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RE: What do subs or slaves seek in a Master - 3/29/2014 7:00:32 PM

LadyConstanze

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OK, if I was a submissive woman, it still wouldn't tell me much about what you have to OFFER and who you are as a person...

Again, imagine somebody close to you (sister, very dear female friend) would be submissive and you are looking for her, what would you like to see in a profile that would make you recommend that profile for her?

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RE: What do subs or slaves seek in a Master - 3/29/2014 8:56:10 PM

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I am a Master of over 23 years experience and I seek a sub or slave to become my true one.

My question is what qualities and traits do subs or slaves look for to find the right Master or Dom for them

NM.

I would say your mentors did a terrible job if they haven't taught you any life skills, especially how to not throw a temper tantrum or tell people what to do.

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RE: What do subs or slaves seek in a Master - 3/29/2014 9:57:27 PM

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So in the past 20 years you've had 15 relationships. Did any of them make it past the five year mark? The ten?

Because that matters to me a lot more than whether or not he can swing a bullwhip.

As far as aftercare, not everyone wants it and not everyone wants the same thing. Do you tailor that for the individual? Do you ask them what they need and if so, do you believe them? Or do you think that even though she says she needs alone time to process things that she's either lying or totally out of touch with herself and you know better even if you've just met?

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RE: What do subs or slaves seek in a Master - 3/29/2014 9:57:32 PM

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subbi, now if you'd be straight and I wouldn't be married, that list might make me propose ;)

Now that is an honor. I thank you.

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RE: What do subs or slaves seek in a Master - 3/30/2014 11:31:11 AM

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I met my Master on a forum (not CM) and one thing I watched for before we became involved in-person was how he interacted with other members especially when a thread got heated or there were differences of opinions. He always kept his cool, he could state his POV or answer questions without being rude or disrespectful. That gave me some insight how he handles himself, if he was rude or lost his cool I would have lost all interest in getting to know him.

What I look for when meeting in-person is how he speaks to me, treats me and how he speaks to and treats others. He needs to want to know me and be interested in who I am, what makes me tick, what I'm passionate about in life not just me as a submissive, not just sexually or what kinks I'm into but me as a person and I want to know the same about him.

I look at how he handles everyday life, stresses, conflicts, etc. He needs to have self-control and not fly off the handle. If we're having a disagreement or problems we need to deal with in any part of our relationship, we can talk about it rationally without getting pissy, without tempers flaring, without getting disrespectful. Being able to easily communicate about anything and everything is very important to me, I'm not a mind reader and I won't play guessing games. I need to have the desire to submit to him, the desire to follow his lead, fulfill his commands not because he's a Dom but because he has what it takes for me to have the desire to please him. I'm affectionate, compassionate, understanding and want those things in him. The traits I look for in a Dom are the same traits I hold myself to. We need to be compatible in what we both want in the whole relationship. He can be an expert at swinging a flogger, he could be a great lay, he could be everything I want with BDSM but if he falls short of the things I want in a 24/7 Dom, in a long term relationship then he won't be in my life.

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RE: What do subs or slaves seek in a Master - 3/30/2014 12:07:30 PM

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If you really had 23 years, you wouldn't have to ask.....

This is the first thing that passed my mind. Also, in reading the profile, I began to wonder all the more.

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RE: What do subs or slaves seek in a Master - 3/31/2014 6:42:00 AM

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I updated my profile I will accept advice but please just advice from now ok

It is hard for me to voice my thoughts to people so if I come off rude I am sorry again

You should look at my profile. I am very detailed and specific, I am sure it is more extreme than what you would want to do, but I lay out who I am and what others can expect.

Jus sayin

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RE: What do subs or slaves seek in a Master - 4/20/2014 9:24:34 PM

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Here ya go LadyPact

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RE: What do subs or slaves seek in a Master - 5/13/2014 6:11:05 PM

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Frankly, I think the whole " I'm a master for 23 years" thing s a lie. Why? Because that is when u started being mentored, not when u became a master.

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