Zonie63
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Something that I have been wondering recently. In a lot of threads here, it is said that there are a lot more men than women, whether Dom, Sub, or Switch. For the last couple of hours I have been wondering why that is - and under what terms that hypothesis stands. I am yet to venture out into real life, I am still an online warrior until I graduate, so apologies if this is a really obvious question that has been answered many times.
Does it mean that there are many more men than women online - or on Collarme specifically - and that in real life there tends to be a more even spread? From what I can tell of the regulars on Collarchat there seems to be a more even spread than the correlation between gender and private messages would suggest. So are men just more desperate then, more willing to send message after message? Generalising massively, it could seem that quite a few of the female regular posters are in committed LTRs, so is the difference just that men are more likely to be single? Having said that, quite a few of the male posters here seem to be in LTRs as well, so is that men are more likely to look outside of their existing relationships and therefore form a bigger group than women? Or is it just that quite simply there are more men into BDSM than women?
Even before the internet, I used to notice that in the Personals section of the local weekly here, there were almost always more ads from males than from females. I've also noticed this on most online personals sites as well.
However, when this topic came up before, I also looked at the Alexa data on some of the religious-based personals sites, and it seems that there is a female-majority among users on those sites.
I'm not sure what that means, whether women are more devoutly religious than men or if there's some other possible explanation.
I would agree with JeffBC that it's implausible that there would be that many more single men than women out there. Since women slightly outnumber men in the general population, it stands to reason that there are probably more single women than single men overall. This is especially true in the upper age brackets, since women live longer, the female-to-male ratio becomes even more pronounced.
Someone else mentioned that it's easier for women to find someone for a quick lay, since all they have to do is go down to their local bar. Of course, the same option exists for men, although it would depend on the male-to-female ratio in any given bar or club (which can vary widely).
I was also thinking of another possibility. I've often heard it said that men are more visual, so it may be easier for a man to get revved up on the internet just from visual stimuli (such as pictures on a dating site). But something I just heard the other morning on the radio was that more than 60% of women are willing to kiss a guy on the first date if he smells good. While it seems like a somewhat trivial point, it did make me wonder about what it actually means. However, it made me think that you can't transmit smells over the internet, so just looking at computer screen with a picture on it may not carry any "zing," not as much as other stimuli that one gets from meeting in person.
Perhaps sounds might also be a certain stimulus, since women seem more inclined to want to talk on the phone as opposed to chatting over the internet. You can't really hear the inflections in one's voice, the emotions, etc. in a text-based communication, but over the phone or in person is different.
That may be part of it, in that women might still be looking, but looking at other factors which may not be immediately discernible over the internet. So the internet might be seen as a waste of time for the purpose of finding a match, since one can't get the information one needs to make a decision about a potential partner. Arranging an actual meeting might take time, while it might be easier to just go to a social gathering where one can see and meet people right off the bat without the barriers of communication which exist over the internet.
With men, all they have to do is see a picture on the internet, think "Whoa! She's HOT!!" and the decision is already made in their mind. Men are able to find what they're looking for on the internet. It doesn't mean they're going to get it or be able to keep it, but they can find it.
Women seem to be looking along different parameters, and the internet seems insufficient for being able to gauge all of those parameters.
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