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ORIGINAL: PeonForHer

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ORIGINAL: Greta75

I mean compliments about their looks, belly, legs, arms, cock whatever, basically sexualised compliments about themselves? How about compliments about their performance in bed and what wonderful lovers they are, or how good they are in a specific sexual skill?

Do they and what type of compliments do men like to hear?

I've actually been told that men don't like to hear compliments about their body parts, because it brings their thoughts into the arena of how many other men has this woman been with and comparing with and it becomes buzz kill.

I don't care about other men. She's with me now, and that's that.

I love compliments but it took a long time for me to handle them gracefully. What's the gentlemanly way of doing it? I never found out. I'd feel quite overwhelmed, actually.

These days, if I get a negative feeling at all, it'll be something like 'Thanks. But that's not me, it's just an image and a shell.' Sometimes, though, I can think, 'Well, that might just be true, rather than too good to be true.'.

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ORIGINAL: sexyred1

Actually I love compliments from women and I often compliment them.

Do you actually think a woman giving you a compliment means they are hitting on you?

How sad. Women are beautiful and we have lots of things to compliment and empower each other instead of being competitive.

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Jesus, dude. If I had a body like that....

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ORIGINAL: Greta75

I mean compliments about their looks, belly, legs, arms, cock whatever, basically sexualised compliments about themselves? How about compliments about their performance in bed and what wonderful lovers they are, or how good they are in a specific sexual skill?

Do they and what type of compliments do men like to hear?

I've actually been told that men don't like to hear compliments about their body parts, because it brings their thoughts into the arena of how many other men has this woman been with and comparing with and it becomes buzz kill.

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ORIGINAL: Dvr22999874

Originally, homosexuality in England was punishable by death, then it was cut down to about 8 years in a hard jail, then it was good for a fine, then it was decriminalized, then it was made legal..................That's when I got out of England, before it was made compulsory

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ORIGINAL: MrRodgers

Flattery will get you everywhere.

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ORIGINAL: MasterCaneman

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ORIGINAL: Dvr22999874

Originally, homosexuality in England was punishable by death, then it was cut down to about 8 years in a hard jail, then it was good for a fine, then it was decriminalized, then it was made legal..................That's when I got out of England, before it was made compulsory

That was hilarious.

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ORIGINAL: sexyred1

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ORIGINAL: Greta75

I got to admit that while I can take compliments on my clothings and shoes and stuffs from females, but if my girlfriend ever told me I was beautiful, i would freak out and ignore it. Probably that's just being homophobic, but I love compliments from men! And would beam and show appreciation over it.

Actually I love compliments from women and I often compliment them.

Do you actually think a woman giving you a compliment means they are hitting on you?

How sad. Women are beautiful and we have lots of things to compliment and empower each other instead of being competitive.

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ORIGINAL: PeonForHer

I love compliments but it took a long time for me to handle them gracefully. What's the gentlemanly way of doing it? I never found out. I'd feel quite overwhelmed, actually.

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ORIGINAL: MalcolmNathaniel

I do, but I can't speak for everyone.

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ORIGINAL: Greta75

How about compliments about their performance in bed and what wonderful lovers they are, or how good they are in a specific sexual skill?

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ORIGINAL: FieryOpal

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ORIGINAL: Greta75

How about compliments about their performance in bed and what wonderful lovers they are, or how good they are in a specific sexual skill?

My very first impulse was to assume of course men like receiving these sorts of compliments without exception (if believably delivered). Then it occurred to me if a guy has difficulty accepting compliments in general, he will either be more inclined or else less inclined to be skeptical of sexually-related compliments. Hard to say how the pendulum would swing. Personally, I've never known a man who wasn't either proud, glad or relieved to get verbal reassurance of this. Now, he might not believe it when a woman proclaims he's the best she's ever had. That could be suspect. (Maybe nobody's ever told him that? He doesn't believe it himself to be possible and has to hear it a number of times before it will sink in?)

Not only that, getting this type of compliment invites a reciprocal response (if the guy has any sense) and perhaps this is where he gets stuck?

Any feedback on this matter would be greatly appreciated by us gals.

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ORIGINAL: Greta75

I mean compliments about their looks, belly, legs, arms, cock whatever, basically sexualised compliments about themselves? How about compliments about their performance in bed and what wonderful lovers they are, or how good they are in a specific sexual skill?

Do they and what type of compliments do men like to hear?

I've actually been told that men don't like to hear compliments about their body parts, because it brings their thoughts into the arena of how many other men has this woman been with and comparing with and it becomes buzz kill.

I can only speak for myself.
I like being complimented on that which I have accomplished. Being complimented on that which was simply bestowed on me by genetics is a little different, still pleasant but different. Suppose someone tells me that they like my hair or eyes,would it be the same if they told me how much they liked my trust fund?(Yes I have the piercing blue eyes and the full head of blond curley hair...no I do not have the trust fund[ ), but you get my drift.
Re: being concerned that my partner may have had many other partners reasures me that she is speaking from a position of knowledge. So if she tells me that I rank 124 out of 12,642 then I am accepting high fives all around. How can being in the top 1% be a bad thing.

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ORIGINAL: DaddySatyr

I haven't believed myself to be (anything close to) a good-looking guy in about 30 years (I'm not like wine). So, if a lady compliments my looks, I generally tend to mis-trust her. I figure she's just buttering me up.

Other compliments are well appreciated, though. I like to think that some of them are even objective.

On the other hand....even if you aren't "generally" good looking.....can't she think that you have a nice feature that she appreciates?

Hell....I once dated a guy who was over 400 pounds, had crooked teeth and thinning hair.....but he had the BLUEST eyes that took my breath away, a voice that mesmerized me, and a kiss that made me melt....and I complimented him on those things all the time.

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ORIGINAL: thompsonx

Compliment me????
Go ahead I dare you...I double dawg dare you!!!