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RE: Some advice for a young slave? - 11/5/2012 11:59:32 AM   
artemiss


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Status: offline 		Ohhh good lord, I didn't read far enough.

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RE: Some advice for a young slave? - 11/5/2012 12:07:59 PM   
sexyred1


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ORIGINAL: Babyslave90

Now I'm just scared I'm not going to be able to find another young good looking Dom that wants me. It seems like they are hard to find for me.


Oh for god's sake, get a grip. That is just ridiculous. And if not, so? Your life is not going to end because another good looking young Dom doesn't ride up on his horse immediately.

Why don't you try being introspective about who you are and what your priorities are. If they are indeed, young and good looking and no other criteria, then I would say walk into any bar; young and good looking are just waiting for girls like you.

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RE: Some advice for a young slave? - 11/5/2012 1:00:15 PM   
Babyslave90


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Status: offline 		Lol I was trying to make a joke about the situation. U don't have to be mean.... I need a real Dom not a little boy playing at it is all I'm saying.

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RE: Some advice for a young slave? - 11/5/2012 1:20:10 PM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: Babyslave90

Lol I was trying to make a joke about the situation. U don't have to be mean.... I need a real Dom not a little boy playing at it is all I'm saying.

If that is true, you might want to make "Young, good looking" less of a priority and go more for "Gentleman who isnt abusive and doesn't have his head up his ass".

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RE: Some advice for a young slave? - 11/5/2012 1:26:06 PM   
Babyslave90


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Status: offline 		Damn I want both lol. Doesn't have to be super young but can't be able to be like my dad.

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RE: Some advice for a young slave? - 11/5/2012 1:28:01 PM   
absolutchocolat


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Status: offline 		based on what you've told us, you wouldn't be able to tell the difference between the "real" Doms and the "fake" ones at this point.

my advice will mirror everyone else's: go to a munch, get an experienced submissive to mentor you, read up on bsdm, and figure out your limits before looking for a partner. that way, you'll have something to bring to the table other than a body to be used and abused.

< Message edited by absolutchocolat -- 11/5/2012 1:30:53 PM >

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RE: Some advice for a young slave? - 11/5/2012 1:30:57 PM   
Babyslave90


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Status: offline 		And for everyone's information I haven't even read fifty shades of grey. I am not a product of that book. I've been sub since I was 18 so for 5 years but I only had 1 master before.

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RE: Some advice for a young slave? - 11/5/2012 1:55:04 PM   
theRose4U


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Status: offline 		Honestly experienced, wise, patient beyond normal dominant, with a dash of masochist is what you really need & yeah he might look like your dad, but I'm suspecting it will take that level of experience & a tow truck to pull your head out of your own ass!! Kana or steven, either of you feel like a project in patience??

23 claiming 5 years of kink & 1 "master" (assuming you mean douche domly) means you are dangerous to yourself & others!! I literally had nightmares last night thinking about the unsuspecting swinger couples you directly inflicted this nightmare on. This kind of ugly can't be fixed with make up & a new dress that makes your father cry! Education, purpose, direction & PERSONAL responsibility are the way to a life worth living. It may mean being on your own with only a mentor for a while. This could be a turning point to you having a life your parents are proud of instead of a slut willing to direct her entire future on "but he's hot"

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RE: Some advice for a young slave? - 11/5/2012 2:08:23 PM   
ChatteParfaitt


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Status: offline 		Sweetie, you really, really, need to get counseling. Like, make an appointment today. If you don't have insurance, Houston must have some social service programs. Your local church may offer something.

I'm not telling you this to be mean, but to be helpful. You shouldn't be in any relationship unless and until you can tell an abuser from a good dominant, and you need to take the time to learn WHY you wish to play the victim role, and why you like it so much.

If you don't, you WILL end up a victim of more than a few facial bruises. You do know that many abusers end up hospitalizing their victims, right? You do understand that some of these men kill the women they supposedly love as well, right?

This is the path you WILL travel if you don't get help. This is your choice. If you continue to think you can't live w/o a man, you will continue to choose the wrong man.

How do I know all this? Been there, done that. I was married to an emotionally abusive man for over 20 years. But, he was my "master" so I took what he had to dish out. BTW: That the abuse was emotional instead of physical did not make it any less damaging.

Don't make the mistakes I did and lose years of your life.

Please. Get some help today.



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RE: Some advice for a young slave? - 11/5/2012 3:26:40 PM   
kiwisub12


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Status: offline 		OP - if you are looking for a fast hookup, go to the other side and fill out the search criteria for Houston. I'm fairly sure that you can find any number of domly types to float your boat.

BUT - you also need to take responsibility for yourself. Join a group, go to munches and playparties and find out a bit about what you enjoy. Specifically, how to keep yourself safe.
There are lots of ways to be physically damaged by what we do - and some of it isn't obvious - the first dom i played with put cuffs on me, and i hung on them. Didn't know better, and gave myself some nerve damage - specifically, made my thumb go numb for several months. And my dom was cross that i didn't tell him that i was having an issue. I didn't realise that i should have told him. I was trying to be a good sub and not complain...... needless to say, i didn't make that mistake again.

My point is, if you learn some of this stuff before you dive into a relationship, you will be way better off at protecting yourself from doms that are less than knowledgable.

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