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ORIGINAL: Subsekr
Folks drop the "f" bomb around here routinely, and something else gets censored ?  

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ORIGINAL: NeedToUseYou
...3/4 plus of the people up here do incorporate sex into there play, so it's pretty much  assumed that sex will be involved most of the time unless noted.

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ORIGINAL: Bearlee

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ORIGINAL: NeedToUseYou
...3/4 plus of the people up here do incorporate sex into there play, so it's pretty much  assumed that sex will be involved most of the time unless noted.

I beg to differ.  I am an unattached submissive who loves hard, edgy play.  I play with several many pals...regularly, but I don't have sex with most of them.   What's a girl to do when she wants to experience the joys of BDSM and is single?  She plays at clubs with good friends...and just leaves the sex out of it.  I know lots of people who don't include sex with their play...........except with their significant others.
 
Me thinks people shouldn't make sweeping statements.

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ORIGINAL: FelinePersuasion

You know zeno it is close minded people like you who make others feel there is something to be ashamed of.


There is nothing disgusting at all about people getting needs met safely and consentually, If ageplay is how they do it so be it.

I find your judmentalisim offensive and digusting.

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ORIGINAL: zenofeller

illegal it is not. worrying it is plenty.

edit to add : caretakr you need to take your own freakin advice, that's probably the most disgusting thing i read on this forum. certainly the last of your stuff that i read.

I sorta agree with him, having a woman play like she two years old, doesn't quite sit right. I mean you sorta have to fantasize about what the fantasy your roleplaying is. So, that's disturbing to me anyway. Just as long as it stays a fantasy, no problem. But the fantasy itself does denote some degree of desire to do the act. Why else roleplay it?

Anyway, I understand where he is coming from, but I'm assuming it's all roleplaying. Maybe I just know to many women that were molested as extremely young girls to accept that fantasy as healthy. But to each his own I guess, as long as it's roleplaying.

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Well, I didn't say it was a crime. I just said it was a disturbing fantasy. He pretty much said he can't be around unmentionables, as it is a hard limit. I commend him for knowing his own limits. Not hard to connect the dots. That like saying I have a rape fantasy but can't be around women. Why's that, unless I was afraid I'd lose it.

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ORIGINAL: zenofeller

illegal it is not. worrying it is plenty.

edit to add : caretakr you need to take your own freakin advice, that's probably the most disgusting thing i read on this forum. certainly the last of your stuff that i read.

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ORIGINAL: justheather

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ORIGINAL: NeedToUseYou

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ORIGINAL: FelinePersuasion

You know zeno it is close minded people like you who make others feel there is something to be ashamed of.


There is nothing disgusting at all about people getting needs met safely and consentually, If ageplay is how they do it so be it.

I find your judmentalisim offensive and digusting.

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ORIGINAL: zenofeller

illegal it is not. worrying it is plenty.

edit to add : caretakr you need to take your own freakin advice, that's probably the most disgusting thing i read on this forum. certainly the last of your stuff that i read.

I sorta agree with him, having a woman play like she two years old, doesn't quite sit right. I mean you sorta have to fantasize about what the fantasy your roleplaying is. So, that's disturbing to me anyway. Just as long as it stays a fantasy, no problem. But the fantasy itself does denote some degree of desire to do the act. Why else roleplay it?

Anyway, I understand where he is coming from, but I'm assuming it's all roleplaying. Maybe I just know to many women that were molested as extremely young girls to accept that fantasy as healthy. But to each his own I guess, as long as it's roleplaying.

So....having a woman "play like" she is raped and a man imagining that he is raping her during the role play "sits right" with you,
And...having a woman be consensually beaten by her partner "sits right" with you,
And...a woman tied up in a dungeon, imagining she has been stripped of all her rights and a man pretending and imagining at the same time he has taken away all of her basic human rights "sits right" with you,
And all the other stuff people here role play, stuff that people outside this community would say are depraved and sick and a sure sign of a need for therapy...those are all ok.

Just not this one thing.

Am I reading this right?

Lots of women are raped, is that fantasy unhealthy too?
Lots of women are beaten by their abusive spouses, is that fantasy unhealthy?
Lots of women are verbally abused, so is it unhealthy for women to want to be humiliated during sex?

I understand how a person may be skeezed out by another person's kink, especially when the kink is something most people would call extreme...and something tells me that the reason this particular subject doesnt sit right with you is that you are a good person who understands right from wrong and instinctively wants to protect the innocent. And those are good things. That should be recognized.

But this is hardly the place for people to start drawing lines between what's depraved but ok and depraved but not ok.

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Well, I didn't say it was a crime. I just said it was a disturbing fantasy. He pretty much said he can't be around unmentionables, as it is a hard limit. I commend him for knowing his own limits. Not hard to connect the dots. That like saying I have a rape fantasy but can't be around women. Why's that, unless I was afraid I'd lose it.

This conclusion is totally illogical. You took a few hard left turns in connecting those dots there, didntcha?

You got skeezed out by someone else's kink, which is fine. Then you got drawn into a personal posting duel with that person and tried to justify your feelings by basically indirectly accusing him of having a desire to molest unmentionables. That was very much not fine.

It's just my opinion, but I think you owe him an apology.


(edited because I used the c word)

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ORIGINAL: SusanofO
...Well I don't care who else wants to do age play.  I am pretty open-minded about that kind of thing. I don't see anything shameful in it. I'd consider wearing a diaper and being bottle fed, etc. if that was what someone wanted of me. It might really make me feel all warm and fuzzy and cared for, too. I always sort of thought that was the goal (plus pleasing the Dom, of course. I suppose there could be many goals for ageplay, as far as that goes). I always sort  of viewed it as another way to bond. ...

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ORIGINAL: HayaSierra
...age play -- I can see the value in it as bonding time, or as simply control (such as wearing diapers, being told to suck on a pacifier or being bottle fed) in a non-sensual way. ...

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ORIGINAL: HayaSierra
...As for if "playing" equals wanting to "live it out" in a dangerous way -- no it does not. Just because you play a video game where you battle a ten foot dragon would you actually long to REALLY be face to face with said beastie. ...

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ORIGINAL: NeedToUseYou


I already told him if I was wrong to have fun.