RE: How to find a Mistress

Collarspace Discussion Forums

Home Login Search

RE: How to find a Mistress

View related threads: (in this forum | in all forums)

Logged in as: Guest

All Forums >> [Community Discussions] >> Ask a Mistress >> RE: How to find a Mistress

Page: << < prev 1 [2] 3 4 5 next > >>

Login

Message

<< Older Topic Newer Topic >>

RE: How to find a Mistress - 2/10/2013 10:55:28 AM

Rochsub2009

Posts: 2536
Status: offline

quote:

ORIGINAL: EsotericLady

It seems just a tad out-of-place to me that a person WHO HAS NO PROFILE AT ALL should be instructing someone on how they should be writing and presenting their own??

quote:

ORIGINAL: peppermint

I agree with what Baroana wrote. Also research the threads that tell you how to make a good profile. How many munches have you attended in the past few months? Also, how many events do you normally attend? Many people find their partners in real life rather than online.

When I read your profile I couldn't tell if you want a LTR or just a once in awhile one. You did say you want someone who doesn't ask for money. Does that mean she buys all the toys or are you willing to help purchase toys and the costumes you might expect her to wear? What activities do you do for fun? Movies? Hiking? Tennis? How will a Domme know if you and she are compatible if she has no idea if you and she have something besides BDSM common?

I don't have a profile either (well I do, but it's always kept hidden). But that shouldn't prevent me from offering my opinion on someone else's profile, should it?

_____________________________

"The thing about smart mother fuckers is that sometimes, they sound like crazy mother fuckers to stupid mother fuckers".
-Robert Kirkman, The Walking Dead

(in reply to EsotericLady)

Post #: 21

RE: How to find a Mistress - 2/10/2013 11:15:40 AM

LadyPact

Posts: 32566
Status: offline

Another vote for getting out and meeting people in the community. I didn't look at your profile, OP, but if a number of people are saying it's not great, a written medium may not be your best bet.

Also, I'd drop that photo with a chick in the background that is sort of cut out. A lot of women say they aren't fond of that type of shot.

On the profile thing, a lot of women hide their profiles when already in a relationship to cut down on unwanted mail.

(Speaking of which, I hope G is doing well.)

_____________________________

The crowned Diva of Destruction. ~ ExT

Beach Ball Sized Lady Nuts. ~ TWD

Happily dating a new submissive. It's official. I've named him engie.

Please do not send me email here. Unless I know you, I will delete the email unread

(in reply to Rochsub2009)

Post #: 22

RE: How to find a Mistress - 2/10/2013 3:21:54 PM

poise

Posts: 9509
Joined: 7/3/2010
Status: offline

quote:

ORIGINAL: EsotericLady
It seems just a tad out-of-place to me that a person WHO HAS NO PROFILE AT ALL should be instructing someone on how they should be writing and presenting their own??

Perhaps it would be more appropriate if someone such as yourself, WHO HAS HAD MANY PROFILES HERE,
were to offer up some profile critique instead?

_____________________________

When the path ignites a soul, there’s no remaining in place.

(in reply to EsotericLady)

Post #: 23

RE: How to find a Mistress - 2/10/2013 4:02:39 PM

Level

Posts: 25145
Joined: 3/3/2006
Status: offline

quote:

ORIGINAL: poise

quote:

ORIGINAL: EsotericLady
It seems just a tad out-of-place to me that a person WHO HAS NO PROFILE AT ALL should be instructing someone on how they should be writing and presenting their own??

Perhaps it would be more appropriate if someone such as yourself, WHO HAS HAD MANY PROFILES HERE,
were to offer up some profile critique instead?

_____________________________

Fake the heat and scratch the itch
Skinned up knees and salty lips
Let go it's harder holding on
One more trip and I'll be gone

~~ Stone Temple Pilots

(in reply to poise)

Post #: 24

RE: How to find a Mistress - 2/10/2013 4:08:14 PM

Level

Posts: 25145
Joined: 3/3/2006
Status: offline

quote:

ORIGINAL: EsotericLady

You are putting words in my mouth that were NOT there! I SAID it seemed a tad out-of-place.
I never said I have authority over ANYTHING on these boards.
If you find my posts offensive, I would not at all be hurt if you put them on ignore. : )

You're going to be talking to yourself, before long.

_____________________________

Fake the heat and scratch the itch
Skinned up knees and salty lips
Let go it's harder holding on
One more trip and I'll be gone

~~ Stone Temple Pilots

(in reply to EsotericLady)

Post #: 25

RE: How to find a Mistress - 2/10/2013 4:11:19 PM

lizi

Posts: 4673
Joined: 2/1/2009
Status: offline

quote:

ORIGINAL: LadyPact

Another vote for getting out and meeting people in the community. I didn't look at your profile, OP, but if a number of people are saying it's not great, a written medium may not be your best bet.

Also, I'd drop that photo with a chick in the background that is sort of cut out. A lot of women say they aren't fond of that type of shot.

On the profile thing, a lot of women hide their profiles when already in a relationship to cut down on unwanted mail.

(Speaking of which, I hope G is doing well.)

And some of us who aren't looking for anything in particular at the moment but still like joining in on the forums have hidden profiles as well as those who are taken. It has nothing to do with whether I have up a visible profile or not if I can recognize what a good profile is composed of. The OP is asking for help finding a Mistress, his best online tool is his profile and it could use some work. He certainly should consider real life events and meetings for a way to expand his search.

quote:

ORIGINAL: EsotericLady
It seems just a tad out-of-place to me that a person WHO HAS NO PROFILE AT ALL should be instructing someone on how they should be writing and presenting their own??

I concur that you should offer a suggestion yourself since I remember as well that it seems that you've had a lot of practice writing profiles. Wouldn't that be helpful instead of criticizing others that were answering the OP? You were always big on being helpful in your other incarnations, how about now?

(in reply to LadyPact)

Post #: 26

RE: How to find a Mistress - 2/10/2013 6:11:42 PM

HarryVanWinkle

Posts: 1720
Joined: 5/8/2006
Status: offline

@jayc255

I heartily second what DarkSteven said below. You live in the Miami area. There is a large, real-time BDSM community there, probably even a chapter of ClubFEM, although I don't know that for sure. But there are munches and other events where people meet other people, face to face. Find it. Join it. Make friends and maybe find the person you're looking for.

I advise you to drop the word "true" from your BDSM vocabulary. It's a loaded word with a bad history of misuse in the BDSM community and tends to set people off, as you might have noticed here. Also, you might reconsider your prejudice against women who do professional BDSM. There are many of them within the community who do it professionally because they LOVE BDSM and, hell, why not get paid for it. Some of my best friends and former playmates have done it professionally. That doesn't mean I paid them. When they played with me, they got to do what they wanted. When they were working, the clients were in charge.

quote:

ORIGINAL: DarkSteven

Okay. jayc255, no offense intended, but you're not at your best describing yourself in writing. Your profile says "I want a Domme", which doesn't say anything about YOU. All you say about yourself is that you're submissive and own a business. Two pics, and one is your cock.

Bluntly, you'd do a helluva lot better to just go to munches and parties and meet people there.

(in reply to DarkSteven)

Post #: 27

RE: How to find a Mistress - 2/10/2013 8:28:23 PM

MissAsylum

Posts: 1863
Joined: 1/9/2009
Status: offline

You're not important enough to put on ignore.

And I did no such thing about putting words in your mouth. You said it was out of place for a person WHO HAS NO PROFILE AT ALL to be giving advice on one.

So yes, you did give yourself the authority to determine who can and cannot contribute to the conversation.

G'day to ya.

quote:

ORIGINAL: EsotericLady

You are putting words in my mouth that were NOT there! I SAID it seemed a tad out-of-place.
I never said I have authority over ANYTHING on these boards.
If you find my posts offensive, I would not at all be hurt if you put them on ignore. : )

_____________________________

I hate when I'm wearing my apple bottom jeans, but i can't find my boots with the fur.

(in reply to EsotericLady)

Post #: 28

RE: How to find a Mistress - 2/11/2013 1:31:51 AM

Unsuper

Posts: 12
Joined: 5/7/2012
Status: offline

Make money and pretend you're into having it taken from you.

(in reply to MissAsylum)

Post #: 29

RE: How to find a Mistress - 2/11/2013 5:24:49 AM

DarkSteven

Posts: 28072
Joined: 5/2/2008
Status: offline

quote:

ORIGINAL: LadyPact

Also, I'd drop that photo with a chick in the background that is sort of cut out. A lot of women say they aren't fond of that type of shot.

OP, if you do take LadyPact's suggestion, that does NOT mean that you replace it with your other pic! Cock shots don't go over big.

_____________________________

"You women....

The small-breasted ones want larger breasts. The large-breasted ones want smaller ones. The straight-haired ones curl their hair, and the curly-haired ones straighten theirs...

Quit fretting. We men love you."

(in reply to LadyPact)

Post #: 30

RE: How to find a Mistress - 2/11/2013 7:32:25 AM

EsotericLady

Posts: 713
Joined: 1/2/2013
Status: offline

Roch? YOu can do whatever you wish. I really don't care. : )

quote:

ORIGINAL: Rochsub2009

quote:

ORIGINAL: EsotericLady

It seems just a tad out-of-place to me that a person WHO HAS NO PROFILE AT ALL should be instructing someone on how they should be writing and presenting their own??

quote:

ORIGINAL: peppermint

I agree with what Baroana wrote. Also research the threads that tell you how to make a good profile. How many munches have you attended in the past few months? Also, how many events do you normally attend? Many people find their partners in real life rather than online.

When I read your profile I couldn't tell if you want a LTR or just a once in awhile one. You did say you want someone who doesn't ask for money. Does that mean she buys all the toys or are you willing to help purchase toys and the costumes you might expect her to wear? What activities do you do for fun? Movies? Hiking? Tennis? How will a Domme know if you and she are compatible if she has no idea if you and she have something besides BDSM common?

I don't have a profile either (well I do, but it's always kept hidden). But that shouldn't prevent me from offering my opinion on someone else's profile, should it?

(in reply to Rochsub2009)

Post #: 31

RE: How to find a Mistress - 2/11/2013 7:34:21 AM

EsotericLady

Posts: 713
Joined: 1/2/2013
Status: offline

Who has had many profiles here? SAY WHAT????????? LMAO

quote:

ORIGINAL: poise

quote:

ORIGINAL: EsotericLady
It seems just a tad out-of-place to me that a person WHO HAS NO PROFILE AT ALL should be instructing someone on how they should be writing and presenting their own??

Perhaps it would be more appropriate if someone such as yourself, WHO HAS HAD MANY PROFILES HERE,
were to offer up some profile critique instead?

(in reply to poise)

Post #: 32

RE: How to find a Mistress - 2/11/2013 7:40:14 AM

EsotericLady

Posts: 713
Joined: 1/2/2013
Status: offline

*I've* had a lot of practice writing profiles? Well I guess so, if rewriting mine a few times since I've been here constitutes that.

As for offering suggestions to people on their profiles? I rarely do. I figure it's really someone's own business what they put in theirs.

So I guess I'm a sock or something now? LMAO

quote:

ORIGINAL: lizi

quote:

ORIGINAL: EsotericLady
It seems just a tad out-of-place to me that a person WHO HAS NO PROFILE AT ALL should be instructing someone on how they should be writing and presenting their own??

I concur that you should offer a suggestion yourself since I remember as well that it seems that you've had a lot of practice writing profiles. Wouldn't that be helpful instead of criticizing others that were answering the OP? You were always big on being helpful in your other incarnations, how about now?

(in reply to lizi)

Post #: 33

RE: How to find a Mistress - 2/11/2013 7:42:04 AM

EsotericLady

Posts: 713
Joined: 1/2/2013
Status: offline

YOU may think of me whatever you like. I am just fine with whatever you decide. :)

quote:

ORIGINAL: MissAsylum

You're not important enough to put on ignore.

And I did no such thing about putting words in your mouth. You said it was out of place for a person WHO HAS NO PROFILE AT ALL to be giving advice on one.

So yes, you did give yourself the authority to determine who can and cannot contribute to the conversation.

G'day to ya.

quote:

ORIGINAL: EsotericLady

You are putting words in my mouth that were NOT there! I SAID it seemed a tad out-of-place.
I never said I have authority over ANYTHING on these boards.
If you find my posts offensive, I would not at all be hurt if you put them on ignore. : )

(in reply to MissAsylum)

Post #: 34

RE: How to find a Mistress - 2/11/2013 7:49:32 AM

EsotericLady

Posts: 713
Joined: 1/2/2013
Status: offline

Interesting how many people are telling the OP what he can and can't have in his profile....
Who he is and who he is not....

Pot calling the kettle black...hmmm

(in reply to msjustlooking)

Post #: 35

RE: How to find a Mistress - 2/11/2013 7:58:37 AM

jayc255

Posts: 14
Joined: 6/19/2012
Status: offline

This has been a waste of time.I tried and found out that most of the people on here have no life all they talk about who has a profile who why they use caps and sadly who can respond to any post.Then they fight with each other.I would never respond to another mans post under any condition and I must say I find that to be in good taste interesting.i wish i could delete my post but i seems I can not.My final word and I promise my final word it appears the ladies on here who think that because there is another lady in the background in my pick is a terrible thing should know that there have been other ladies in my life and there will be in the future.I do not give a fuck if that offends you.This appears to mostly offend the ugly ones . lol Jay

(in reply to EsotericLady)

Post #: 36

RE: How to find a Mistress - 2/11/2013 8:02:03 AM

Hillwilliam

Posts: 19394
Joined: 8/27/2008
Status: offline

.

Attachment (1)

_____________________________

Kinkier than a cheap garden hose.

Whoever said "Religion is the opiate of the masses" never heard Right Wing talk radio.

Don't blame me, I voted for Gary Johnson.

(in reply to jayc255)

Post #: 37

RE: How to find a Mistress - 2/11/2013 8:07:32 AM

MissBlueangel

Posts: 147
Joined: 6/28/2012
Status: offline

Im sure thats been put up a few times...but Im kind of new...I havnt seen it
May I snort and snigger please

_____________________________

Its only when you make me suffer that I feel safe and secure.
Pauline Reage
Given the choice between the experience of pain and nothing, I would chose pain
The Wild Palms by William Faulkner

(in reply to Hillwilliam)

Post #: 38

RE: How to find a Mistress - 2/11/2013 8:14:00 AM

msjustlooking

Posts: 28
Joined: 12/10/2011
Status: offline

BINGO!

LOL I had forgotten how much fun this place is.

(in reply to Hillwilliam)

Post #: 39

RE: How to find a Mistress - 2/11/2013 8:14:53 AM

Hillwilliam

Posts: 19394
Joined: 8/27/2008
Status: offline

quote:

ORIGINAL: MissBlueangel

Im sure thats been put up a few times...but Im kind of new...I havnt seen it
May I snort and snigger please

You can not only snort and snigger, you can steal it if you want.

_____________________________

Kinkier than a cheap garden hose.

Whoever said "Religion is the opiate of the masses" never heard Right Wing talk radio.

Don't blame me, I voted for Gary Johnson.

(in reply to MissBlueangel)

Post #: 40

Page: << < prev 1 [2] 3 4 5 next > >>

All Forums >> [Community Discussions] >> Ask a Mistress >> RE: How to find a Mistress

Page: << < prev 1 [2] 3 4 5 next > >>

Jump to:

New Messages	No New Messages
Hot Topic w/ New Messages	Hot Topic w/o New Messages
Locked w/ New Messages	Locked w/o New Messages

Post New Thread

Reply to Message

Post New Poll

Submit Vote

Delete My Own Post

Delete My Own Thread

Rate Posts

Collarchat.com © 2025

Terms of Service

0.109