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ORIGINAL: Wayward5oul

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ORIGINAL: tamaka

Nope. Go check with your Superintendent.

Here's Boston's, for example:

http://www.bostonpublicschools.org/domain/162


Regarding your son, it doesn't really matter what he thinks. If another child takes it as humiliation and harrassment, it is to them.

What child has been bullied?

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ORIGINAL: tamaka

Ok well maybe you folks down south call it something different. Up North we call them school committees.

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ORIGINAL: Wayward5oul

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ORIGINAL: tamaka

Ok well maybe you folks down south call it something different. Up North we call them school committees.

Nope. Just your state.

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ORIGINAL: Kaliko

FR

LOL....The whole "committee" versus "board" thing sounds like a discussion at our dinner table. We're constantly whipping out Google to prove each other wrong on a technicality. :)

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ORIGINAL: Wayward5oul

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ORIGINAL: Kaliko

FR

LOL....The whole "committee" versus "board" thing sounds like a discussion at our dinner table. We're constantly whipping out Google to prove each other wrong on a technicality. :)

LOL it threw me for a loop I seriously thought she was confused at first. who knew she was in the one state in the country that had to be different.

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ORIGINAL: Kaliko

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ORIGINAL: Wayward5oul

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ORIGINAL: Kaliko

FR

LOL....The whole "committee" versus "board" thing sounds like a discussion at our dinner table. We're constantly whipping out Google to prove each other wrong on a technicality. :)

LOL it threw me for a loop I seriously thought she was confused at first. who knew she was in the one state in the country that had to be different.

Oh, she's not. It varies from state to state, county to county, even from town to town within a state. Not that it should matter. I can't imagine that there are any overarching laws that govern the actual naming of a governing body - just that there be a governing body.

Tennessee has a Board of Education for their Nashville Public Schools. (I knew someone from Nashville, which is why I pulled that up first. He would refer to his BOE and I would always be confused. Around here, if we hear "Board of Education," we think we're talking about the State Board of Education.)

Even within New Hampshire, there are School Boards and there are School Committees. I think (but I'm not sure) that it has something to do with whether the governing body works in conjunction with the town's overall governing body or not. Maine also uses School Committee, in addition to Massachusetts and Rhode Island, and I believe at least one place in Rhode Island uses Board of School Committee (which makes no sense to me).

It might be a New England regional thing. (Just as using Board of Education might be more of a thing in other parts of the country.) But it's not just one state. And I would bet good money that it really doesn't matter - that if the voters approved the establishment of a "Looney Tunes for School Committee" as their local school's governing body, as long as proper laws were followed, it would be legit.

New England, especially Northern New England, is pretty small-town, old-school politics, so maybe there's an historical attachment to "School Committee" in some places. My mother is always baffled when I tell her the kinds of things we vote on here, in our tiny town meetings and such. She says "Doesn't somebody just make those decisions for you?" LOL

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ORIGINAL: Aylee
People get stamped for all sorts of stuff. Going in and out of bars, amusement parks, zoos, roller rinks, concerts, and a plethora of other things.

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And I will re-iterate, there are MANY parents that do NOT respond to the school's phone calls, text messages, emails, or notes home.

But this is a stamp. It washes off. I am quite sure that several of the posters here could turn the whole thing into a traumatic event, but it really is just a stamp.

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ORIGINAL: Aylee
Bullying is the use of force, threat, or coercion to abuse, intimidate, or aggressively dominate others. A lunch money stamp just does not fit the definition.
Shame results from comparison of the self's action with the self's standards. The parent MAY feel shame in a stamp situation. It is highly likely that the parent may even project that feeling onto the child. So, again, the definition does not really fit.

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ORIGINAL: JstAnotherSub

So again, when can I expect you to send me a blank check, or make a donation to ANY school in the states to help pay off these charges?

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ORIGINAL: Greta75

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ORIGINAL: JstAnotherSub

So again, when can I expect you to send me a blank check, or make a donation to ANY school in the states to help pay off these charges?

So your only solution is to punish the child and not the parent? Or demanding money from other people who is against shaming of children?

I mean seriously, what happens if the child died in school from food poisoning for example and you can't contact the parent when you call/email or sms them? You gonna send the child corpse back with a stamp that says, "Your child died"?

What bullshit is this?

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ORIGINAL: Greta75

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ORIGINAL: Aylee
Bullying is the use of force, threat, or coercion to abuse, intimidate, or aggressively dominate others. A lunch money stamp just does not fit the definition.
Shame results from comparison of the self's action with the self's standards. The parent MAY feel shame in a stamp situation. It is highly likely that the parent may even project that feeling onto the child. So, again, the definition does not really fit.

The parent and the CHILD may feel shame from the actions. The child is being punished for their parent's fuck up. THAT is the bullying there. They can't get to the parents, so they shame the child.

A whole state in the US felt this was enough bullying to an innocent child to ban it.

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ORIGINAL: Greta75

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ORIGINAL: JstAnotherSub

So again, when can I expect you to send me a blank check, or make a donation to ANY school in the states to help pay off these charges?

So your only solution is to punish the child and not the parent? Or demanding money from other people who is against shaming of children?

I mean seriously, what happens if the child died in school from food poisoning for example and you can't contact the parent when you call/email or sms them? You gonna send the child corpse back with a stamp that says, "Your child died"?

What bullshit is this?

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ORIGINAL: Aylee

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ORIGINAL: Greta75

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ORIGINAL: JstAnotherSub

So again, when can I expect you to send me a blank check, or make a donation to ANY school in the states to help pay off these charges?

So your only solution is to punish the child and not the parent? Or demanding money from other people who is against shaming of children?

I mean seriously, what happens if the child died in school from food poisoning for example and you can't contact the parent when you call/email or sms them? You gonna send the child corpse back with a stamp that says, "Your child died"?

What bullshit is this?

This is the problem. The arm stamp is being falsely viewed as a punishment. It is not one. It is a form of communication. It is a reminder.

No one is being punished in this situation. A resolution is being requested.

You have an irrational belief that is consequently making you upset. You should work on attaining an effective new belief in order to cease and desist of negative side effect.

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ORIGINAL: UllrsIshtar

~FR~

Having a kid in elementary school who manages to lose, forget, misplace, or delay 3/4 of the paperwork the school sends home, I would relish the idea of the school stamping important communications on him.

In fact, his teachers (this has gone on multiple years) and us have tried so many different methods which have failed that I think I'll bring up the stamp idea with his current one the next time we talk.

Lunch money reminders* NEVER reach us, because when the cafeteria hands them out, they're about to have lunch, and then recess. By the time he reaches his class room afterwards, there's no telling where that slip of paper ended up.

Heck, I'll buy the stamps. Maybe then he'll finally get to go on every field trip, instead of having half of his permission slips never filled out...

* And yeah, we need lunch money reminders, because with divorced households, and the kids not buying lunch at school every day (sometimes they bring their own) it's sometimes not clear how much money they still have left over in their accounts. If their mother has them eat school lunches for a while without putting money in, sometimes we're much lower than we thought.

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ORIGINAL: tamaka

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ORIGINAL: UllrsIshtar

~FR~

Having a kid in elementary school who manages to lose, forget, misplace, or delay 3/4 of the paperwork the school sends home, I would relish the idea of the school stamping important communications on him.

In fact, his teachers (this has gone on multiple years) and us have tried so many different methods which have failed that I think I'll bring up the stamp idea with his current one the next time we talk.

Lunch money reminders* NEVER reach us, because when the cafeteria hands them out, they're about to have lunch, and then recess. By the time he reaches his class room afterwards, there's no telling where that slip of paper ended up.

Heck, I'll buy the stamps. Maybe then he'll finally get to go on every field trip, instead of having half of his permission slips never filled out...

* And yeah, we need lunch money reminders, because with divorced households, and the kids not buying lunch at school every day (sometimes they bring their own) it's sometimes not clear how much money they still have left over in their accounts. If their mother has them eat school lunches for a while without putting money in, sometimes we're much lower than we thought.

Perhaps you should see special ed support for your child if he has serious organizational issues. It's only going to get worse as he gets older and is expected to be able to organize himself and be able to self-manage his affairs.

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ORIGINAL: DommeinRochester

FR:
Not all homes have internet access. So how can they read the school's email?
Not all homes have computers. How can they access the internet to read the school's email?
Not all homes have phones. How is the school supposed to call home with a reminder?
Not all parents have cell phones. How is the school supposed to call or text?

So now what? How do you communicate with parents then?

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ORIGINAL: Greta75

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ORIGINAL: JstAnotherSub

So again, when can I expect you to send me a blank check, or make a donation to ANY school in the states to help pay off these charges?

So your only solution is to punish the child and not the parent? Or demanding money from other people who is against shaming of children?

I mean seriously, what happens if the child died in school from food poisoning for example and you can't contact the parent when you call/email or sms them? You gonna send the child corpse back with a stamp that says, "Your child died"?

What bullshit is this?