RedMagic1
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ORIGINAL: Ilyrium I can have any (vanilla) relationship I want. They are as easy to get as women find it to have sex. But, in "my" life, relationships aren't all that much of a need, just as, for women, sex isn't all that much of a need. You might be best served by building a relationship with a woman who likes you, where you make it clear from the get-go that you want some kind of femdom kink. An approach I've successfully used when meeting women on vanilla sites is to say, after we have emailed a bit, or maybe on the first phone call, "I'm really enjoying getting to know you. I hope we meet in real life and really like each other. I want to tell you something about me. Hopefully you'll think it's a positive, but, either way, you have a right to know. I'm pretty kinky. For example I really enjoy doing (X thing). It's very important to me. I hope that wasn't too forward, not trying to be creepy, just trying to be honest." I've never gotten a "you're gross" response. Women have said things like, "That sounds wonderful," and, "That's too bad, I don't think we'll be compatible," but they've never been mad at me for being direct. Then, when you do have that first date, she has an idea of what she'd be getting into. Also, my (possibly inaccurate) read on you is that you want a vanilla relationship with lots of kink, as opposed to a female-led relationship. So I wouldn't discount vanilla if I were you. Some of those vanilla women are quite experimental.
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