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ORIGINAL: SimplyMichael
Because we have BOLD, that assinine event created by.the Monachs. We have leather title holders without a shred of integrity. Hell I know major leaders who run scenes in major metro areas who xant keep their noses out of the bag, others who play shitfaced but nobody says anthing for fear of retribution.

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ORIGINAL: SimplyMichael
How many of you do kink education or work on projects that reach a wide audience.

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Sadly, it has lost its way and become no better than porn, a sad and tawdry refection of the lowest common denomonator. It celebrates young women and photos utterly divorced from deep connection and inner exploration and growth.

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ORIGINAL: mnottertail

We're poor little kinksters who have lost our way;
Baaaaaaaaah, Baaaaaaaaaaaaahhhhh, Baaaaaaaaahhhhhhhhhh.

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ORIGINAL: SimplyMichael

There was a point in time where BDSM could have become a Westen version of Tantra and brought improvements to relationships, communication, consent, and personal freedom.

Sadly, it has lost its way and become no better than porn, a sad and tawdry refection of the lowest common denominator. It celebrates young women and photos utterly divorced from deep connection and inner exploration and growth.

...And vanillas could never figure out how to bring "improvements to relationships, communication, consent, and personal freedom" on their own without our help.

(Too bad we dropped the ball on our huge responsibility to save the world from itself.)

Seriously now, SimplyMichael, people are who they are. Spiritual vanillas would be spiritual if their kinky side woke up and they discovered BDSM (I'm one of them). The abusive ones in vanilla are often abusive if they wander into BDSM. Personally, I don't know anything about Tantra or a Western version of it, but I reap the benefits (improvements to relationships, communication, consent, and personal freedom) anyway.

Online BDSM, as reflected by the many who come to sites like these for fantasy fulfillment and spicier porn...I don't see where any of them have anything to do with us other than sharing the same sites. It's sad, but the lowest common denominator is often...what leaves the biggest reflection. Still, this doesn't make ME or my relationship with my slave any LESS. We are still going to MAsT and to munches, and we are willing to explain how our relationship works to vanillas when they ask...to educate them and help them understand the difference between BDSM porn fantasies...and that my male lifemate is my wife type, a "honey do", that our relationship is not about abuse.

Personally, I think the best way of enlightening people and clearing away some of the porn spawned misinformation, other than being out there and willing to talk one on one, is to...write fictional books and get them made into movies. Show people what is possible, and they might see it as a viable alternative to what they are already doing.

Back to the online thing. If someone wanted an online community to be a shining example of whatever point you wish to make, it would have to be severely moderated to gag the ones who are disruptive influences. Severely limiting who can participate would...disallow giving some people a chance to grow beyond their programming.

As for the young women in photos... bo's sister was dating someone from CollarMe, a "male sub" from out of state. (Both are in their sixties if not older.) This past week the man let her know that he has decided to start seeing a Domme who is closer to where he lives...who also happens to be in her low twenties. A 22 or 23 year old with a picture here at CollarMe. (She is probably a findomme, but if this is what he is seeking then it's his choice and I wish him luck with it.)

People will come to CollarMe to seek out what they are really looking for...and sometimes they are not into D/s or Master/slave but just want kink with people they have no intention of forming a power exchange relationship with. I know this site is supposed to be primarily about D/s, but how in the world do you screen out people who make "us" look tawdry? (It's not fair if they screen out all the findommes and pro-Dommes and then leave up all the profiles of obnoxious males. I can report "tawdry" dick pix all I want to, but closeups of an impaled anus are allowed; so are married cheaters and the guys who treat every woman like she's a hooker.)

This site...is not a MAsT meeting.

"...deep connection and inner exploration and growth" is something that doesn't happen with everybody. If it's their destiny, yes, but in the meantime a lot of people just want to have fun and explore different options in life, among them...their sexuality, in whatever form they choose, within some limits. It's not my job to lead the whole world in a better direction; I own my slave and myself and whatever else is in my household and that is all.

I'm not lost.

Btw, I'd hardly call porn "celebrating" young women. Being easily disposed of meat with no value other than temporarily being of use, is not something I would want a daughter of mine to experience. I've known women in the porn industry, as well as hookers and exotic dancers, and believe me, I have yet to meet a woman involved in one of these who feels celebrated. (Used, yes; degraded, hell yes, but hey...it pays their rent.)

My slave had two or three female dominants contact him in the past four weeks, each leaving only a sentence fragment in his mailbox. He already made his choice over what he was here for...the online fantasy/entertainment or for finding someone like me, so...their contacting him had nothing to do with our dynamic. Neither do the guys who don't bother to read my profile and offer me $300 to put out cigarettes on their scrotum.

Years ago, I shared street corners with other women...however, we were there for different reasons; I was waiting for my bus ride home and they were "working girls", and yes, sometimes guys drove by in cars and were hopeful and confused one with the other. Should I have been so concerned about being confused with the other women...that I stopped using public transportaion...? A simple, "No thanks, I'm just here waiting for my bus" worked well for me back then, and a simple "No thanks, I'm not interested" works well for me here.

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ORIGINAL: SimplyMichael

There was a point in time where BDSM could have become a Westen version of Tantra and brought improvements to relationships, communication, consent, and personal freedom.

Sadly, it has lost its way and become no better than porn, a sad and tawdry refection of the lowest common denomonator. It celebrates young women and photos utterly divorced from deep connection and inner exploration and growth.

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ORIGINAL: SimplyMichael
watch,kink.com start giving more cock sucking classes with aging,porn stars

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ORIGINAL: kiwisub12

Is true - you can be the gold nugget at the core of crap. The bit of truth in all legends. The white knight on the white horse with the white hat.

actually , i feel sorry for people who look at the internet and think that is all there is to what we do. What a shame.

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ORIGINAL: SimplyMichael

Yep, hopeless idealist here, guilty as charged.