you unless you've paid a tribute or the ones that flat-out ignore you after being paid or the ones that demand, demand, demand are the ones that are problematic. I don't take on every sub that comes my way and I turn many away on a regular basis for all sorts of reasons.

Financial Domination is an incredibly intense fetish and there are a lot of girls (I say girls because none of the women that I've come across are just outright greedy snobs.) jumping in to capitalize on it.

Lots of us enjoy more than just the financial aspect to financial domination. I personally enjoy humiliation, but I also enjoy so much more. Then again, I enjoy real-time for more than just shopping sprees with their credit cards so maybe I'm just not typical. I hate being grouped together with women that do nothing but whine and cry and expect their bills to be paid and for money and gifts to fall from the sky.

I also have a real-time relationship with a long-term, live-in slave that has nothing to do with money. For some of us there is definitely more than meets the eye.

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RE: Pro dommes or findommes or whatever - 11/6/2012 5:18:05 PM

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Financial Domination is an incredibly intense fetish and there are a lot of girls (I say girls because none of the women that I've come across are just outright greedy snobs.) jumping in to capitalize on it.

That was exactly my point. The ones who aren't really dominant but are in it for the money tend not to have relationships because they don't give a crap if the submissive is happy and the submissive ends up leaving.

Unfortunately, there's a whole lot more of them than there are like you.

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RE: Pro dommes or findommes or whatever - 11/6/2012 10:59:42 PM

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Yea but even if there is a difference between us and them, some people will always feel that we are leeches. Not that I give a rat's ass but still.

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