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ORIGINAL: mechski
Telling the truth has never been a problem for me. If I was trying to hide, I certainly wouldn't have said what I just said. I am already confused seeing how I feel that I am both dominant and submissive at the same time, go figure. Dominant about some things, yet submissive about others. With that being said, you are telling me what to do, when I usually don't respond well to "being told what to do" I know that statement is counterintuitive when it comes to feeling dom and submissive at the same time. What can I say, I'm complicated. BTW) I am no longer newatdis..I am now an apprentice.

There's a saying as we get older that rings true, which goes something like this. The more we learn, the more we realize how much more there is to learn. I've also heard it expressed as, The more we learn in life, the more we realize that we don't really know half the shit we thought we did.

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ORIGINAL: mechski
Lol, shouldn't I be blocked? You will never be more dominant than me. Maybe you can act like, and think that with a willing man that is into S/M. But, I have the one thing that you don't "a dick"...and regarding what you said earlier. I bet I could even buy a bigger one than you.

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ORIGINAL: mechski

Thanks for NOT jumping on the bandwagon, and having something positive to say.

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ORIGINAL: mechski

Some of you are something else, I have not said anything unkind to anyone that has been remotely nice, or offered advice in a non attacking way. Whether I like the advice or not. If, the advice is a bunch of bullshit, based on what you think you know, I am going to say what I think. And its not my fault a lot of you jump to your own conclusions and think you know me so well.

Since comparisons like to made, an analogy; when I typed "get this through your THICK SKULL".... how did people perceive my emotional state at that time? Did you envision me angry, screaming, kicking my dog and gritting my teeth, or did you envision that I was actually laughing, thinking how funny it is. Is it really my problem with whatever people think or come up with? Some of you seem to think that I am mad, angry, being defensive, whatever. I can only say for like the umpteenth time that I am not, I think it is funny as fuck that we have been arguing mostly about my life, myself and none of you know me at all. Just your twisted idea of who I am.

Someone asked me what I want in a relationship. I responded with something like "I want a woman that will fuck me all the time" ...that statement is true, but does it really describe everything? Not at all, and how someone perceives that statement is not my problem. They can perceive it anyway they want, and attack me on their own perceptions (they could have asked me to elaborate, to gather more information before jumping to their own conclusion and attacking) BTW) a more accurate statement would be, I want a woman that I can't resist, when I look at her I just want to fuck her, and have her feel exactly the same way.

Again, some of you are really something else.

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ORIGINAL: Greta75

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For a bunch of control-freaks, kinks, pervs, sadists, whatever (mostly the people society looks down on) a lot of you are judgemental fucks that think people should do, and act the way you want them to. That surprises me!

If you consider people into bdsm that are folks that society look down on, why would you want to be part of the crew that society look down on? Seriously...

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BTW) I started this thread being positive. Even let my nemesis know that I actually did get something out of her. But, you come along and fucked that all up with your know it all attitude and demand for conformity. I bet you don't have many actual real life friends. I have many, and for a very long time.

Not taking any responsibility for your own actions. You are blaming LP for your childish outburst again right now? Seriously?

LP can say whatever she wants, and so can many people online, but how you react to it, shows the kind of person you are. I actually have no beef with you, but I just don't believe you have the temperament suitable for a Master or a dominant.

People can be different online and in real life. I just hope in real life, you are different and have a better grip of your temper.

I am not friends with anybody on here, I am on my own Island, and together with LP and almost everybody who replied you, I have had heated disagreements with at one point of time or another. But still most of the time, I felt like it was adult to adult.

With you, so far, it's like dealing with a juvenile.

Also, if your first reply to LP was simply saying, "I change my user name because "Newatdis" seem to be like a bad username when I am trying to befriend people." That would have been the end of it. Just calmly explain the real reason you changed it. Nothing to get mad about.

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ORIGINAL: LilJuly76

to Mechski:

I read this whole thread and you done nothing but call people names and and make false accusations. You don't act like an adult at all. and honestly as a submissive I would never pick you to be my Dominant partner, if you are acting like a child and calling people names that tells me you aren't Dominant at all, just bossy and couldn't control anyone including yourself.

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ORIGINAL: freedomdwarf1

Seriously dude, you weren't exactly pleasant when you came to the boards.
You took umbrage and became very defensive because you thought that some were personally attacking you.
I didn't see anyone doing that.
They were sharp, even snarky, but they didn't attack you personally.
The fact that you started chomping at the bit is entirely on you.

I know cinnamon changed her name and I accept she did that because she'd been away for a while.
And I agree that 'newatdis' wasn't a great name to begin with.
But, even with your new name and supposedly starting over again, you aren't exactly doing a stellar job.

Whenever you join a new community, there will always be those that embrace new people and those that snark. But, you have to look and learn rather than snap back at those you consider to be attacking you.
It seems that you had (and still have) a hard time distinguishing between what was said and how it was said by taking criticism as a personal attack rather than a constructive comment or advice.

Personally, I think your original name is more apt at this point in time IMHO.
At least try to see what people are saying instead of getting your panties in a bunch and going on the defensive like Tarzan doing his chest-thumping thing and declaring you are somehow "better" than those that have been here for many years.
I'm not saying you need to conform to the lifestyle but you certainly need to adjust your way of thinking and your reactions if you want to fit in to this quirky community.
A bit like playing golf; judge the lie of the land before you start swinging at the ball.

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ORIGINAL: DaddySatyr

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ORIGINAL: mechski

Thanks for NOT jumping on the bandwagon, and having something positive to say.

Really, no thanks necessary.

The negativity and territory marking that pervades these boards is one of the reasons why few new people stay.

I am a member of several discussion boards (with a wide-range of foci) and this is the only place where I have ever seen newbies ... I was going to say "advised" but a more proper assessment would be ... admonished to "just read the boards for a few weeks" until they "get the hang of" the "right way to post". It's complete and undiluted bullshit, but the folks that are really in charge need to flex their muscle to make themselves feel important.

I strongly recommend using the "hide" button, located under each poster's avatar to just remove the negativity entirely from your experience and just enjoy the people that seem to want to bring some beneficial thoughts to the topic at hand.

Good luck and ...

Peace,



Michael

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ORIGINAL: Dvr22999874

I rarely give advice (it is usually well meant but ill taken when people do) but in this instance I will make an exception. Whether you take it or not, is entirely up to you. I really don't care as it can't affect me in any way.
Don't allow anybody to insult you. By this, I don't mean take umbrage at something somebody says to you and start lashing out like a demented snake. What I mean is........hear them out; study what they said and decide if it is true or a lie. If it is a lie, then just tell them they lied but DON'T follow up any further. Don't get into a slanging match about it. You know it's a lie and anybody who knows and trusts you knows it's a lie too and there is no need to keep justifying yourself, so no problem'
If it's the truth, just accept it and say, "Well, you could be right", and again, look at what they said carefully and figure out how to fix that problem rather than start blustering and lashing out like a spoiled kid. Never say anything more than, "Well, you could be right," and just keep repeating that. You will need nothing more I promise you, and again, no problem. Be sure of your ground before you use this advice though or it could easily backfire and make you look an even bigger fool or liar.

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ORIGINAL: satanscharmer

There have been a few posters that changed their name for one reason or another, myself included. I hadn't anticipated I was going to stick around, let alone participate, so I hadn't put much thought into the nick. I used the old one much longer than you, and divulged that information solely because of that. Most probably don't even remember my prior nick, and may never have seen where I mentioned it.
I don't see the big deal here. I have a problem with the argument to let people 'know who you really are' because such a small time under the prior name hardly tells us who you really are.