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LadyPact -> RE: Financial Domination / What are your thoughts & Why ? (7/27/2013 2:50:50 PM)
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ORIGINAL: dink22
Findom most definitely is prostitution, and it is funny to me to watch those involved in this practice squirm, scream and otherwise live in denial that they are prostitutes.
I'm going to reiterate that I'm not a findomme. Very specifically because the last time we did this, you tried to project that I was.
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Look, I think prostitution should be legalized. I'm not judging those who engage in findom, but I don't consider it true, SEXUAL domination. One person is willing to pay for it, one person wants the money. There is no mutual spiritual connection at any level.
This might be a part of the problem. I think there is an assumption on your part that a spiritual connection must be present for sexual Dominance to exist. I can assure you that is not the case. I didn't have a spiritual connection to the last person I had on all fours taking the dear, ol' Doc Johnson up the ass. It wasn't a spiritual thing, nor was it a financial thing. It was a power and control thing that I did because, like many other Dominants, ummmmmm....... I like the power and control.
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There's a quote and I can't remember who said it but it's about 100 years old. "Whenever a person is about to do a thoroughly despicable thing, they always dream up the noblest of reasons for doing so." So it is with findomme. The ones who do it like to pretend that somehow it's legit and NOT about the money. They have their defense mechanisms all prepared because they don't want to deal with the guilt, don't want to deal with the reality of what they're doing. They are prostitutes, plain and simple. If the money wasn't there, they wouldn't be either.
Can I ask you a serious question? Why does this effect you? Why does anything other people engage in, if not in the same community play space that you occupy, effect you? To use a parallel example, if I go and stick forty needles in somebody tonight, even if that's not you kink, please tell Me why that should matter to you one iota? I'm not sticking those needles in you. For all I know, that might be a hard limit of yours. You may hate the very idea that I'm going to do it and the other person wants it done to them. If the needle play wasn't on the table and the play partner was a bondage bunny instead, I'd opt out because, frankly, I've got very little interest in rope and it being a scene that I want to engage in includes those dang forty needles.
Let's go a bit further. Needles are an expendable item. In other words, somebody has to pay for them for each and every scene. Who should buy those needles? Should I assume the cost every time because I'm the top? Does it become financial Domination if the bottom steps up and brings a box? How about if the bottom gives Me the money to order them because I like ordering supplies from Kinky Medical, where I can get the gauge that I want in the color hubs that I want? And, even if you think the cost should be entirely Mine because I am the top, please explain to Me how in the world this effects you?
If those needles (remember, these are the needles that you don't want to engage in because it isn't your kink) are the thing that turns Me on to the point where I *want* to get out the ol' Doc Johnson, is it no longer sexual Dominance because the bottom that I'm playing with is willing to do things that you, as a person, are not willing to do? Let's say (and, I totally get that this is a leap of faith because I have *NO* idea if you like anal play or not) that you have some desire to be the guy receiving the strap on, but you weren't willing to be needle guy, so that's why he's getting done and you're not. The only reason that I can come up with, when it comes to the strap on play that he's getting and you are not, is jealousy. He's got what he's got because he's willing to do stuff that you aren't and that makes you unhappy.
There's not a thing that I said above that couldn't be transposed to the reference of needles in exchange for the reference to cash. You're not willing to pay. Cool. Some people are. Because they are, they reap the benefits that are directly related to that. You're not willing to be needle guy. Cool. Some people are, and they reap the benefits that are directly related to that. Both are based on your choices and really, don't honestly concern you when other people are willing to do what you are not. No matter either scenario, for the life of Me, I can't figure out any reasonable consideration as to why this should effect you.
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