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RE: I am very disturbed by online predators - 8/19/2006 2:10:01 AM

SavageFaerie

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My statement is there are online predators that pose as Doms
It has happened and will happen again.
But who cares

Its all about getting a beating after all.

Isnt it?

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RE: I am very disturbed by online predators - 8/19/2006 2:24:16 AM

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That is what you are so upset about?????

Sage, we all know this, there are countless threads full of hints and tips about warning signs and safety measures......Know idea why your panties are so in a bunch over that!

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RE: I am very disturbed by online predators - 8/19/2006 2:26:26 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: SavageFaerie

My statement is there are online predators that pose as Doms
It has happened and will happen again.
But who cares

Its all about getting a beating after all.

Isnt it?

But that's not your statement on this thread....your statement on this thread was "This guy pissed in my Cheerios and I'm gonna piss in his back and make sure that everyone knows it".

It's not all about a beating and lots of us care a great deal about online posers, newbies and their risks, finding solutions and sharing our wisdom with those who are just starting out so that the odds of them falling prey is lessened. We do that by discussing it...not by spending all of our time on a Random Stupidity board answering quizzes, playing the Association game or talking about the person beneath me. We discuss how to take responsibility for our own actions, we discuss how to set boundaries for ourselves, we discuss safety precautions and we dispel a lot of "myths" that online predators use to suck in their prey. Maybe....just maybe....if some spent less time playing stupid games and a little more time reading some of the more serious discussions....there would be less naive "victims" for folks to prey on.

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RE: I am very disturbed by online predators - 8/19/2006 2:28:45 AM

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The person below me.......

Will rant on about life's unfairness.

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RE: I am very disturbed by online predators - 8/19/2006 2:54:54 AM

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RE: I am very disturbed by online predators - 8/19/2006 3:06:26 AM

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I'm not trying to dishearten you, nor am I trying to mock your stance, I just have a real knack for being overly blunt because of a severe lack of tact, but from my personal experiance: Drop it. Just let it go. Sure, you may think you're helping these girls but you aren't, how many have you posted have been to this would-be Dom and been hurt or used and thrown out? If they do not do a background check on their own prospectful Dom, and the Dom doesn't do a background check on his prospectful subs then no one but the ones who *should* have done the background checks have anyone to blame but themselves. Now if he was slitting these girl's throats, hanging them by their feet, fucking holes he himself had carved into their stomachs and climaxing in the Hcl deep within their belly, and you've proof of that, then by all means call the cops and play the hero; however, thats not the case. He's getting his jollys off on girls who are being too naive for their own good and for some people they never get out of being naive until they've been hurt. It sucks, but a lot of people have to bang their face into the wall before they accept the truth. I played the hero once, ruined my rep on a roleplaying board I had been apart of for a long time over the same pretences. It ain't worth it. Afterall, to these little girls your trying to protect you could be little more than just a ranting ex for all they know.

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RE: I am very disturbed by online predators - 8/19/2006 4:14:40 AM

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quote:

What do I do about it?

Mind your own business. Frankly I think you have mislead a number of these subs in to thinking you know it all and are some sort of authority on the matter. You say he is a predator- I say you are as well. I think you thrive on this sort of thing- subs coming to you . You need to get your own life and live it and stop trying to live thorough others. So you know people in the scene big deal so do I but I would never go around telling them what to do or act as if I know everything and what I say is gospel. Human beings hardly ever learn from the experience of others.
They learn; when they do on their own, the hard way. They are adults for crying out loud and if they get taken or hurt- lesson learned for them maybe next time they will make a better choice. Maybe use some damn common sense. As for your life goodness gracious- you- ex's-kids-in laws- friends damn near everyone you know or are related too has some terrible life drama as well. Last week they were all fawning all over you with love and praise, now this is going on. Yes I think some people finally caught on. The more you post about loving and caring and wish to help because you just love everyone -just looks to me as if you are trying to convince us? or yourself?

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RE: I am very disturbed by online predators - 8/19/2006 4:55:20 AM

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quote:

What do I do about it?

quote:

I WILL NOT BE SILENT

You have already decided what you are going to do about it.

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RE: I am very disturbed by online predators - 8/19/2006 5:13:09 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: SalemWiK
If they do not do a background check on their own prospectful Dom,.... He's getting his jollys off on girls who are being too naive for their own good ....

I concur, SalemWik. And this has all been very entertaining and strange...

I am ashamed and embarassed to say I was used, abused, conned, beaten up and stolen from by someone on here posing as a Dom (and I later found out as a slave, sub, tranny, cd and gay). Yes, it was a preditor. But I was stupid and naive. I learned and I'm not naive any more.

It is back on here preying on young pregnant women now who will be beaten up and stolen from. That IS very disturbing but I cannot rescue them. Collarme won't do anything. People dont stay in jail long for domestic violence. If these girls dont check it out like I didn't bother to do, that is their problem. A few women have written to Me because people here knew we were a couple and I have been honest with those who bother to ask. But a public forum is not the place for naming names, getting into he said/she said or airing personal grievances. You do that in court, have your friends kick his piece of shit ass to the curb and be done. Others will either be smart and take the proper precautions or take their beatings and find out the hard way. Just like I did. There are bad guys out there. And a ton of them in here. Can't rescue people. I was stupid. Anyone who dates losers is stupid. As soon as people admit that, they will learn and not be so stupid next time. Dont give 'men' money. Dont be a sucker. Dont date liars, losers or cheaters. Save your niceness for people who earn it. Or you'll get used, cheated on and screwed over. duh. Welcome to the jungle.

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RE: I am very disturbed by online predators - 8/19/2006 5:54:38 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: SavageFaerie

My statement is there are online predators that pose as Doms
It has happened and will happen again.
But who cares
Its all about getting a beating after all.

Isnt it?

First of all, online predators pose as more than Doms---they pose as teens, women, men, Doms, subs, etc---they are men and women as well. In the purest sense, your cause is admirable--however, postings to boards is not the way to fight the battle---it is better fought out there---with your energies devoted to laws--federal, state, and local---this is one of the most difficult issues to determine a legal course of action by authorities as it crosses many of our basic freedoms and rights--and what we as a people do NOT want is a George Orwell 1984--Big Brother watching---but we DO want internet protection.

If you believe that someone has been on-line stalking you can go to the authorities, there is a 1-800 number on the internet that you can report them---however, you must be sure you have your facts well documented and it cannot be hearsay. To attempt to out someone here, though intentions may be good, is foolhardy--as you can see it won't gain anyone anything--use the means available to you in the real world.

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RE: I am very disturbed by online predators - 8/19/2006 5:58:56 AM

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Cordite-- Goddammit!!! Cordite.

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RE: I am very disturbed by online predators - 8/19/2006 6:07:52 AM

SaphireLynn

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quote:

ORIGINAL: SavageFaerie

MY son was raped by a registered child sex offender

I WILL not be silent.

MY granchildrens father is this mans best friend. Their father was sexual abused by his uncle who is also a registered sex offender.

I WILL not be silent

I suffer from
Depression
PTSD
Panic Disorder

Both of my grown children have attempted to kill themselves.

I WILL NOT BE SILENT

by this forum and your words W/we all could tell you had mental problems. But still you need to get over this.... he did you no harm in fact by bringing all this to the borads youdid yourself the harm.

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RE: I am very disturbed by online predators - 8/19/2006 6:19:46 AM

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The saddest part of all of this is, regardless of the truth, that the manner in which it has been handled has TOTALLY discredited BOTH parties. Thereby, backfiring on whatever good could have possibly come of it. One just looks like a raving lunatic and the other, a 5 year old throwing a temper tantrum, fighting in the sandbox. I cannot imagine that anyone would read all the garbage and have any trust or respect for either. It is sickening to see, all the negativity. No one wants to see predators, to see or BE prey. Most sane people wish to be a part of a solution or at the very least, not a part of the problem. The key is in how you comport yourself, that is what makes a difference in being productive or getting in your own way. If you wish to be a part of the solution you need to be careful in how you go about it to be sucessful. Had this whole episode been handled in a mature responsible adult manner I would applaude any efforts that were backed by factual evidence (not hysterical hearsay). Unfortunately this has not been the case. At this point I doubt any sane person that does not know either party personally for a long period of time will give any credence to anything they say. Hell, I am just waiting for "long lost friends" (brand spanking new collarme members) to show up, ranting about how wonderful their friend, all the good things they have done over the many many years they have known them......yada yada yada... is and why someone should believe in them. Almost guaranteed it would be a "fantasy" friend. I know I would not believe a word of it after what I have seen. Anyone that would have any faith in either of the two people I have seen behaving so embarrassingly would not gain my confidence.
In addition, any attempt to do anything positive by bringing this matter to light in the media chosen was just an effort in futility. The very nature by which makes it such a breeding ground for predators also makes it nigh on impossible to fight with any credibility. Two unknown faceless entities that could be in reality anyone with any sort of weird personal agenda. It would have been an uphill battle had it been handled in the best possible way. Now, its just a farce.

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RE: I am very disturbed by online predators - 8/19/2006 6:42:13 AM

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Sad & True, La Tigresse. I've been online long enough to know that it's impossible to know who's telling the truth and who's not. Let alone if both people are *the same person* just stirring things up for amusement (I know that sounds weird but I've seen it!).

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RE: I am very disturbed by online predators - 8/19/2006 6:43:48 AM

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RE: I am very disturbed by online predators - 8/19/2006 7:14:26 AM

BuxomGoddess714

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quote:

ORIGINAL: LaTigresse

The very nature by which makes it such a breeding ground for predators also makes it nigh on impossible to fight with any credibility. Two unknown faceless entities that could be in reality anyone with any sort of weird personal agenda. It would have been an uphill battle had it been handled in the best possible way....

SO very very well put, Ma'am. Excellent post in total (as usual). My kudos to You. This serves none well and sets a bad example for those observing.

I never meant to imply by MY post I was taking sides. Only that this was the improper Forum to air personal grievances, no matter how righteous they may be. Even if a crime had been committed. This is not the place for such things, for exactly the reasons You so eloquently state. I apologize if anyone misunderstood My point.

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RE: I am very disturbed by online predators - 8/19/2006 7:17:31 AM

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while this is all quite dramatic and of course it is true- there are predators amongst us.. People here ARE ADULTS.
If someone is stupidenought to put themselves in danger, they have themselves to blame. You owe no one anything.
Common sense is not common.

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RE: I am very disturbed by online predators - 8/19/2006 7:18:40 AM

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Oooohhhh, it's like passing an accident. You don't want to ogle but you just can't help yourself.

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RE: I am very disturbed by online predators - 8/19/2006 7:19:10 AM

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Bravo LaTigresse! Well stated.

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RE: I am very disturbed by online predators - 8/19/2006 8:39:41 AM

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Horrified fascination I think they call it.

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