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RE: Vanilla Sex? - 3/17/2014 11:48:41 AM

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I think I define vanilla sex as just doing it without thinking so much, lol.

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RE: Vanilla Sex? - 3/17/2014 11:54:34 AM

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It is what is in my head which counts. If I feel submissive to a man then whatever he does where I comply is submission to me, A vanilla man having sex with me may be doing exactly the same things physically but the former is sexy for me and the latter is not.

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RE: Vanilla Sex? - 3/17/2014 8:23:04 PM

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I don't like vanilla sex, but I can make myself do it if he really, really wants it and doesn't try to make it reciprocal - because in my mind, I'm submitting to his desires, so it doesn't completely turn me off. I'd enjoy it a hell of a lot more if he was rough with me, but I can tolerate vanilla if I can believe it's purely a service to him and not for me at all.

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RE: Vanilla Sex? - 3/18/2014 1:42:59 AM

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I've gone back into 2 vanilla relationships since I discovered myself. Neither worked. That being said, even what others would consider "vanilla"sex, when I'm in a D/s dynamic, the term "vanilla" defined by the OP, still has the power exchange. I'm not a bedroom only /s, so I guess vanilla would be impossible.
It's not always kinky BDSM, though. Not by a long shot.

Expanding on the thought. Kinky or not. She knows who controls who.

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RE: Vanilla Sex? - 3/18/2014 6:41:55 AM

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Ok, this question is a little awkward and personal, so feel free not to answer.

Does anyone here have vanilla, no BDSM, no D/s sex with your partner? Just pure enjoyment and contentment without any of the kink or dominance structure there? I know most of the people here are heavily kinky and/or D/s, but does anyone still do vanilla at times, and if so, why?

I haven't ever been wired for Nilla sex... ever. I've always been a primal freak... hand wound in hair, pulling her head back as she's face down, teeth latched into the neck... YUM! Dragged to the edge of the bed, legs over my shoulders, her wrists tight in my hands, pulled into me hard, rampage MONSTER! Dress ripped from her as she's hanging laundry on the line, tackled, BANGED THE FUCK OUT RIGHT THERE, RIGHT NOW!

The only "Nicholas Sparks" you get from me is on the TV.

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RE: Vanilla Sex? - 3/18/2014 6:56:45 AM

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To ExiledTyrant My GOSH!

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I haven't ever been wired for Nilla sex... ever. I've always been a primal freak... hand wound in hair, pulling her head back as she's face down, teeth latched into the neck... YUM! Dragged to the edge of the bed, legs over my shoulders, her wrists tight in my hands, pulled into me hard, rampage MONSTER! Dress ripped from her as she's hanging laundry on the line, tackled, BANGED THE FUCK OUT RIGHT THERE, RIGHT NOW!

The only "Nicholas Sparks" you get from me is on the TV.

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RE: Vanilla Sex? - 3/18/2014 7:38:38 AM

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Was it something I said?

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RE: Vanilla Sex? - 3/18/2014 7:59:29 AM

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To ExiledTyrant: It is always something you said.

But you know that!

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RE: Vanilla Sex? - 3/18/2014 8:03:11 AM

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To ExiledTyrant: It is always something you said. But you know that!

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RE: Vanilla Sex? - 3/18/2014 12:00:16 PM

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ORIGINAL: pg4g

Ok, this question is a little awkward and personal, so feel free not to answer.

Does anyone here have vanilla, no BDSM, no D/s sex with your partner? Just pure enjoyment and contentment without any of the kink or dominance structure there? I know most of the people here are heavily kinky and/or D/s, but does anyone still do vanilla at times, and if so, why?

I haven't ever been wired for Nilla sex... ever. I've always been a primal freak... hand wound in hair, pulling her head back as she's face down, teeth latched into the neck... YUM! Dragged to the edge of the bed, legs over my shoulders, her wrists tight in my hands, pulled into me hard, rampage MONSTER! Dress ripped from her as she's hanging laundry on the line, tackled, BANGED THE FUCK OUT RIGHT THERE, RIGHT NOW!

The only "Nicholas Sparks" you get from me is on the TV.

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Ha! Don't let him fool you, girls. He can channel Nicholas Sparks, big time!!!

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RE: Vanilla Sex? - 3/18/2014 12:01:26 PM

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Narc!

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RE: Vanilla Sex? - 3/18/2014 12:15:48 PM

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There went YOUR rep

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RE: Vanilla Sex? - 3/18/2014 12:21:16 PM

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My miss fluff is sooooo not a narc!!!! You take that back Mister uber Domly Buttercup! Why I oughta...

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RE: Vanilla Sex? - 3/18/2014 12:21:58 PM

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There went YOUR rep

Shit.

It was a good run while it lasted.

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RE: Vanilla Sex? - 3/18/2014 1:14:49 PM

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Hmmm I like rough vanilla sex, but that soft, cuddly stuff really isn't my thing. Bring on the animalistic roughness and I'll forgo commands, power dynamics, and kink, but don't make me have slow, "sensual" sex - I'm just not wired for it.

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RE: Vanilla Sex? - 3/18/2014 2:03:27 PM

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quote:

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There went YOUR rep

Shit.

It was a good run while it lasted.

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Would that be the right time to bring up that you can't fall asleep with out your cuddly blanket? I'm sure you could claim the cuddly blanket is a fetish you have ;)

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RE: Vanilla Sex? - 3/18/2014 2:09:41 PM

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Nu uh!

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RE: Vanilla Sex? - 3/18/2014 2:17:23 PM

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Nu uh!

Oh yes

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RE: Vanilla Sex? - 3/18/2014 2:22:46 PM

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hand wound in hair, pulling her head back as she's face down, teeth latched into the neck... YUM! Dragged to the edge of the bed, legs over my shoulders, her wrists tight in my hands, pulled into me hard, rampage MONSTER! Dress ripped from her as she's hanging laundry on the line, tackled, BANGED THE FUCK OUT RIGHT THERE, RIGHT NOW!

I still call that vanilla sex. (I know it isn't according to the OPs definition).

I need toys for sex not to register as vanilla. The above is just rough vanilla sex to me.

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RE: Vanilla Sex? - 3/18/2014 2:32:44 PM

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*shrugs*

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