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LadyPact -> RE: Banned fetishes (11/28/2012 2:44:02 PM)

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ORIGINAL: MariaB

If being a financial Domme is a kink then why aren't men doing it too? I don't believe for a second that its a kink. Its business through and through. I don't think there is anything wrong with that sort of business so long as its legit and its not just some thieving criminal using peoples vulnerabilities for their own gain.

As for animals being dumb one has to look at comparative behavior in factory farming and roaming animals. Factory farmed animals often suffer from retardation and brain damage.

We've had more than a few males come through stating they were financial Doms. They do usually get laughed at here.




mnottertail -> RE: Banned fetishes (11/28/2012 2:44:45 PM)

Except for me, you owe me a fuckin quarter for my time now, LP.



DesFIP -> RE: Banned fetishes (11/28/2012 2:53:13 PM)

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ORIGINAL: MariaB

I'm talking about men online having profiles demanding money from women for 'online domination. Point me to one of those and I will laugh hysterically [:D]



Why do you restrict this to heterosexual interactions? The majority of pro doms I know of service the gay market. There are some who are primarily fin doms.

Oh, and chickens are evil. Dumb and evil.



kalikshama -> RE: Banned fetishes (11/28/2012 3:09:28 PM)

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I'm talking about men online having profiles demanding money from women for 'online domination. Point me to one of those and I will laugh hysterically


I've seen men in Intros who are Fin Doms. Hilarity ensues.



kalikshama -> RE: Banned fetishes (11/28/2012 3:12:18 PM)

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Also, everyone seems to be locked on the "pay me a tribute to talk to me" version of this, but financial domination can also be the Dominant controlling the finances as part of the dynamic.


Yes, I've been in one such relationship. It was hot at first but has since turned into a Hard Limit.



LookieNoNookie -> RE: Banned fetishes (11/28/2012 3:28:18 PM)


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ORIGINAL: SimplyMichael

There are a number of fetishes banned by tbe TOS here. Shouldnt Fin Domme be added to the list?


Yes.



LookieNoNookie -> RE: Banned fetishes (11/28/2012 3:30:13 PM)

If I didn't express myself clearly....YES!!!!!

(Yes).

Allow me to be more clear....YES!

(Yes).



OsideGirl -> RE: Banned fetishes (11/28/2012 3:43:59 PM)


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ORIGINAL: kalikshama

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Also, everyone seems to be locked on the "pay me a tribute to talk to me" version of this, but financial domination can also be the Dominant controlling the finances as part of the dynamic.


Yes, I've been in one such relationship. It was hot at first but has since turned into a Hard Limit.


We're married and own property together, so it's kind of a moot point with us, but he does control the finances in our household.



littlewonder -> RE: Banned fetishes (11/28/2012 5:42:28 PM)


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ORIGINAL: Kana


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ORIGINAL: littlewonder

The financial Doms I've come across usually are exactly like the findommes. I also know financial tops. The femsubs pay them to play with them. I have no idea how much business they receive though.


Don't tell em what I charge you-it'll skew my rates for ages


ppssttt....you available for a session on Friday?? Will you take a check? [:D]



RemoteUser -> RE: Banned fetishes (11/28/2012 5:50:36 PM)

*makes a mental note to send littlewonder that jar of invisible ink*



thishereboi -> RE: Banned fetishes (11/28/2012 7:09:37 PM)

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ORIGINAL: FrostedFlake

The part that is objectionable is the ADVERTISEMENTS (I'm great, you don't even suck, fork over the dough!) that SOME shameless gold diggers feel PERFECTLY JUSTIFIED in pasting where I will trip over it.

If someone wants a findom, he can find one VERY EASILY. Everyone else is being abused by those who post such ads. I would like to see such ADVERTISEMENTS (I'm great, you don't even suck, fork over the dough!) BANNED by TOS. Because it is TROLLING. If someone thinks otherwise I pose this : What gives you the right to directly insult me AND almost everyone else? I mean, on FOX you would have to PAY to do that. Why should you get to advertise your business here for free?

UNREASONABLE? There is a page for these ADS. This should solve that.

http://www.collarchat.com/forumid_40/tt.htm


while I agree that profiles that have crap like "I want your money you worthless piggies" are most likely lazy golddiggers but I would hardly call it abuse. Unless of course someone is holding a gun to your head and making you read them. I also would not call it trolling unless they were posting in the forums. I see the teen princess profiles all the time and it takes me about 5 secs to see them for what they are. Then I laugh a bit at the idea that anyone would be dumb enough to send them money and move on. I am not sure why it seems to be such a problem for some to simply ignore them.



littlewonder -> RE: Banned fetishes (11/28/2012 7:35:18 PM)

I'm sure it's the same people who complain about anything they don't like anywhere instead of just shaking their head and walking away.



CynthiaWVirginia -> RE: Banned fetishes (11/29/2012 3:03:54 PM)

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ORIGINAL: SimplyMichael

There are a number of fetishes banned by tbe TOS here. Shouldnt Fin Domme be added to the list?


SimplyMichael, I would like to have married but cheating banned by the TOS, as well as the johns who flood the mailboxes of women here with offers of $300 or more if we put cigs out on their nuts or put safety pins through their foreskins or (name that kink).

I doubt adding more TOS bans would change anything other than...causing a need for at least ten times more mod volunteers here at CM just to handle the work load from all the reporting/complaints.

Maybe I'm wrong, but wouldn't most guys here prefer that the fin Dommes be open about stating who they are instead of pulling out a GOTCHA later on? If I were a guy, I'd just do a search under financial domination and block one financial Domme after the next, whatever it takes to make one's search easier. Of course that would require reading profiles first, lol, and very few guys here (men in the message boards might be an exception) bother to do that.

Forcing them to get more subtle about their transactions would make this site LOOK LIKE there are less fin Dommes and customers here, but it would still be happening. (TOS still bans K9 and other forms of beastiality but mods still have to chase down offenders and delete their profiles again and again and again.)

I haven't even read all of the TOS (fell to sleep half way through) to know what CM's policy is on fin Dommes.

Lots of people come here for quick sexual hookups with no strings attached while others are here for some hot kinky wankage through cybering. I don't care if these people bump elbows with me while I'm here using this site, though I'll admit that some annoy me from time to time. If some guy wants to pay to be humiliated or consensually "blackmailed" or to pay some chick with a whip to tie him up and spank his butt...I don't care about that either. I'm not their morals' police.

Back to my point on subtlety. This site looks nicer because dick pix are not allowed as primary pix...I appreciate that TOS states somewhere that these need to be secondary pix. (When my adult son comes to me when I am at the computer...he thanks whoever wrote that into the TOS, lol. This is one of the reasons why I am HERE at CM instead of at Bondage.com or Alt.com.) If appearance is what you are concerned about...maybe CM can do something. IMHO, no TOS ruling on this would cause a mass exodus of fin Dommes, nor of guys seeking these ladies/fantasies (nor even the marrieds but cheating, drat!).

My kink cannot decide what others' kinks should or should not be, as long as it's between two consenting adults and won't get this site closed down.




theRose4U -> RE: Banned fetishes (11/29/2012 5:05:45 PM)

I do think a marital status of married but cheating being added would be helpful. Would at least give them the opportunity to be honest instead of choosing poly (after having to google it)



kalikshama -> RE: Banned fetishes (11/29/2012 7:12:25 PM)

Another vote for the married but cheating ban.



Aswad -> RE: Banned fetishes (11/29/2012 8:38:00 PM)

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ORIGINAL: kalikshama

Another vote for the married but cheating ban.


Why ban it?

We're not parties to their marriage(s).

Just add an option to make a note of it, so those of us who- like me- don't want that hassle can steer clear.

IWYW,
— Aswad.



RemoteUser -> RE: Banned fetishes (11/29/2012 11:44:10 PM)

According to recent polls, it seems I should be banned.

Interesting.



MariaB -> RE: Banned fetishes (11/30/2012 12:57:44 AM)

I humbly eat my words as far as male financial dominants. I still however, believe its a a one sided kink.



absolutchocolat -> RE: Banned fetishes (11/30/2012 1:21:25 AM)

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ORIGINAL: Aswad

quote:

ORIGINAL: kalikshama

Another vote for the married but cheating ban.


Why ban it?

We're not parties to their marriage(s).

Just add an option to make a note of it, so those of us who- like me- don't want that hassle can steer clear.

IWYW,
— Aswad.



i second this. i like the idea of including search options instead of bans. married people are entitled to getting their jollies like the rest of us, despite some of our moral objections against cheating.



MissImmortalPain -> RE: Banned fetishes (11/30/2012 3:34:14 AM)

I have to admit I have been gone for awhile(again) but no matter how long I am ever gone this topic is always here when I come back. Different threads mind you but the same topic. I also have to admit that I find it very assuming that people take so much issue with the idea of a man actually wanting to give a woman money to do things like ....talk to him, insult him, tell him she wouldn't let him touch her with someone else's cock much less his own, or what he should do with his extra pennies. And bitching about it on a free web site at that equals a lot of laughs. It amazes me to no end that people want so badly to improve the time they spend on the net but take very little note of what is going on in the real world. Trust me when I say there are bigger badder things living right next door to us than the princesses, the scammers, and the gold diggers that show up on this site.

Personally, if I got a vote I would be willing to admit that I don't think anything should be banned and yes that means everything from fin doms to married and cheating (immoral or not that too is a kink for some people) I would rather everyone just be upfront and honest about what they are doing. It would save a lot of time when it comes to narrowing people down.



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