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RE: Why are there so many more men? (not a moan!) - 3/31/2013 7:14:52 PM   
pompeii


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ORIGINAL: JeffBC
Your theory only holds water if by "seeking the opposite gender" you meant "... for some NSA sex".


This is a good point. I agree. The math is skewed greatly in the woman's favor if she is seeking NSA sex, and greatly against the man if he is seeking NSA sex.

Are you therefore implying that, if we simply take people seeking a LTR, that the math is more like 1:1?

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ORIGINAL: JeffBC
You also make it sound like finding appropriate partners is easy for women.


I think your point that it depends on what they seek which makes it easier or harder for people (whether they be men or women).

If we assume the vast majority of women seek a relationship - then we must ask the question of what the vast majority of men are seeking.
If that also is a relationship, then the resulting 1-to-1 math would not match the observation by the OP that men "appear" to outnumber women in the collarme messages.

What we're trying to find out is a rational explanation for the observed phenomenon.


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RE: Why are there so many more men? (not a moan!) - 3/31/2013 8:22:36 PM   
Blankpain


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Pompeii made a good point about pressing forward;


I'm not interested in men, and certainly not in men who are not at least a few inches above six feet tall, but many have "pressed forward" with me, and only the very persistent even get to be friends of me.

So, in a way, I feel sorry for the shorter guys who give up too soon without trying a few hundred times.

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RE: Why are there so many more men? (not a moan!) - 3/31/2013 9:15:19 PM   
Ptesticlees


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ORIGINAL: pompeii
the result being that their recipients (women, we will assume) will get a LOT of collarme mail from these men who are competing for that particular female.


I am looking for casual sex with men and I get more collarme mail from men looking for casual sex from me than I know what to do with.

So, I don't see what the problem is with all these women. Life is great!

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RE: Why are there so many more men? (not a moan!) - 4/1/2013 1:26:17 AM   
absolutchocolat


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Status: offline 		Men seem to cast a wider net than women. No matter what I put in my profile, I will always get messages from unicorn hunters, wankers, assholes, Dominants, and those outside of my state and country when it says clearly that I won't relocate. I guess some guys just send out thousands of impersonal form letters to see who bites.

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RE: Why are there so many more men? (not a moan!) - 4/1/2013 1:34:24 AM   
Floridaa


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RE: Why are there so many more men? (not a moan!) - 4/1/2013 8:34:26 AM   
Snitch


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ORIGINAL: absolutchocolat

Men seem to cast a wider net than women. No matter what I put in my profile, I will always get messages from unicorn hunters, wankers, assholes, Dominants, and those outside of my state and country when it says clearly that I won't relocate. I guess some guys just send out thousands of impersonal form letters to see who bites.


I had absolutely no pictures or words in my profile, and I still got reams of collarme mail from around the world.

Then I added these words, but still no picture:
quote:

I'm not seeking anything but discourse on the forums.


That slowed the deluge down to a trickle of about a dozen collarme mails a day.

When I put a picture up, the trickle increased, so, in desperation, I simply put the block filter in place for all mails, period.

Now I don't see anything in my collarme mail! :)

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RE: Why are there so many more men? (not a moan!) - 4/1/2013 12:44:25 PM   
Zonie63


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ORIGINAL: Level

I'll meet you both round back.

Pompeii made a good point about pressing forward; I didn't do that once, I had strong feelings about the woman, and my failure to pursue at the right time cost me.


I've been there myself. It's hard to gauge sometimes, as there have been times I pursued more than I should have (sometimes too much pursuit may not be a good thing), and other times where I should have pursued more but didn't.

Sometimes, "no means no" and sometimes it doesn't. It's not always that easy to tell the difference.


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RE: Why are there so many more men? (not a moan!) - 4/1/2013 6:39:51 PM   
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RE: Why are there so many more men? (not a moan!) - 4/1/2013 6:50:31 PM   
OsideGirl


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quote:

ORIGINAL: absolutchocolat

Men seem to cast a wider net than women. No matter what I put in my profile, I will always get messages from unicorn hunters, wankers, assholes, Dominants, and those outside of my state and country when it says clearly that I won't relocate. I guess some guys just send out thousands of impersonal form letters to see who bites.


I actually consider that rude and arrogant. They're basically saying that whatever the woman wants doesn't matter and that they're so speshul and sparkly that they've determined that they're the exception.


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