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RE: Do men like compliments? - 1/23/2014 9:36:36 PM   
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Ballsy of you to admit to homophobia. However, sometimes medieval thoughts are best left unspoken.

I say it openly so that lesbians don't hit on me. I've had lesbian girlfriends and they get stupidly viscous and jealous when I get into boys. I had a girl that was into me, went to rant to a guy I was into about how it's his fault that I was always pinning for him, it was embarrassing and absolutely disastrous. I am just always sending the messages loud and clear that I love boys and I don't like girls. I came from a all girls school, so lesbians and dykes were rampant! And I have nothing against their orientation, I am friends with them, they know I am homophobic as in, I don't like women sexually at all, don't touch me, it makes my skin crawl, but friendship doesn't have to have physical contact.


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RE: Do men like compliments? - 1/23/2014 9:39:41 PM   
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RE: Do men like compliments? - 1/23/2014 9:41:40 PM   
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RE: Do men like compliments? - 1/23/2014 9:42:50 PM   
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RE: Do men like compliments? - 1/23/2014 9:45:43 PM   
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Everybody is allowed their preferences

I agree, as long as they don't involve me! The problem with some lesbians, and you really experience this in girls school, when they have a fixation on you, they don't care that you are straight, they chase you anyway! And it's an awful thing and super awkward, because you really like her as a friend, like a platonic girlfriend, but she's making it all very uncomfortable for you.
I suppose they were young then and still confuse and learning their orientation and I am sure as they grow older, they know to ascertain if a woman is bisexual or lesbian first, before even considering developing a relationship, but damn she sabotaged so many of my relationships with boys that uh..., I just play safe and make sure I sent the message loud and clear, I am the worst person to be interested in!
And the line is so difficult, because when you have a favourite girlfirend, even platonic, you do buy her gifts, you do spend ALOT of time with her, you do chat with her all day and ALOT, and it's easy for them to think maybe you're into them more.

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RE: Do men like compliments? - 1/23/2014 9:46:48 PM   
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Status: offline 		A little ego stroking doesn't hurt. I know I react more to subtle compliments than to the overt ones. And it does mean more from someone I am with than from someone else.

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RE: Do men like compliments? - 1/23/2014 9:48:06 PM   
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RE: Do men like compliments? - 1/23/2014 9:49:55 PM   
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RE: Do men like compliments? - 1/23/2014 10:08:01 PM   
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Originally, homosexuality in England was punishable by death, then it was cut down to about 8 years in a hard jail, then it was good for a fine, then it was decrimilised, then it was made legal..................That's when I got out of England, before it was made compulsory


People like to say homosexuality is illegal in Singapore. But it really is not. Sodomy is illegal, then again, so is oral sex. So that can't be targeted to solely homosexuals.
So two men can definitely hold hands and kiss on the street without getting arrested. Hell, it's normal for the Indian men here to hold hands platonically already anyway.

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RE: Do men like compliments? - 1/23/2014 10:11:41 PM   
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Status: offline 		I don't see that you are homophobic Greta (another bloody label !!!) I just see that you, like myself, have preferences and you state them clearly and succinctly.
Labels are too freely bandied around these days by people who don't like people disagreeing with their points of view

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RE: Do men like compliments? - 1/23/2014 10:15:22 PM   
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I don't see that you are homophobic Greta (another bloody label !!!) I just see that you, like myself, have preferences and you state them clearly and succinctly.

Much easier to say homophobic, homosexuals naturally hate you for it already lol. It works for me, to keep them away from establishing. I mean when one of my girlfriends broke off with her dyke-looking girlfriend, her girlfriend kept asking me out for dinner, like constantly! Maybe I misunderstood her intentions, maybe she just wanted platonic, I couldn't tell, it was weird. I had a weird vibe from her. I had to tell her I was homophobic, and after that she stopped. It's just confusing when it's the same gender. I always see it as, I mean, I am super close with my brother, I can even sleep on the same bed with him, share all my sexual exploits with him, we are super duper tight, but because he is my brother, although I think he set the bar so high as in my eyes, the most perfect man there could ever be, and his lucky girlfriend is experiencing it. I will never be romantically involve or sexually involve with him. It's the same as women, because they are women, I will never be romantically involve or sexually involve with them until the rules have changed and now homosexuality exists. Complicates stuffs.

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RE: Do men like compliments? - 1/23/2014 11:12:53 PM   
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I got out of England

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RE: Do men like compliments? - 1/23/2014 11:23:37 PM   
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I've had a bit of compliment confusion lately, especially when I returned to work after a long medical leave. Folks kept saying, "You look great!" when I was pretty sure I didn't. Of course, I thanked them warmly nonetheless.

Eventually, I grasped that they meant "You've come through the cancer triathlon in better shape than we'd expected" rather than "Hey! You should send your headshots to GQ!"

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RE: Do men like compliments? - 1/23/2014 11:30:51 PM   
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Eventually, I grasped that they meant "You've come through the cancer triathlon in better shape than we'd expected" rather than "Hey! You should send your headshots to GQ!"

You must have looked very healthy for a cancer patient :) I have to say that I attended a talk given by a man that was given 6 months to live, he was terminal stage 4 for his cancer. But on the surface, he looked perfectly healthy. But he did pass away soon after and lost the fight.

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RE: Do men like compliments? - 1/24/2014 1:07:24 AM   
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Status: offline 		I don't feel like reading every response but really? What kind of person doesn't enjoy feeling good about their self? Without reading comments, I'm gonna say 100 percent of human beings enjoy compliments. I refuse to believe this is gender specific.

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RE: Do men like compliments? - 1/24/2014 1:14:19 AM   
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I don't feel like reading every response but really? What kind of person doesn't enjoy feeling good about their self? Without reading comments, I'm gonna say 100 percent of human beings enjoy compliments. I refuse to believe this is gender specific.

Ok, the question is, in relation to, will it make you more interested or less interested in the woman or will it be neutral?
Because, I had quite a significant number of responses that said, less interested. Just male psychology apparently! Not here, but in another forum.

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RE: Do men like compliments? - 1/24/2014 1:20:57 AM   
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I don't feel like reading every response but really? What kind of person doesn't enjoy feeling good about their self? Without reading comments, I'm gonna say 100 percent of human beings enjoy compliments. I refuse to believe this is gender specific.

Ok, the question is, in relation to, will it make you more interested or less interested in the woman or will it be neutral?
Because, I had quite a significant number of responses that said, less interested. Just male psychology apparently! Not here, but in another forum.


Okay, that makes the question more difficult. Probably should have read more into this. Personally, I'd say I'd be more interested but I could see it being both ways. Some people like what they can't have more. I like a girl who can appreciate me for me. So yes, I'd like her to compliment me. Sorry for jumping to conclusions without even going as far as reading the initial post.

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RE: Do men like compliments? - 1/24/2014 1:30:32 PM   
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I mean compliments about their looks, belly, legs, arms, cock whatever, basically sexualised compliments about themselves? How about compliments about their performance in bed and what wonderful lovers they are, or how good they are in a specific sexual skill?

Do they and what type of compliments do men like to hear?

I've actually been told that men don't like to hear compliments about their body parts, because it brings their thoughts into the arena of how many other men has this woman been with and comparing with and it becomes buzz kill.


Compliments on my looks are good. But I'd much rather be complimented on something I have control over. Like my skill at doing something or my brain. Compliments on my skill in bed are always good.

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RE: Do men like compliments? - 1/24/2014 2:30:41 PM   
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RE: Do men like compliments? - 1/24/2014 3:13:20 PM   
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I mean compliments about their looks, belly, legs, arms, cock whatever, basically sexualised compliments about themselves? How about compliments about their performance in bed and what wonderful lovers they are, or how good they are in a specific sexual skill?

Do they and what type of compliments do men like to hear?

I've actually been told that men don't like to hear compliments about their body parts, because it brings their thoughts into the arena of how many other men has this woman been with and comparing with and it becomes buzz kill.


I don't care about other men. She's with me now, and that's that.

I love compliments but it took a long time for me to handle them gracefully. What's the gentlemanly way of doing it? I never found out. I'd feel quite overwhelmed, actually.

These days, if I get a negative feeling at all, it'll be something like 'Thanks. But that's not me, it's just an image and a shell.' Sometimes, though, I can think, 'Well, that might just be true, rather than too good to be true.'.

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