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RE: Do descriptors such as white (or black), make a per... - 3/2/2014 12:09:07 PM   
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Though in a way I do understand where Chatte is coming from, language is powerful, it just reminded me of a discussion I had somewhere else where we talked about if such things like actor, waiter, etc. instead of gender specific comments really are just lip service. I think the reply I made there sticks fits here too, even if it was more aimed at sexism than racism... Since I'm too lazy to type it all out, I do a copy and paste job:

The language thing is interesting, I think we are expecting too much too soon. As a teenager, there were things like Miss and Mrs, now nobody uses them anymore because if they do, they'll get the "Welcome to the 21st century, get with the times" look, at the same time you also saw an increase of women working in jobs that weren't "traditionally female". I think it's conditioning, if you get used to seeing and hearing something, it becomes routine, same as if somebody takes a cold shower every morning, after a few weeks, they don't even think about it anymore. I think it does help to pave the way to gender equality.
Our parents or grandparents might have specified if the doctor they are seeing is male or female, now you're just going to see a doctor, actually I think there are now more female than male doctors. Kids hearing job titles without a gender attribute, they might not cancel some jobs out automatically because it's "for girls" or "for boys".

I used to really be against all the PC stuff, because I thought people can think for themselves, but far too many simply can't and by making it a rule, you're just weaning them off from using offensive language, be it gender or racial. Of course there will always be the - shall we say - less evolved person somewhere, referring to women in a derogatory term and thinks it's endearing or flattering, they tend to be the same who still believe gay is an insult instead of a sexual orientation, but it's really dying out.

Of course sometimes people go a bit too far with the whole PC thing, and everybody can find examples, just everybody can find examples where BDSM wasn't consensual but abuse, nothing is perfect, but in general there seems to be a whole new acceptance, and I do think that linguistics have helped to make a difference. Maybe not quite as much as cognitivism, but by behaviourism but I don't see them as mutually exclusive.

Some companies have very formal structures, also the police in a way, used to puzzle me, and recently I talked to a cop (just a friend and we often walk the dogs together), I was joking that it must be really hard for them to call a drunk offender still Sir. He explained to me that it's basically a language barrier that also helps to avoid a flare up of violence, you call somebody Sir, you are reminding the person of social structures, show respect, but that it's actually also keeping the police officer in check, his exact comment was "Most of the people we have to arrest aren't very nice and we don't like them, they often kick off, it's harder to say Sir A-hole, than you a-hole, which really would kick things off!"

Come to think about it, language is quite a powerful tool...


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RE: Do descriptors such as white (or black), make a per... - 3/2/2014 8:26:45 PM   
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This whole conversation is rich considering the OP is very bigoted toward certain classes of white folks. Words like "white trash" are considered acceptable and even vehemently defended by her (check old posts and a debate we had here a long while back if you don't believe me) yet even discussing one's own race is racist? Simply rich. The open-mindedness needs to extend just a bit further.

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RE: Do descriptors such as white (or black), make a per... - 3/3/2014 2:06:30 AM   
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I'm quite careful when it comes to certain classes of people, does that make me prejudiced? A group of youngsters who dresses a certain way, I tend to stay away from them as I don't want to provoke incidents, there recently were warning signs up at every vet, dog theft happened a lot, coincidentally this happens a lot when travellers are in the area, and a lot of people reported that they tried to intimidate them and take their dogs off them. So I won't leave mine out of sight when I hear they are anywhere near, I don't go round and scream "Eff off Gypos" or do anything like that, but I am going to be more careful, just the same that I won't walk the dogs anywhere near where groups of youngsters hang out, who are dressed a certain way, drinking beer out of cans and have rather aggressive dogs they don't have under control. I don't claim that each of them steals dogs or is a violent thug, but I would be stupid to put myself or the dogs into a situation where they could get stolen or injured. Just like I don't believe everybody is a burglar, I still lock my front and back door...

I have Jewish friends who make jokes about Jews, that I couldn't or wouldn't ever dream of making, it's their own ethnic or religious group, it's a bit different, if I'd make them they'd be offended, because in that case I'd be an outsider.

Since White Trash seems to offend you so much, are you talking about the definition of the Urban Dictionary and are you offended on behalf of Paris Hilton or the Jerry Springer audience?

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RE: Do descriptors such as white (or black), make a per... - 3/4/2014 7:45:18 PM   
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ORIGINAL: ChatteParfaitt

This was touched off by a brief conversation that got pulled for being off topic (quite rightly is was a major thread jack that I participated in, so my apologies to the mods.)

A personal described himself as a white male in his profile, and I responded with this:

BTW: Describing yourself as a white sub male makes you sound racist. Just a heads up.

A person responded by saying they thought I was being far too sensitive, and we had a brief (and friendly) back and forth about the issue.

What do you think? Is describing yourself as white or black or some other ethnicity racist?

How about those who only want a white woman or a black man or whatever?

The black bull has certainly become quite the stereotype in our sub-culture, is that racist?



I define myself as a white male sub.

Largely because I'm a white male sub.

I wouldn't define myself as a non white male sub because well....I'm white.

I don't find it racist to define myself as a white male sub because....I'm a white male sub.


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RE: Do descriptors such as white (or black), make a per... - 3/8/2014 8:41:56 PM   
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There is a thread in P&R that asks are whites fearful of the police. What if it had been worded are blacks fearful of the police? Are either of those statements racial? Neither? or both

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RE: Do descriptors such as white (or black), make a per... - 3/8/2014 10:56:44 PM   
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~FR~ Mostly because I don't feel like reading a hundred posts (I tried, I really did.)

Declaring your race is just part of a description. Myself? I'm not white; I'm more of a pink with beige highlights.

I have never met anyone who is actually black either. Some people are darker than others, that's true. But with the exception of albinos I've never met anyone that is either black or white.

Races are a myth based on late 19th century eugenics.

I prefer the look of East-Asian women not from some sort of racist view - I just think the epicanthic eyefold is sexy. It has no bearing on the quality of the person. That is a matter of preference, not of racism. Some like blondes, some like brunettes. I prefer red hair. Bring me an Asian Redhead and I will be totally smitten - assuming she isn't a -let's say- woman of less than savory character.

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RE: Do descriptors such as white (or black), make a per... - 3/10/2014 4:14:18 PM   
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Self descriptions pertaining to race don't offend me, LOL. Only if someone is dishonest about who or what they are.
Do they really offend some people? Find it hard to believe. I'm Saint Lucian and Martiniquan descent with a bit of Arawak mix (25%) but mostly afrocentric. It is just easier to say "black", I don't consider myself that mixed but sometimes I wish "islander" was an option because that's actually a huge deal. I have more in common with a Puerto Rican than an African American or African. But it is what it is. Someone's dating preferences don't offend me either. We all have our preferences, descriptions just eliminate the guesswork. Honestly my official race is "West Indian" but it is NEVER an option. I should gripe about this, haha. Kidding. :)

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RE: Do descriptors such as white (or black), make a per... - 3/10/2014 9:21:40 PM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: ChatteParfaitt

This was touched off by a brief conversation that got pulled for being off topic (quite rightly is was a major thread jack that I participated in, so my apologies to the mods.)

A personal described himself as a white male in his profile, and I responded with this:

BTW: Describing yourself as a white sub male makes you sound racist. Just a heads up.

A person responded by saying they thought I was being far too sensitive, and we had a brief (and friendly) back and forth about the issue.

What do you think? Is describing yourself as white or black or some other ethnicity racist?

How about those who only want a white woman or a black man or whatever?

The black bull has certainly become quite the stereotype in our sub-culture, is that racist?



How does a person describing themselves as white make them a racist, any more than a person that describes themselves as a Jew make them certain of the Holocaust?

I describe myself as Norwegian.

I respect Swedes (but I recognize the fact that they have hard heads and eat stoooopit food....well....so do most Norwegians, but that's beside the fact).

I'm white.

Others are (other colors).

And?

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RE: Do descriptors such as white (or black), make a per... - 3/11/2014 5:05:19 AM   
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quote:

I respect Swedes (but I recognize the fact that they have hard heads and eat stoooopit food....well....so do most Norwegians, but that's beside the fact).


2 words: Lutefisk and Aquavit...

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RE: Do descriptors such as white (or black), make a per... - 3/11/2014 5:29:51 AM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: slaveluci

This whole conversation is rich considering the OP is very bigoted toward certain classes of white folks. Words like "white trash" are considered acceptable and even vehemently defended by her (check old posts and a debate we had here a long while back if you don't believe me) yet even discussing one's own race is racist? Simply rich. The open-mindedness needs to extend just a bit further.

luci


I don't even remember using white trash as a term (unless I was joking) but I'm intrigued. Please show the thread.


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RE: Do descriptors such as white (or black), make a per... - 3/11/2014 6:09:46 AM   
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Regarding that Swedes should have hard heads. My friends in Malmø tells me they know of plenty of people over there which is soft in the heads. Just look in Riksdagan up in Stockholm.
Regarding the funny foods I find it amusing coming from an American when I think of the utter crap they eat in that country and seem hell bent on spreading to the rest of the world. Ok I must admit that surstrømninger and Jønson fristelser also makes me get out the door fast.
By the way, the Norwegians produce one of the best aquavits in the world. “Linie Aquavit”. Else I am more to the Danish Jubilæums snaps as my favorite compliment to a nice herring on rye.

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RE: Do descriptors such as white (or black), make a per... - 3/15/2014 10:58:55 AM   
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It doesn't seem racist to me, at least not without some other context which implies that white is the best race.


Athena, I've been reading your posts for a couple of years now and I have the impression, over time, that you are attuned to individuals, and hold no malice towards others based on things they cannot control. You just never came across as racist, IMO. It doesn't fit how you seem to relate to others.

^^^ The quote struck me as racist because it negates the possibility that in a racist scenario, it's the white whom is discriminated against and the non-white whom is the racist.

BUT, that's out of context, right? Taken by itself, that quote seems racist.

The quote begins with the word "It" which refers to the poster whose profile emphasized racial whiteness. Your sentence, which I quoted above, simply says that the profile writer may simply be thorough and is not stating any kind of value judgment on race, itself.

Out of context, it appears racist, even though it isn't. Interesting, huh?



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RE: Do descriptors such as white (or black), make a per... - 3/15/2014 12:16:10 PM   
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ORIGINAL: ChatteParfaitt

What do you think? Is describing yourself as white or black or some other ethnicity racist?

Tone and context would determine if it were a racist statement or not. "I'm white." can be a statement of fact or it can be an assertion of something ugly or it can be an assertion of something beautiful.

How about those who only want a white woman or a black man or whatever?

Well, literally, having criteria based on race, is racist. Again, racist may be something factual, beautiful or ugly.

The black bull has certainly become quite the stereotype in our sub-culture, is that racist?

Hmmm, no. I don't think so because while the blackness is definitely a part of the black bull, I think it's more about the bull. In other words, it's specific. Do we really picture ALL black men when we picture the black bull? LOL I think not. It seems more like a comical stereotype because it's not derogatory; it's appreciative. Like, hot Latino or California girls.



CP, I remember growing up with a goofy smile saying, "Black is beautiful." Fast forward a couple of decades and I'm being chided for saying, "Black" instead of "African-American." WTF??? NO!

1) Only some black people are of African descent.

2) Not all black people in America are Americans!

3) Until someone starts calling me, "Irish-American" and not, "white," I can't bother my ass to call anyone else such a tedious waste of hyphenated syllables. I say, "assimilate."

ETA - fixed color


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RE: Do descriptors such as white (or black), make a per... - 3/15/2014 2:01:21 PM   
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ORIGINAL: BecomingV

1) Only some black people are of African descent.

2) Not all black people in America are Americans!


Unless someone has a stated individual preference or refers to herself/himself as such, it's a Catch 22 because some non-African blacks get highly offended by being referred to as "African," Islanders for instance (who had African ancestors originally a century or so ago).

Asians don't seem to mind it so much as long as you don't mistake their nationality. Don't ever call a Korean person Japanese or Chinese. Don't even get their martial arts mixed up, calling taek-won-do by the name of karate - or heaven forbid judo-jujitsu - or Kung Fu. Most of the older Asians are used to these faux pas of having to correct Westerners constantly.

The term Native-American is also tricky since there are many who identify as [insert name of tribal nation here] Indians. Where that becomes an issue is when needing to make a distinction between those of native-born American lineage and East Indians from Asia or West Indians from the islands.

[Edited for punctuation]

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