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RE: Slut Shaming - 2/27/2015 8:48:15 AM

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See..I don't want to penis shame either.

Slut shaming helps no one. Slut celebrating helps everyone.

I always find it so weird that no one can see that. Like want ladies to rock your world like a pornstar? LET THE GIRL WATCH PORN IF SHE WANTS.
Want to put it up her butt? STOP CALLING OTHER LADIES WHO HAVE ANAL WHORES.
Want her to feel ok enough with you to drown you in female ejaculate? Stop acting like she's a slut for being turned on that much by sex.
Want her to bang a girl with you? Stop telling her she probably has herpes.

EVERYONE WINS!
I don't understand it. Really. Its stupid.

And it goes back SO far I could just scream. Women have been constantly kept in check sexually by this crap- and its better today than in like...the 1800's- but still FinDommes, Sex Workers, and Strippers can't get any respect for choosing to do that. If a girl has a lot of one night stands (Snooki) its assumed she has a VD- its so crazy to me that is assumed she has a VD but not a guy who does the same thing. (not that I'm saying Snooki is some feminist icon- I'm not at all...but still- folks choose to shame her for the wrong things...)

STUPID.
Furthermore all this does is put unnecessary emphasis on female virginity- which makes those who aren't of age seem appealing. It makes a girl losing her virginity important to her for all the wrong reasons. It makes a virgin who is raped, that much more shamed.

Slut shaming is so stupid.

I'd really like to see this entire thing over ------> https://fetlife.com/groups/116207

It's a very powerful post, shifty

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RE: Slut Shaming - 2/27/2015 8:56:04 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: shiftyw

See..I don't want to penis shame either.

Slut shaming helps no one. Slut celebrating helps everyone.

I always find it so weird that no one can see that. Like want ladies to rock your world like a pornstar? LET THE GIRL WATCH PORN IF SHE WANTS.
Want to put it up her butt? STOP CALLING OTHER LADIES WHO HAVE ANAL WHORES.
Want her to feel ok enough with you to drown you in female ejaculate? Stop acting like she's a slut for being turned on that much by sex.
Want her to bang a girl with you? Stop telling her she probably has herpes.

EVERYONE WINS!
I don't understand it. Really. Its stupid.

And it goes back SO far I could just scream. Women have been constantly kept in check sexually by this crap- and its better today than in like...the 1800's- but still FinDommes, Sex Workers, and Strippers can't get any respect for choosing to do that. If a girl has a lot of one night stands (Snooki) its assumed she has a VD- its so crazy to me that is assumed she has a VD but not a guy who does the same thing. (not that I'm saying Snooki is some feminist icon- I'm not at all...but still- folks choose to shame her for the wrong things...)

STUPID.
Furthermore all this does is put unnecessary emphasis on female virginity- which makes those who aren't of age seem appealing. It makes a girl losing her virginity important to her for all the wrong reasons. It makes a virgin who is raped, that much more shamed.

Slut shaming is so stupid.

QFT

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RE: Slut Shaming - 2/27/2015 9:15:26 AM

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I call it sexuality shaming instead of slut shaming, semantics but words are important to me.

I've seen pressure for all genders. Young boys are pressed to have sex to prove they are a man, young girls get pressed to keep their legs together to prove they are going to be worthy later.

Shaming over sexuality is dangerous to people IME. I also find it just plain weird.

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RE: Slut Shaming - 2/27/2015 9:38:31 AM

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If a guy loses respect for me once we have had a great time together, then I lose respect for him. How can my sexuality be a bad thing when he is just as sexually involved? I have never felt bad about it, if he does, that's HIS problem; not mine!

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RE: Slut Shaming - 2/27/2015 9:54:27 AM

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Yah I could never buy into that "make him wait" or he'll "lose interest".

Because if he loses interest after having sex with me, how much interest could he have in the first place?
I'm all for waiting- if thats whats right for you- but fear of him "nailing and bailing" is just another source of this crap. You should have sex because you WANT to- not because you think he finally "deserves it" or has "stuck around long enough" or some made up rule dictated that you waited the appropriate amount of time.

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RE: Slut Shaming - 2/27/2015 10:02:21 AM

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And if he won't kiss you after he came in your mouth, he's got issues.

Jus sayin

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RE: Slut Shaming - 2/27/2015 10:07:49 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: shiftyw

Yah I could never buy into that "make him wait" or he'll "lose interest".

Because if he loses interest after having sex with me, how much interest could he have in the first place?
I'm all for waiting- if thats whats right for you- but fear of him "nailing and bailing" is just another source of this crap. You should have sex because you WANT to- not because you think he finally "deserves it" or has "stuck around long enough" or some made up rule dictated that you waited the appropriate amount of time.

But we are not s'posed to want it! SNORT

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RE: Slut Shaming - 2/27/2015 10:11:20 AM

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There's one more 'lets stop calling' we can add to shiftyw's list: Lets stop calling people cocksuckers.
Cuz the subliminal effect is as far reaching (even worse) when used metaphorically, non-sexually.

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RE: Slut Shaming - 2/27/2015 10:12:56 AM

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ORIGINAL: Extravagasm

There's one more 'lets stop calling' we can add to shiftyw's list: Lets stop calling people cocksuckers.
Cuz the subliminal effect is as far reaching (even worse) when used metaphorically, non-sexually.

I keep trying to find where the issue is, but I guess I've never had anyone do it so badly that it became a bad thing for me (shrugs)

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RE: Slut Shaming - 2/27/2015 10:26:30 AM

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ORIGINAL: Extravagasm

There's one more 'lets stop calling' we can add to shiftyw's list: Lets stop calling people cocksuckers.
Cuz the subliminal effect is as far reaching (even worse) when used metaphorically, non-sexually.

Because of the effect it might have on homosexuality?
Because of the effect it might have on women?

Elaborate. Cocksucker isn't a phrase I think I've ever used in any capacity. It seems really used against straight males and by straight males...at least typically?

I understand that it IS a dig at those who suck cock. I have probably avoided using it because I don't disrespect anyone who sucks cock, for sucking cock...

Is that what you are getting at?

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RE: Slut Shaming - 2/27/2015 11:03:23 AM

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Of course I grew up thinking slut was a bad thing. But time and maturity won out and here's what I figure

1: Don't hate me because I have more experience than you (and could put YOU to shame in the bedroom) [general 'you']

2: I am His slut...there's a difference

3: Not my issue if I've had more fun in life than you have [again, general 'you']

So, to all the slut shamers out there, kiss off and grow up. Your petty jealousy only shows just how immature you really are. And btw, that's PRINCESS Slut to you!! LMAO

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RE: Slut Shaming - 2/27/2015 11:11:19 AM

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I like cock suckers, especially when their mascara gets all runny, good look. PS, sluts are hot.

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RE: Slut Shaming - 2/27/2015 11:12:36 AM

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OMG, Princess Slut, you should really join Fet.

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RE: Slut Shaming - 2/27/2015 11:19:42 AM

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ORIGINAL: ExiledTyrant

OMG, Princess Slut, you should really join Fet.

I am a member, just can't remember my login info,, but I'll try hehe

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RE: Slut Shaming - 2/27/2015 11:20:10 AM

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Some of the fuckin sluts out here aughtta be ashamed because I ain't got no blowjobs.

Jus sayin.

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RE: Slut Shaming - 2/27/2015 11:24:10 AM

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Some of the fuckin sluts out here aughtta be ashamed because I ain't got no blowjobs.

Jus sayin.

Can't quite call them cocksuckers if they fail to deliver, canya?

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RE: Slut Shaming - 2/27/2015 11:26:00 AM

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lmfao, we are perverts. OK, maybe just me. I'll take the brunt of this.

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RE: Slut Shaming - 2/27/2015 11:31:35 AM

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ORIGINAL: GoddessManko

lmfao, we are perverts. OK, maybe just me. I'll take the brunt of this.

Ya know wot they say... pervs of a feather post on threads together.

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RE: Slut Shaming - 2/27/2015 11:34:04 AM

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ORIGINAL: ExiledTyrant

quote:

ORIGINAL: mnottertail

Some of the fuckin sluts out here aughtta be ashamed because I ain't got no blowjobs.

Jus sayin.

Can't quite call them cocksuckers if they fail to deliver, canya?

think of all the paypigs and whatnot that have been cockblocked by visa.

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RE: Slut Shaming - 2/27/2015 4:17:28 PM

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But I thought sluts were shameless?

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