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RE: Call me weird .... - 3/22/2015 11:42:51 PM

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I meant no disrespect, sexyred. I was only meaning to say NO I would not allow a guy to shave my head, I do empathize with those who have no choice in the matter

My comment was not directed to you, but to the OP, who ignored it, which tells me everything I need to know about their lack of empathy and humanity.

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RE: Call me weird .... - 3/23/2015 2:40:06 AM

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If you shave her head to teach her what her place is, that is humiliation. Because you've decided that she's of less value.

As far as it goes practically, what kind of job does she have? Are you paying for her loss of income?

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RE: Call me weird .... - 3/23/2015 2:44:46 AM

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So this would be a hard limit for you. Fair enough.

Yet some subs need to be stripped of their vanity for a multitude of reasons, to better serve their Dom/me, and often themselves. To what extent that happens depends on the people involved.

And there's nothing to say that the hair can't be donated to LocksOfLove.org to help a child that wasn't fortunate enough to keep their hair through their chemo.

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RE: Call me weird .... - 3/23/2015 4:13:44 AM

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Hmm. The tone of this thread changed somewhat.

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RE: Call me weird .... - 3/23/2015 5:32:24 AM

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My comment was not directed to you, but to the OP, who ignored it, which tells me everything I need to know about their lack of empathy and humanity.

I didn't ignore it. I read it, considered it and moved on. You're welcome to your opinion. The point of the post has nothing at all to do with medical or religious concerns or the oppression of women. yet that's where you and a couple others went. What your responses do show is just how precious and protective most of you feel of having your hair. That would make shaving your head a hard limit and make the point of just how vain you may well be. Again. that's up to you not me.

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RE: Call me weird .... - 3/23/2015 5:46:20 AM

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And there's nothing to say that the hair can't be donated to LocksOfLove.org to help a child that wasn't fortunate enough to keep their hair through their chemo.

Yes that's exactly right and where I've sent hair in the past. I sent my own hair there when last my hair was down to my ass (I must say I've a very ugly bald head)

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RE: Call me weird .... - 3/23/2015 6:28:29 AM

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ORIGINAL: ChrchofDrk

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My comment was not directed to you, but to the OP, who ignored it, which tells me everything I need to know about their lack of empathy and humanity.

I didn't ignore it. I read it, considered it and moved on. You're welcome to your opinion. The point of the post has nothing at all to do with medical or religious concerns or the oppression of women. yet that's where you and a couple others went. What your responses do show is just how precious and protective most of you feel of having your hair. That would make shaving your head a hard limit and make the point of just how vain you may well be. Again. that's up to you not me.

Yeah. I was kinda on the fence between SexyReds take on this, and your original OP. After THIS comment???? I agree with Red. I hate your reasoning.

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RE: Call me weird .... - 3/23/2015 7:00:16 AM

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....Yet some subs need to be stripped of their vanity for a multitude of reasons, to better serve their Dom/me, and often themselves. To what extent that happens depends on the people involved.

In your opinion, why would this be necessary? How does stripping a sub's sense of vanity makes their ability to serve better?

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RE: Call me weird .... - 3/23/2015 7:30:38 AM

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Isn't vanity (or in other words pride) one of the seven deadly sins?

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RE: Call me weird .... - 3/23/2015 7:34:43 AM

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Isn't vanity (or in other words pride) one of the seven deadly sins?

"lust" and "wrath" are in that silly list as well...

What's your point??

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RE: Call me weird .... - 3/23/2015 7:45:24 AM

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"lust" and "wrath" are in that silly list as well...

What's your point??

Just that vanity isn't really considered a good thing. So why would you want your slave to be vane? Vanity doesn't serve anyone but the person themselves

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RE: Call me weird .... - 3/23/2015 8:08:37 AM

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I've never been a fan of degradation or humiliation myself. However, I am an advocate of if it harms no one, do as you will.

This is just my take on the whole humiliation theme. Some people get off on it, and they say they aren't harmed. I say kudos for doing your thing.

Personally, I'm not convinced that no harm is done when people are demeaned/humiliated/degraded(whatever) and just because something trips a person's trigger doesn't necessarily make it the best thing for them. What it boils down to - is it isn't my call.

Unless we are not talking about consensual relationships between people who are doing their thing; and last I checked, slaves/submissives/Dominants/Masters in a consensual relationship are just that. Making choices for themselves as is fitting.

Yeah, I think it is weird, but on a scale of all that is weird in WIITWD it barely registers for me.

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RE: Call me weird .... - 3/23/2015 8:11:45 AM

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I know several women who can rock the bald look. One is a woman that I've known since college. Shortly after we graduated, I was at the salon with her. She had gotten so fed up with the time and effort it took to get her hair the way she liked it, that she just said "shave it". 20 years later, and this is just part of her "look". Knowing her for as long as I have though, I would venture to say that she would *not* have done it if her partner had insisted.

I wouldn't do it. I happen to really like my hair. I don't feel the need to state it as a "hard limit" because I'm simply not going to be with someone who feels that this would be a good idea for me.

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RE: Call me weird .... - 3/23/2015 8:38:02 AM

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"lust" and "wrath" are in that silly list as well...

What's your point??

Just that vanity isn't really considered a good thing. So why would you want your slave to be vane? Vanity doesn't serve anyone but the person themselves

Learn the difference between vanity and a healthy self-esteem.

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RE: Call me weird .... - 3/23/2015 8:41:15 AM

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ORIGINAL: ChrchofDrk

I didn't ignore it. I read it, considered it and moved on. You're welcome to your opinion. The point of the post has nothing at all to do with medical or religious concerns or the oppression of women. yet that's where you and a couple others went. What your responses do show is just how precious and protective most of you feel of having your hair. That would make shaving your head a hard limit and make the point of just how vain you may well be. Again. that's up to you not me.

I was with you until that sentence right there. I agree, it wasn't a matter of medical or religious reasons, it was a matter of if others thought a bald head on a woman was sexy. I do hate how folks sometimes turn things into a personal attack, and lash out on something that had nothing to do with how they're offended. That being said, saying that those of us who love our hair are vain is ludicrous. I love my hair for several reasons, one of which being that I can have fun with it both in and out of the bedroom, making it an awesome accessory. If that alone makes me vain, then go ahead and stamp that big red V on my forehead, my hair will cover it up anyway.

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RE: Call me weird .... - 3/23/2015 11:15:25 AM

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Some women can totally rock the bald look, some not so much. I have the feeling I'd be in the latter group, I think my head is lopsided although I'm not really sure lol. I'd just hate to shave my head and discover that yup, I'm lumpy headed. Otherwise I have little vanity about my hair itself. To me it is just hair that hangs off my head, usually in a really unstyled way.

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RE: Call me weird .... - 3/23/2015 11:37:45 AM

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My hair is a part of my personality. I don't see it as vain to want to express myself through it.

I just think the reasoning behind this is kinda weird. Also- you can bet it would effect the employment oppoutunities of the slave. So I'd hope that you would be prepared to support them...

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RE: Call me weird .... - 3/23/2015 11:51:31 AM

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Personally, I don't think a BDSM kink and an awful physical affliction that looks related belong in the same thread. Even to bring up the subject of blindfolds, for instance, with a partner who's been informed that she or he is about to go blind is ... well, pretty unthinkable. Likewise CBT, perhaps, with a man who's looking at losing a testicle through testicular cancer. There could be lots of examples.

In the end this is a kink that works between consenting parties and for them alone.

Hmm. Would I draw the line at shaving off my own hair one the demand of my hypothetical femdom? Don't know. Actually it's difficult to imagine a femdom making that demand of me. My own locks are facken gorgeous.

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RE: Call me weird .... - 3/23/2015 12:03:16 PM

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That would make shaving your head a hard limit and make the point of just how vain you may well be.

Wait. Are you saying that having this kink as a hard limit makes one vain?

And you're making this claim after acknowledging medical and religious concerns?

Do you always look down on people who don't share your kinks?

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RE: Call me weird .... - 3/23/2015 12:10:37 PM

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Master had me bald for about a year... its so refreshing and freeing ..... I have short hair now but im contemplating asking to have him shave it again... just not right now

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