AAkasha
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why not look at pictures of them or look at ones on TV or movies? Then you do not risk making them feel uncomfortable, and you get your pleasure as well.
This is a very good question. One that I hadn't overtly considered, but, thinking about it, I'm not sure if it's the same thing.
Porn is of "some" interest. Not much. But it's nice to see various techniques. I learn from seeing different ways to please someone, for example. And, I learn new terms, new positions, new ways of doing things.
But, porn is, after all, a two-dimensional medium. Hardly filled with tastes and warmth and softness, nor emotions (well, they all scream like the classic idea of Asians but they're faking it, so it loses its appeal upon recognition of that fact).
No, porn, whether photographic or videographic, is devoid of warmth, taste, sensation, and without any chance of social interaction whatsoever.
Good question though ...
But when you look at women dressed in a way you consider revealing and you sexualize them, that is different from watching porn to learn to please someone.
If you want to look at someone to sexualize them, you can do that with porn just as easy, and that person agreed to that. They signed up for it.
If you are saying you prefer to do it with a person in real life because it gives you the "chances of social interaction" then you are indicating that you do approach these women and interact with them in some ways to enhance your sexual game with them. In what ways? How does this usual conclude? Is this fair or appropriate to the women? What are the ages of the women? You are 50, are the women your age? Are the women half your age? Is this an age-appropriate behavior? If you had a daughter, would you feel this is appropriate for a man of your age to view her, interact with her?
I have a niece of 20 who performs publicly in a revealing outfit with a knockout body. I see the men around this age starting at her body (leering). I know what they are thinking. They are shameless about it. Sure, they may say that the fact she wears an outfit like that, as lowcut, with her ass showing, and the fact that she smiles and tosses her hair, and makes sexually suggestive faces to the beat of the music must mean she welcomes their fantasies. If they could legally masturbate while standing there, they would. Most of them are in their 40s-60s.
She calls them "creepers." She loves dancing, but says the worst part of her jobs is having to walk around and socialize with "the creepers." Still, she does it not to be rude. A lot of women don't turn around and walk away not to be rude. A lot of women will answer questions and carry on a minimal of conversation because they were raised with a certain amount of social grace to figure out how much conversation to endure before making an exit, like the one at the coffee grinder that had to at least until her coffee was done.
Edit: On a sidenote, I no longer attend a lot of fetish functions because of "creepers" and I think many women feel the same way. Older guys, mostly, who really don't care that leering (not appreciative glances, mind you) and inappropriate, long, unappreciative conversations even after you have made numerous polite exits, and staring at your body instead of your eyes, makes for a not fun time.
Akasha
< Message edited by AAkasha -- 11/5/2013 6:23:51 PM >
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