Collarspace Discussion Forums


Home  Login  Search 

RE: What good is helpless bondage if there is no sex?


View related threads: (in this forum | in all forums)

Logged in as: Guest
 
All Forums >> [Community Discussions] >> General BDSM Discussion >> RE: What good is helpless bondage if there is no sex? Page: <<   < prev  1 2 [3] 4 5   next >   >>
[Poll]

What good is helpless bondage if there is no sex?


Once tied up, we almost always have sex
  43% (43)
Once tied up, we sometimes have sex
  26% (26)
Once tied up, we rarely have sex
  11% (11)
Bondage is foreplay - we have sex after
  11% (11)
Bondage destroys the mood
  3% (3)
Sex is never involved with bondage
  4% (4)


Total Votes : 98
(last vote on : 1/11/2014 8:34:57 AM)
(Poll will run till: -- )
Login
Message << Older Topic   Newer Topic >>
RE: What good is helpless bondage if there is no sex? - 11/20/2013 2:27:49 PM   
SylvereApLeanan


Posts: 8275
Joined: 11/1/2007
From: Hell
Status: offline
quote:

ORIGINAL: meomymaid

not sure why people are on a BDSM site, if they think this is about sex in the first place.
Guess the subject is being high jacked by swingers and sex addicts that shouldn't be here in the first place.




_____________________________

Sylverë
Dark Muse
30 Fluffy Points
Grumpy Cat is my spirit animal.
Shadow Governess & Mean Girl
"There's something that doesn't make sense. Let's go and poke it with a stick."— The Doctor

(in reply to meomymaid)
Profile   Post #: 41
RE: What good is helpless bondage if there is no sex? - 11/20/2013 2:29:40 PM   
meomymaid


Posts: 26
Joined: 9/17/2012
Status: offline 		as I said - high jacked

(in reply to sunshinemiss)
Profile   Post #: 42
RE: What good is helpless bondage if there is no sex? - 11/20/2013 2:31:42 PM   
LadyPact


Posts: 32566
Status: offline
quote:

ORIGINAL: meomymaid
not sure why people are on a BDSM site, if they think this is about sex in the first place.
Guess the subject is being high jacked by swingers and sex addicts that shouldn't be here in the first place.

I would think not.......

I happen to be one of the folks who doesn't necessarily equate BDSM with sex. On the other hand, I understand completely that, for some folks, BDSM is an intricate part of sex and I try not to and/or don't attempt the MKIBTYK thing when I realize it is that for them. (I do fail at this, at times.)

Considering the original is based on the question of the frequency of how often sex is included with bondage, I don't see how that is a hijack via the forum rules.



_____________________________

The crowned Diva of Destruction. ~ ExT

Beach Ball Sized Lady Nuts. ~ TWD

Happily dating a new submissive. It's official. I've named him engie.

Please do not send me email here. Unless I know you, I will delete the email unread

(in reply to meomymaid)
Profile   Post #: 43
RE: What good is helpless bondage if there is no sex? - 11/20/2013 2:39:41 PM   
VideoAdminChi


Posts: 3086
Joined: 8/6/2012
Status: offline 		My ruling is that there is no hijacking on this thread, just unusually interesting thread drift.

(in reply to LadyPact)
Profile   Post #: 44
RE: What good is helpless bondage if there is no sex? - 11/20/2013 2:45:01 PM   
angelikaJ


Posts: 8641
Joined: 6/22/2007
Status: offline
quote:

ORIGINAL: pompeii


Note: The term "sex" here, is defined as penetration, at least for male/female or male/male interaction (I'm not sure what the definition should be for female/female relationships).






This is the issue I have with your post: your definition of sex is so limited.
The brain/mind is the biggest sexual organ and that has nothing to do with any penetrative actions you can conceive of.

_____________________________

The original home of the caffeinated psychotic hair pixies.
(as deemed by He who owns me)

http://www.collarchat.com/m_3234821/tm.htm

30 fluffy points!

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mQjuCQd01sg

(in reply to pompeii)
Profile   Post #: 45
RE: What good is helpless bondage if there is no sex? - 11/20/2013 2:54:23 PM   
thishereboi


Posts: 14463
Joined: 6/19/2008
Status: offline
quote:

ORIGINAL: meomymaid

as I said - high jacked


The op is about sex and bondage. Highjacking a thread means talking about something other than the OP. Therefore discussing sex in this thread is not a highjack no matter how many time you say it is. Now you could start a thread about how you feel sex has no business in BDSM but if I were you I would take out the bit about orgasm control in your profile before you do.

_____________________________

"Sweetie, you're wasting your gum" .. Albert


This here is the boi formerly known as orfunboi


(in reply to meomymaid)
Profile   Post #: 46
RE: What good is helpless bondage if there is no sex? - 11/20/2013 2:55:38 PM   
UllrsIshtar


Posts: 3693
Joined: 7/28/2012
Status: offline
quote:

ORIGINAL: meomymaid

Bondage, discipline, Sado, Maso misses a letter to come to sex "X"



Yeah, except that 3 out of those 4 explicitly refer to a sexual practice...

quote:

bond·age
ˈbändij/Submit
noun
1.
the state of being a slave.
"the deliverance of the Israelites from Egypt's bondage"
synonyms: slavery, enslavement, servitude, subjugation, subjection, oppression, domination, exploitation, persecution; More
antonyms: liberty
2.
sexual practice that involves the tying up or restraining of one partner.


quote:

sa·dism
ˈsāˌdizəm/Submit
noun
noun: sadism
1.
the tendency to derive pleasure, esp. sexual gratification, from inflicting pain, suffering, or humiliation on others.


quote:

mas·och·ism
ˈmasəˌkizəm,ˈmaz-/Submit
noun
1.
the tendency to derive pleasure, esp. sexual gratification, from one's own pain or humiliation.


_____________________________

I can be your whore
I am the dirt you created
I am your sinner
And your whore
But let me tell you something baby
You love me for everything you hate me for

(in reply to meomymaid)
Profile   Post #: 47
RE: What good is helpless bondage if there is no sex? - 11/20/2013 2:57:47 PM   
petitespot


Posts: 288
Joined: 7/3/2006
From: Surfside Beach, SC
Status: offline
quote:

ORIGINAL: meomymaid

not sure why people are on a BDSM site, if they think this is about sex in the first place.
Guess the subject is being high jacked by swingers and sex addicts that shouldn't be here in the first place.


And all I can think of is "poor you....missing out on all kinds of fun, wild sex"
And also...what a judgmental mind you have.

BDSM is purely sexual for me. I used to get wet doing ordinary vanilla tasks for him. It was all foreplay in my mind. I still drool at just the thought of a list from him.


_____________________________


(in reply to meomymaid)
Profile   Post #: 48
RE: What good is helpless bondage if there is no sex? - 11/20/2013 3:03:55 PM   
MAINEiacMISTRESS


Posts: 1180
Joined: 9/12/2012
Status: offline 		I couldn't vote on the poll because there wasn't an option for "never involve sex".

Some people are in this for the endorphins, rush from humiliation, or to challenge their hard limits, etc. It's not always sexy. Sometimes it's just damn gross or embarassing (but fun).

I would have voted, "Sex would destroy the mood"


(in reply to KnightofMists)
Profile   Post #: 49
RE: What good is helpless bondage if there is no sex? - 11/20/2013 3:12:46 PM   
Lynnxz


Posts: 4813
Joined: 10/3/2006
From: Atlanta
Status: offline 		We are both proud owners of a 'healthy' libido, so bondage is usually foreplay for us, unless we are playing in a public facility. While we're both attention whores, having someone stare down our buttholes is a bit of an awkward thought.

When first starting out, some of the basic ties that were first learned were limiting, and not really a good option for sexytime. However, I found This book, by Chanta Rose. I like it, because the ties demonstrated are not only shown step by step, all of the ties are chosen because they are all make the bottom "available" in one way or the other.

_____________________________

HBIC



(in reply to KnightofMists)
Profile   Post #: 50
RE: What good is helpless bondage if there is no sex? - 11/20/2013 3:19:22 PM   
VideoAdminChi


Posts: 3086
Joined: 8/6/2012
Status: offline
quote:

I couldn't vote on the poll because there wasn't an option for "never involve sex".


Added!

(in reply to MAINEiacMISTRESS)
Profile   Post #: 51
RE: What good is helpless bondage if there is no sex? - 11/20/2013 3:39:58 PM   
sunshinemiss


Posts: 17673
Joined: 11/26/2007
Status: offline
quote:

ORIGINAL: SylvereApLeanan





Alan Rickman. *sigh*

Maybe it's time to do another "Insert Alan Rickman into Every Thread" Day

_____________________________

Yes, I am a wonton hussy... and still sweet as 3.14

(in reply to SylvereApLeanan)
Profile   Post #: 52
RE: What good is helpless bondage if there is no sex? - 11/20/2013 3:51:05 PM   
SylvereApLeanan


Posts: 8275
Joined: 11/1/2007
From: Hell
Status: offline
quote:

Maybe it's time to do another "Insert Alan Rickman into Every Thread" Day



That gets my vote!

_____________________________

Sylverë
Dark Muse
30 Fluffy Points
Grumpy Cat is my spirit animal.
Shadow Governess & Mean Girl
"There's something that doesn't make sense. Let's go and poke it with a stick."— The Doctor

(in reply to sunshinemiss)
Profile   Post #: 53
RE: What good is helpless bondage if there is no sex? - 11/20/2013 7:51:17 PM   
LaTigresse


Posts: 26123
Joined: 1/15/2006
Status: offline 		I cannot vote in the poll because there is no option that fits me.

Sometimes it's sexual and sometimes when it's sexual it involves sex. Sometimes it is not sexual and therefore does not involve sex.

_____________________________

My twisted, self deprecating, sense of humour, finds alot to laugh about, in your lack of one!

Just because you are well educated, articulate, and can use big, fancy words, properly........does not mean you are right!

(in reply to pompeii)
Profile   Post #: 54
RE: What good is helpless bondage if there is no sex? - 11/20/2013 7:54:36 PM   
UllrsIshtar


Posts: 3693
Joined: 7/28/2012
Status: offline 		I think we've reached one consensus on this thread: it takes a lot of options to cover all the CC members on a poll...

_____________________________

I can be your whore
I am the dirt you created
I am your sinner
And your whore
But let me tell you something baby
You love me for everything you hate me for

(in reply to LaTigresse)
Profile   Post #: 55
RE: What good is helpless bondage if there is no sex? - 11/21/2013 9:03:19 AM   
experiment2


Posts: 208
Joined: 11/7/2007
Status: offline 		it seems to me that for many the lure of bondage is the anticipation of what may occur. it might involve some pain, some pleasure, teasing, or just the feeling of helplessness one has in bondage. to be totally under someone else control ofr just restrained from doing what you wish can be very arousing or at least exciting. it may even be accomplished with self bondage. not being able to touch onesself or being deprives of your senses through masks, hoods or blindfolds is stimulating for some. being wrapped with possibly only genitals exposed is frightening and fascinating to some.

(in reply to UllrsIshtar)
Profile   Post #: 56
RE: What good is helpless bondage if there is no sex? - 11/21/2013 12:10:57 PM   
skareamoose


Posts: 3
Joined: 11/14/2012
Status: offline 		As a male, totally hetero, and and somewhat switchy ...

If I tie you we will already have agreed that you will probably have to pleasure me with your mouth and tongue before being released.

If you tie me, I hope (although I will resist) that you will demand and enforce my use of my tongue for your pleasure.


(in reply to KnightofMists)
Profile   Post #: 57
RE: What good is helpless bondage if there is no sex? - 12/2/2013 1:00:35 PM   
Pyramus


Posts: 397
Joined: 5/14/2010
Status: offline 		MKIBTYK ???

Googling for a minute, I found out what it means ...

(My Kink Is Better Than Your Kink)

(in reply to skareamoose)
Profile   Post #: 58
RE: What good is helpless bondage if there is no sex? - 12/2/2013 1:57:48 PM   
vanillakinkedup


Posts: 4
Joined: 4/9/2012
Status: offline 		ORIGINAL: SylvereApLeanan

Wait...I thought the point of bondage was so the sub can't get away while I do painful things to them. What does sex have to do with that?



Agreed. But I gotta throw in the 'so the sub can't do anything while I tease the crap out of them' side of it. So I guess I would vote for sometimes.

And thanks Pyramus cause I was just about to look that up.

(in reply to Pyramus)
Profile   Post #: 59
RE: What good is helpless bondage if there is no sex? - 12/2/2013 2:16:15 PM   
Arturas


Posts: 3245
Status: offline 		FR

When a Dom or top has bound a submissive in public play then sex is an unlikely happenstance. This is because the Dom is preforming an art or even a service for the submissive in order to show off his technique and derive pleasure just from a non-sexual act, like the skilled use of some instruments of torture. Most of the time sex is not overtly performed in club scenes.

This excludes Friday nights where couples tend to inhabit the sparsely populated open dungeon usually using different corners of the room for semi-private and close and personal activities. During such nights in a semi-private caged scene, the helpless young women in skirt and high heels is totally at the pleasure of the evil perverted jailer, but these are only on those special private nights in the dark and brooding dungeon where the only sounds are those of hapless women who happen to be in the wrong place at the wrong time, much to their delight.

Arturas and star

_____________________________

"We master Our world."

(in reply to vanillakinkedup)
Profile   Post #: 60
Page:   <<   < prev  1 2 [3] 4 5   next >   >>
All Forums >> [Community Discussions] >> General BDSM Discussion >> RE: What good is helpless bondage if there is no sex? Page: <<   < prev  1 2 [3] 4 5   next >   >>
Jump to:





New Messages No New Messages
Hot Topic w/ New Messages Hot Topic w/o New Messages
Locked w/ New Messages Locked w/o New Messages
 Post New Thread
 Reply to Message
 Post New Poll
 Submit Vote
 Delete My Own Post
 Delete My Own Thread
 Rate Posts




Collarchat.com © 2025
Terms of Service Privacy Policy Spam Policy

0.094