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RE: Do you think women date up and men date down? - 4/17/2016 6:08:02 PM   
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What a load of BS

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RE: Do you think women date up and men date down? - 4/18/2016 7:38:12 AM   
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I was reading a post about BDSM and dating sites. The posters said that typically women "date up" and men "date down". So that means if Barb was "dating up" and met Dan, that means Dan was "dating down" and met Barb.

I was wondering if this is just the opinion of a few. I wanted to ask a general question and see if people believe that women date up and men date down


I don't think it would apply to everyone. A while back, I read an article about women executives earning high salaries lamenting about how they can't find available men at a level equal or above where they are. If they limit themselves and refuse to date down, then they'll have far fewer choices available. It's simple mathematics. But I don't think most women actually do this, since I know lots of couples where the wife earns more money than the husband.





Oddly enough, I never really cared how much a partner earned, I never wanted to be a sugar mamma and keep a guy, so him not just being a slacker was a factor, but income never played into it, however, some guys really had a problem with me earning more than them, it usually took a while to surface, they would be extremely critical of other things, try and lecture me how to do my job and all that, then when the relationship kinda dissolved, I heard twice "How do you think it makes me feel that you earn more? Women shouldn't be better paid than men because it emasculates us..."
I thought it was absurd, because they didn't seem to mind the better living standard we had, it just seemed to be a matter of pride to them, or rather dented their pride that I made more. Looking back, I'm glad the relationships didn't last, because I don't really deal well with that BS and wasn't prepared to give up a job I enjoyed just because they had such fragile egos.

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RE: Do you think women date up and men date down? - 4/18/2016 11:48:49 AM   
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I was reading a post about BDSM and dating sites. The posters said that typically women "date up" and men "date down". So that means if Barb was "dating up" and met Dan, that means Dan was "dating down" and met Barb.

I was wondering if this is just the opinion of a few. I wanted to ask a general question and see if people believe that women date up and men date down


I don't think it would apply to everyone. A while back, I read an article about women executives earning high salaries lamenting about how they can't find available men at a level equal or above where they are. If they limit themselves and refuse to date down, then they'll have far fewer choices available. It's simple mathematics. But I don't think most women actually do this, since I know lots of couples where the wife earns more money than the husband.





Oddly enough, I never really cared how much a partner earned, I never wanted to be a sugar mamma and keep a guy, so him not just being a slacker was a factor, but income never played into it, however, some guys really had a problem with me earning more than them, it usually took a while to surface, they would be extremely critical of other things, try and lecture me how to do my job and all that, then when the relationship kinda dissolved, I heard twice "How do you think it makes me feel that you earn more? Women shouldn't be better paid than men because it emasculates us..."
I thought it was absurd, because they didn't seem to mind the better living standard we had, it just seemed to be a matter of pride to them, or rather dented their pride that I made more. Looking back, I'm glad the relationships didn't last, because I don't really deal well with that BS and wasn't prepared to give up a job I enjoyed just because they had such fragile egos.


I knew a couple where the wife was a medical doctor, and her husband was kind of a slacker - kind of like "The Dude" in The Big Lebowski. But they seemed pretty happy and it worked for them. I haven't seen them in years, so I'm not sure if they're still together. He was a bit of a trip, with some rather strange and outspoken ideas.

I don't think it emasculates guys if the wife earns more, at least not anything that I can see internally. But if there are external family pressures or peer pressures they're facing, then it may be different. Traditionally, men are supposed to be the "breadwinners" and all. Some people may be too caught up in conforming to "tradition" that it may affect their outlook.



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RE: Do you think women date up and men date down? - 4/18/2016 12:19:37 PM   
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RE: Do you think women date up and men date down? - 4/18/2016 12:19:44 PM   
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I don't think it emasculates guys if the wife earns more, at least not anything that I can see internally.



M jokingly refers to me as his "sugar mama". It really doesn't bother him and he knows that I enjoy being able to make sure that we have the funds to do things we enjoy.

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RE: Do you think women date up and men date down? - 4/18/2016 12:33:29 PM   
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Here in America, your dealing with Queens and Kings.
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We are the weaker sex.
We are only interested in the biggest, baddest, most handsome, and the royally intelligent.



You are the weaker brain, sweetie

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RE: Do you think women date up and men date down? - 4/18/2016 12:38:00 PM   
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I don't think it emasculates guys if the wife earns more, at least not anything that I can see internally.



M jokingly refers to me as his "sugar mama". It really doesn't bother him and he knows that I enjoy being able to make sure that we have the funds to do things we enjoy.


We've gone through periods where I outearned H by far, and it never bothered him, long term it possibly evens out, but the fact that he never had any issue with it was one of the factors that made me sure my choice was right.

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RE: Do you think women date up and men date down? - 4/18/2016 1:44:57 PM   
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RE: Do you think women date up and men date down? - 4/18/2016 2:12:20 PM   
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Here in America, your dealing with Queens and Kings.
We are looking for Men.
We are the weaker sex.
We are only interested in the biggest, baddest, most handsome, and the royally intelligent.



You are the weaker brain, sweetie


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RE: Do you think women date up and men date down? - 4/18/2016 3:37:38 PM   
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Hotties galore.
At one point I leaned over to my friend and said something like, "God, I love a hot woman in a business suit."
To which she promptly replied, "Of course you do. You like stripping them of their power."

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RE: Do you think women date up and men date down? - 4/18/2016 4:17:46 PM   
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RE: Do you think women date up and men date down? - 4/18/2016 6:24:53 PM   
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RE: Do you think women date up and men date down? - 4/18/2016 11:07:06 PM   
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We only accept strong white men period of superior intelligence.

Your track record would seem to show otherwise.

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RE: Do you think women date up and men date down? - 4/19/2016 3:24:08 AM   
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We only accept strong white men period of superior intelligence.


Errrr, I think you used the improper pronoun and meant they instead of we.
Chortles.
But either way, as those here who've met me can testify, 'they' would be fucked because that's exactly what I am, a strong white man of superior intelligence.

Meanwhile, WTF? A black or Asian man of superior strength and intelligence won't do?
Racist much?

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RE: Do you think women date up and men date down? - 4/19/2016 3:37:15 AM   
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I have dated down economically. It didn't work out. And I mean, when he doesn't hold a job and I financially took care of him. Eventually he got a job working under me as his direct boss. Things got worst. I was kinda harsher on him than others, because, he was my husband then and it was important that there was no favourtism. But of course, that didn't sit well with him. It's very difficult to date down and for the guy to not feel, emasculated.

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RE: Do you think women date up and men date down? - 4/19/2016 4:04:38 AM   
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SO WTF ????

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RE: Do you think women date up and men date down? - 4/19/2016 7:51:44 AM   
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We only accept strong white men period of superior intelligence.

Your track record would seem to show otherwise.


Maybe somebody should point her to people who have mobility issues? The smart ones with a brain tend to run for their lives...

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RE: Do you think women date up and men date down? - 4/19/2016 2:49:05 PM   
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Oddly enough, I never really cared how much a partner earned, I never wanted to be a sugar mamma and keep a guy, so him not just being a slacker was a factor, but income never played into it, however, some guys really had a problem with me earning more than them, it usually took a while to surface, they would be extremely critical of other things, try and lecture me how to do my job and all that, then when the relationship kinda dissolved, I heard twice "How do you think it makes me feel that you earn more? Women shouldn't be better paid than men because it emasculates us..."
I thought it was absurd, because they didn't seem to mind the better living standard we had, it just seemed to be a matter of pride to them, or rather dented their pride that I made more. Looking back, I'm glad the relationships didn't last, because I don't really deal well with that BS and wasn't prepared to give up a job I enjoyed just because they had such fragile egos.


All that that says is that your partners were not reasonable men. If a man is not happy with his partner earning more then he needs to buckle up and move up the pecking order. Or stop complaining. I wouldn't extend these types of complaints to the generality of men though. Most have enough sense to understand that people are paid accordingly to the value they bring, and yes, they may suffer in comparison to other people, including women.

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RE: Do you think women date up and men date down? - 4/20/2016 10:38:24 AM   
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All that that says is that your partners were not reasonable men. If a man is not happy with his partner earning more then he needs to buckle up and move up the pecking order. Or stop complaining. I wouldn't extend these types of complaints to the generality of men though. Most have enough sense to understand that people are paid accordingly to the value they bring, and yes, they may suffer in comparison to other people, including women.



You'd be surprised how many other women had the same problem, as I said, I'm well rid of them and much happier now with a guy who doesn't care or doesn't have such a fragile ego, for a while we discussed if he might give up his rather high income job to do something he might enjoy more, but then decided (I said I'd be happy whatever as he'd do the same for me) to stick with it and just have a bit of a nest egg for the future.

I disagree with people being paid according to the value they bring, as I think nurses and carers (at least in Europe) do a tremendously valuable job and are underpaid. I think Europe is in this respect also a bit more "old fashioned" and guys tend to have a problem with the woman seemingly being more successful, because there seems to be peer pressure and ribbing from their friends.




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RE: Do you think women date up and men date down? - 4/20/2016 12:32:31 PM   
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people are paid accordingly to the value they bring

LOL

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