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RE: The Dark Side - 7/11/2006 2:30:31 AM

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I was sexually abused from 4th grade up ti 14. I'm not any of those sterotypes. I don't refuse to sleep with people, but I don't sleep around.

My sexual abuse ruined my life at that time, it tossed everything upside down and batted it out the window.
I am very picky and discerning about who gets in my bed and my pants. Being abused is no excuse to ever spill that experince onto others.

If I started experincing desires to sexually assualt someone else cause of my abuse I would of commited myself long ago to an institution.

I will never, yes never have somebody know sexual assualt by my hand. If I have to send someone away I will. If Ic an't trust myself around certain people I won't be with them I will get therapy.

I will never ever not once in my life use my sexual molestation as a reasoning or justification to make someone else know the pain I went through.

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greeting to all

Ihave read just some of the reply about this woman one said everyone is to blame at the end ofthe night, but with this woman it is not true for her. I say this because as i woman who was abuse by my brother at a young age and then again when i was 20 as i was sleeping. Now my point it this,this woman could had been me if i did not get therapy and fast i had feeling of wanting someone to hurt me i did no know why, i was i confused lucky i was raised not to lay with just anyone ever this save me from some of the people who would have hurt me becaiuse i had no ideal what i had such feeling. I know this woman wasabuse and badly by one or many. she is trying to get rid of the feelig of hurt pain that she has but does not know why.

when person is abuse they either will not sleep with anyone at all or sleep with everyone and doeverything. Many of the girls in the old city i live in wereabuse they had babies after baby looking for someone to take care of them father is another thing if a girl does not have one she will look for it in an older man do not make this woman in soemthing of a monster she need help in the worst way. I feel deeply sorry she has not limits when she has not limit she is trying to find that one person who will stay with her this is why she has no limits the abuse istrue for her. ladies do not makeher into somethingbad it wcould of been anyone of use this is so true i can tell everyone about my sick brother becase i did nothing wrong he did and he still looks at me in that sick ass way

take care be kind once and a while to others

mons

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RE: The Dark Side - 7/14/2006 3:50:19 PM

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a follow up the story for those that may be interested

http://www.cbc.ca/canada/edmonton/story/2006/07/14/house-arrest.html

Facts have come forward in this article that make me wonder even more. I suspect that many intially thought the abuse was a reoccuring incident. But, the facts show it only occurred once. Secondly, this relationship was not a splash in the pan. It was an on going relationship of three years. This for many is a rather significant time period for length of any relationship. Which makes me wonder to comments that this wasn't lifestyle... it was abuse. Well the abuse or act occurred once! so was the whole relationship of D/s suddenly flushed because of one act. Where they just pretending.... It makes me wonder more about the Male abuser in this situation... is involved with others? or was this his only relationship. alot of questions... few answers

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RE: The Dark Side - 7/14/2006 4:52:48 PM

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fast reply-

'I was just following orders' doesn't cut it.

I think that limits are there, and if you truly think you have no limits, you just haven't experienced something that truly horrifies you yet.

I've been on the painful end of more than my fair share of 'no limits' relationships, and thankfully- i'm still alive. I've gotten my head on straight and i'm living a 'healthy' life in a D/s relationship where the limits i've developed are respected.

My first relationship- where i lost my virginity, He told me that i had to do everything He said, and that if even the smallest protest was heard, or the slightest whimper, it would be ten times worse.

I was about to lose my virginity, and i made the mistake of asking him to 'please, be gentle'
I lost my virginity three hours later with my lips sewn shut.

'no-limits' is like communism- great in theory- hellish in practice.

I think the above article is a lesson in caution and common-sense.

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