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ORIGINAL: iaminigo
That's what I'm saying. I realize that some groups here prefer otherwise, but it's a relatively public forum, and these grammar rules are not a vital part of the CoC. I'm not suggesting you have to like it or accept it, I'm suggesting you should allow it.

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ORIGINAL: iaminigo
I for one don't care how someone communicates. I can read text speak, and there are times when its appropriate. In 3 weeks he may find that others come out of the woodwork who are a bit more accepting, and care less what those that insist on it say.
It's easy enough to leave those people/threads alone if that's not what you want to associate or participate with, but why drive them off?

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ORIGINAL: SylvereApLeanan
Here's a tip you might like - it's possible to use Google to find threads on CollarChat if you plug in "collarme" as one of the keywords. I'm not sure if it's more or less reliable than the search feature here, but it can be done. The solution that works best for me is to click Subscribe on threads I want to find later. [/color][/size][/font]

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ORIGINAL: tj444

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ORIGINAL: SylvereApLeanan
Here's a tip you might like - it's possible to use Google to find threads on CollarChat if you plug in "collarme" as one of the keywords. I'm not sure if it's more or less reliable than the search feature here, but it can be done. The solution that works best for me is to click Subscribe on threads I want to find later.

yes I have done the google thing too to find a CM thread/post.. and I have seen the subscribe thingie but I don't think I have ever used it.. I will have to try that.. Thanks for reminding me about it! [:)]

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ORIGINAL: OsideGirl

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ORIGINAL: iaminigo
I for one don't care how someone communicates. I can read text speak, and there are times when its appropriate. In 3 weeks he may find that others come out of the woodwork who are a bit more accepting, and care less what those that insist on it say.
It's easy enough to leave those people/threads alone if that's not what you want to associate or participate with, but why drive them off?

The goal isn't to drive them off. The goal is to communicate that in a written medium, effort counts. By communicating in that manner, they are handicapping themselves. Especially, in a market where men far outnumber the women. The women get to pick and choose...and a lot of women think they're worth the extra two seconds it takes to "are" vs "R". A lot of women are going for the guy that is aware of how he presents himself and makes an effort to communicate. So, actually, not telling the poster that the text speak comes across as lazy and uneducated is more of a disservice than actually telling them how it gets viewed.

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ORIGINAL: SeekingTrinity

~FRing it~

For me, it really boils down to one thing.

People have two choices....either they choose to stay or they choose to leave. I don't think that any amount of warm fuzzies from everyone here and the Mods going above and beyond their already above and beyond is going to magically make everything A-ok. So unless forced contribution at gunpoint becomes the new normal here, nothing can be done to retain people. New people elect to retain themselves.

And to cut some off at the pass, let's examine for one moment the whole "if the regulars weren't sew meen...the new people would stay" argument. For me, I chose to make my first post here despite the rumors that these "horrible evil meanie regulars" existed. Not sure who those evil meanies are and still haven't figured it out, but that's beside the point. I chose to continue posting here after my first post. And I continue to choose to return here regularly to contribute.

As a side note: I'm bitterly disappointed that my ass has yet to be shredded and thrown back at my by these elusive evil meanie regulars. What gives?!?!?! [:D]

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ORIGINAL: iaminigo

Valuable contributors are awesome. But is that a requirement for posters? It seems that some feel only "valuable contributors" should be welcome.

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ORIGINAL: iaminigo
Valuable contributors are awesome. But is that a requirement for posters? It seems that some feel only "valuable contributors" should be welcome.

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ORIGINAL: RedMagic1

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ORIGINAL: iaminigo

Valuable contributors are awesome. But is that a requirement for posters? It seems that some feel only "valuable contributors" should be welcome.

The valueless contributors will make dozens of new profiles and reappear, again and again, for years.

It's like dating. You can't run off somebody with nothing to lose. They'll stalk you. The only people worth trying to impress are the ones who've got it going on, because unless you make an effort, they're outta here.

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ORIGINAL: LadyPact

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ORIGINAL: iaminigo
Valuable contributors are awesome. But is that a requirement for posters? It seems that some feel only "valuable contributors" should be welcome.

What a trap. LOL.

Hey, I'm even going to fall for it. Do I prefer folks who add something to the experience around here? You bet. I didn't get to this post count because I don't like the conversations.

And don't let those nice things that folks say about Me here fool you. I've been hauled over the rails plenty of times just because somebody took something in a different way than it was intended. With very few exceptions, that happens to just about everybody at one time or another.

On the same note, for all of the stuff that's being said about the regulars or veterans, people are forgetting that we were all new to this forum once, too. We got bopped on the head when we made mistakes. Some of us by each other. Geez. The way this thread is going and the way people are making it sound about how harsh everybody is, folks who come to the site today would have never been able to manage a few years back.

Lots of people on this thread have been 'new' since I've been here. They are valuable posters. Nothing wrong with that.

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ORIGINAL: RedMagic1

I already answered that question. There's nothing on this side of the site that will make a statistical impact on percentage of posters retained per number of new OPs. To increase the number of posters retained per month, one would have to increase the number of repeat impressions on the profile side, especially impressions generated by single women. If the same number of single women posted here as posted here a few years ago, this would be a hopping place. It's like a bar: make the woman happy and the guys will show. But that's a deep project, requiring a lot more than forum modification.

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ORIGINAL: iaminigo
That's kind of the point. The current filter WORKS. You get quality new people in here. But the question is how to retain other new posters, the ones that don't stick around. I've heard a couple votes for "it can't increase" and I disagree.

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ORIGINAL: iaminigo

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ORIGINAL: RedMagic1

I already answered that question. There's nothing on this side of the site that will make a statistical impact on percentage of posters retained per number of new OPs. To increase the number of posters retained per month, one would have to increase the number of repeat impressions on the profile side, especially impressions generated by single women. If the same number of single women posted here as posted here a few years ago, this would be a hopping place. It's like a bar: make the woman happy and the guys will show. But that's a deep project, requiring a lot more than forum modification.

I respectfully disagree. A simple post-first-post survey would tell us the facts.