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RE: Before the Internet Arrived... - 7/6/2006 7:33:28 AM   
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Status: offline 		I found out about it at a drunken party as a college student. I had already had an interest in it, but didnt know how to pursue it. So, in the middle of this drunken revelry, we got to talking about what our parents did for a living. This one guy stood up and said his dad had two asian concubines--slaves. And I'm like half out of it. So the next day among My hangover I asked if he was being serious about it. He allowed Me to meet his dad and the rest is history.

Now that being said, the net has made it easier to find subs and Im sure the subs say the same about Masters. What the net allowed it to do was grow. Before, it was a geographical thing, and now it has really  blossomed. You know this type of behavior was considered taboo at one time. My mentor was run out of Nebraska in the 60's for doing this. Of course, he liked underage girls too.

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RE: Before the Internet Arrived... - 7/6/2006 9:00:02 AM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: AAkasha




Pre-Internet there were phone sex lines or "party lines" that were hugely popular in the late 70s and 80s, right? Those were probably an avenue to find kinky people.

Yes I remember the party lines, my wife and I called one and it was a recording for a swingers club, we decided to go and see what was happening. All in all it was pretty lame except for meeting one couple who were also into BDSM. We exchanged phone numbers and met with them a few times for fun.

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Like anything, once you find a few people, someone "knows" someone who is more connected and knows of parties, etc., and you go from there.  Once again, networking is the ultimate tool.


could not agree more, networking then and now is the best tool for us, we are always meeting new people because we have met this person who knows this person who knows where there is a group where.............. you get the idea.
Great post Akasha





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RE: Before the Internet Arrived... - 7/6/2006 10:10:58 AM   
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RE: Before the Internet Arrived... - 7/6/2006 10:16:51 AM   
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RE: Before the Internet Arrived... - 7/6/2006 10:44:35 AM   
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Status: offline 		Okay, that is IT.  Half the time I sit down to read an interesting thread, and it unravels because Brosco has to be a dick to someone else.   VERY few of his posts have ever been of use (TO ME), and even fewer have been polite (IN MY OPINION).  QUIT DERAILING THE THREADS, DAMN IT!  Geez.  Congratulations, man.  You're only the second person ever to surpass my patience limit (the sheikh who was slamming women all the time was the only other one).  Blocked.  Someone tell me if he ever says anything useful, please.
 
To everyone else, thanks for the info.  What I read around the bickering was interesting.
 
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Edited to add two qualifications, lest I be attacked for stating my opinion as a universal fact.

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RE: Before the Internet Arrived... - 7/6/2006 2:18:32 PM   
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Status: offline 		Zumala,
I want to apologize to you and the other posters (except for brosco) for my contribution to the bickering I personally have laid the matter to rest and will say no more.  I have also enjoyed the other postings lots of nice information here.

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RE: Before the Internet Arrived... - 7/6/2006 2:39:45 PM   
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RE: Before the Internet Arrived... - 7/6/2006 4:03:02 PM   
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ORIGINAL: wild1cfl

Zumala,
I want to apologize to you and the other posters (except for brosco) for my contribution to the bickering I personally have laid the matter to rest and will say no more.  I have also enjoyed the other postings lots of nice information here.


wild1cfl,
 
While I appreciate your offer of apology (it does show some very nice manners), it is unnecessary.  My severe annoyance was entirely due to Brosco, whom I rarely ever saw NOT harrassing someone else on the boards whenever he posted.  He just seems to be a generic jackass most of the time (in my opinion), unfortunately.
 
No worries.  It was simply a matter of my seeing too much from one person.  A lot of folks are opinionated on here, and that's okay.  But he's just too aggressive and rude in my opinion.  So I said so, and that will be that (at least as far as I'm concerned).  I do not intend to say anything about it ever again.
 
Cheers,
 
zuma

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RE: Before the Internet Arrived... - 7/6/2006 4:17:29 PM   
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Status: offline 		Are we settling down into you are gonna be the Dom and he the sub?

Look at you!!!!

You go..........

My sincerest best wishes to you both!!!!
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RE: Before the Internet Arrived... - 7/6/2006 7:17:53 PM   
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ORIGINAL: DoctorDubious



More girls.... far more girls than you might guess...
if you show 'em a bunch ropes and stuff...
and say, simply.... "I'd like to tie you up and play with your body"...
will say yes. 
 
...For some level of bondage play ... not always the funnest stuff...

Over the years, thru high school and college, and grad school,
I estimate that about exactly 25%.... will be VERY interested.

Personally, I think it's more effective to show a woman your ropes
than your new car or fancy apartment.




The residence life at my college set up this thing where three girls came over to the male dorm and hid behind a curtain so that no one could identify them. then they had the guys ask them any question in the world. one of the guys asked if they liked to dominate or be dominated. with no hesitation, all three said that they would like to be dominated. to bad I don't know who they were...

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RE: Before the Internet Arrived... - 7/6/2006 8:28:36 PM   
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Status: offline 		My first public encounters back in the early 80's were by way of what was publically known as Swinger Clubs in Houston.  I would bribe my male roommates at that time to go with me as they were more  "couples" type places.  It wasn't long before we became privy to the "lifestylers" and the after hours events.

My real training and understanding came about however by way of my Mentor whom i initially met as my martial arts instructor. 

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RE: Before the Internet Arrived... - 8/12/2010 9:42:17 AM   
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It was a lot more work to connect before the internet.  But, anything worth finding is worth the search whether it's on the internet, alternative ads in papers, introductions via others in the lifestyle, etc.

^mynx^

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RE: Before the Internet Arrived... - 8/12/2010 10:39:18 AM   
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RE: Before the Internet Arrived... - 8/12/2010 12:45:30 PM   
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Status: offline 		I do find it kind of funny that the post that brought the dead thread back starts with "it was a lot more work".  I'm guessing looking at the date of a post is some real labor.

Sorry, man!  I just had to do it.


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RE: Before the Internet Arrived... - 8/12/2010 12:47:03 PM   
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Status: offline 		One of the things I DO enjoy about necro threads is seeing the posters that aren't here anymore. Missturbation! Where ARE you? She was a nutjob, but I liked her, dagnabbit!

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RE: Before the Internet Arrived... - 8/12/2010 1:25:07 PM   
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Status: offline 		I miss some of the people, too.  I won't name names.  I believe I was here then, and can't believe I didn't answer to begin with.

I also met some people through the 'alternative newspaper' route.  It's far easier for people to do that in big cities (which for me was Atlanta at the time) than elsewhere. 

There was also a phone service that cropped up.  Again, it was in most major cities, and it eventually became a web site as well that I belonged to for a while.  Lavalife.  Anyone remember that?  Is it still active?  (Maybe I should be checking over there, too.)

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RE: Before the Internet Arrived... - 8/12/2010 1:25:51 PM   
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RE: Before the Internet Arrived... - 8/12/2010 3:22:54 PM   
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Status: offline 		I never bothered to meet "bdsm" type of men. I simply liked meeting dominant personality men who I was attracted to and I did that through friends, family, parties, school, clubs, simply talking to a complete stranger who I thought I might like.


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RE: Before the Internet Arrived... - 8/16/2010 9:43:04 AM   
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ORIGINAL: Brosco

Exactly, I am so glad you understood my point.   You may have noticed I used 'terms of reference' in my posts...  I was able to say things like:  "in my experience", "for me..", etc, etc.
......

Are people this easily led?  Establish a credible persona on the net and the tell all about the One-True-way?

I hope you get fulfillment out of an anonymous nick telling you what you should believe.

Brosco


Brosco, where did you learn to be so charming?

Was it on the internet?

Or have you always been a lippy intolerant opinionated gobshite?
In which case if you talk to other people like that in real life I'm amazed you have lived so long!

Oh sorry, perhaps I'm being a bit impolite there? Well, as we say in Yorkshire "I speak as I find".

You may disagree with someone else's post - but you can choose whether you need to respond - and how you express your thoughts.
Best Wishes
Peter

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RE: Before the Internet Arrived... - 8/16/2010 11:49:24 AM   
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I had no idea what BDSM was, I had no clue that I was kinky, well ok I knew that some of my ideas where not overtly considered normal but I was raise very liberally so it never really bothered me.

How I fell into my first power exchange relationship was at 16 i started dating my best friend and she just took control. It started out as just fun then moved to more. I don't think either of us really knew there was a name for it. One day we were at her boyfriends house, and his roomate recognized something in me (might have been the fact that when she told me to come here I crawled across the floor and curled up at her feet??) and talked to my gf to see if I was willing to date others and asked if she minded if he asked me out.

This is how I met my first male dominant. I still had no clue it was an alternative lifestyle kind of things and because I was 17 at the time there was no such thing as going out anywhere and meeting others.

I found out about the online stuff at the age of 23. Until then I felt really quite isolated and different, being from a small town and all.

I got my one bf to play tie up games during sex but that was about it. It was frustrating to say the least. Online is not the best way to learn about this stuff, in my opinion, but it sure helps making one not feel so alone. I have found online was great for opening up options on how and where to meet people, and it's fantastic, but some people get too wrapped up with the online fantasy and forget to live.

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