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RE: How important is a picture, or appearance - 11/2/2006 12:59:49 PM   
LaTigresse


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Status: offline 		Rosa, there is no doubt he would be running up the white flag. I have every faith in you!!

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RE: How important is a picture, or appearance - 11/2/2006 1:02:24 PM   
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I won't pluck my eyes out,
and surrender,
there will be no white flag above my door...................

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RE: How important is a picture, or appearance - 11/2/2006 1:13:36 PM   
msangel4u


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Status: offline 		Hi there  this is  tough issue  for  me.  I would like to say I am not so  shallow  but apperance is a factor.  I  do however take  pleasure  in many appearances, body  shapes,   heights etc etc. The biggest turn off  for me personally  is if  someone is  unkempt and slovenly  in their  pictures  then it  just  doesnt  do it for  me. I also  have an  aversion to lots of  body  hair  and some facial  hair on  men.

On the  flip sideof the  coin I  know for a fact  pictures can  be decieving. I am  heavier  than  most of  my photos   would  lead you to  believe. I am  extremely photogenic. So I try to be honest  about that upfront as  well. I am an incredibly  curvy woman and  not all those curves are in the right places..

The second  half of the  question  holds true as well. I  have  met many people that I  found  attractive  only to  go..... Um no thank you as we got to know each other. Basically I  think something has to click  and the rest you deal with as it  comes  up.

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RE: How important is a picture, or appearance - 11/2/2006 1:38:54 PM   
gypsygrl


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Status: offline 		Physical attraction is essential to me, but, its almost never about looks in a conventional sense.  Sometimes photos capture the energy or character of a person, and that attracts me (or not), but other times they're just two dimensional representations that gives me some idea of what someone looks like.  I don't rely too much on the picture.  Its just one more piece of information.  Sometimes, I'm put off by the way someone looks at first glance, but over time start finding them attractive.  My perception changes.  It works the opposite, also.  I might find someone initially attractive, only to have them seem kind of icky over time. 

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RE: How important is a picture, or appearance - 11/2/2006 1:41:02 PM   
RosaB


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quote:

ORIGINAL: mnottertail

I will go down with this ship,
I won't pluck my eyes out,
and surrender,
there will be no white flag above my door...................

Mr Dido



Wouldn't expect any less of you.  As you know, there is no disrespect intended.

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OK, before the vultuers come, this concludes the battle of the sexes.  Nothing more to see here back to your regularly scheduled viewing. 
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To topic, looks can be compensated for, personality, well, if I can't connect with someone on matters that stimulate the mind beyond the sight, its would be pointless for me to even consider that I could have a relationship of any substance.  I would find that good grooming would be important as there would have to be some appeal there, but, give me an intelligent good man that may be physically unappealing to the masses over a self absorbed, needy, dumb piece of eye candy any day..  Excluding Brad Pitt. from any negative descriptions. Besides, they don't make duct tape for nothing.

Rosa


< Message edited by RosaB -- 11/2/2006 1:43:14 PM >

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RE: How important is a picture, or appearance - 11/2/2006 1:42:54 PM   
mnottertail


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Brad Pitt--- yes, even Masters have chinks in their armour, as you have been allowed to see from Rosa.

Excellent Post.

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RE: How important is a picture, or appearance - 11/2/2006 1:59:59 PM   
missturbation


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Status: offline 		What about the flip side?
How important is the pic we put out there?
Are we prepared to look natural?
Or do we spend hours making up, getting ready for the pics we are prepared to show online to others?
 
I'd prefer to look good, made up etc but in every day life i dont always look like that so tend to use natural pics now.

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RE: How important is a picture, or appearance - 11/2/2006 2:22:13 PM   
slaveaurora


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Status: offline 		~fast reply~ 

You notice I always do the fast reply, because I am not techy inclined...in other words, I am computer ignorant.   Not to mention I am on the laptop right now, and that poses a challenge all by itself! 

Anyway......

To LA:    I did not mean to suggest that the majority of people are shallow.  Depending on how you define "shallow", I don't believe most people are.   However, I do know some people that are definately shallow, and they choose a partner based solely on looks.  They brag that want eye candy on their arm so that other men will be envious.   To each their own. 

To the general reader:    I think there is a difference in how you precieve people, depending on if your looking for friends, or if you are looking for an intimate partner.   For me personally, if I am looking for friends only, I could care less what they look like, as long as they are attractive to me on the inside and I can connect with them.   If I were looking for another Master, I would need to be physically/sexually attracted to him, there would need to be a spark, but just as important I would need that emotional connection as well. 

I have friends of the opposite sex that I am not sexually/physically attracted to, and would never want to have sex with them, but they are wonderful friends.    I do agree with someone who said something along the lines of, I would rather have a less attractive partner that is beautiful on the inside, rather than a drop dead gorgeous hunk that is basically dumber than a rusty nail.  ( I paraphrased that, not quoted it)

As Longarms stated, there is more than just looks that determine who we like, and for what reasons.  But looks, I think, do play a part, especially in an intimate relationship.   I don't think that makes us shallow. 

But then again, how do you define "shallow"?     If you are turned off by a generally ugly person, are you shallow.... if you get a raging hard on, or a wet pussy over an extremely attractive person, are you shallow?
Do you think we are all shallow to some degree?  

~aurora~

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RE: How important is a picture, or appearance - 11/2/2006 2:38:55 PM   
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ORIGINAL: missturbation

What about the flip side?
How important is the pic we put out there?
Are we prepared to look natural?
Or do we spend hours making up, getting ready for the pics we are prepared to show online to others?
 
I'd prefer to look good, made up etc but in every day life i dont always look like that so tend to use natural pics now.


I use pictures of me when i am out with friends having a good time. Only because that is my everyday beauty, and the only time someone is going to see me not looking great is after a night of really good sex....which then i am naturally beautiful from the glow.

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RE: How important is a picture, or appearance - 11/2/2006 2:46:29 PM   
Najakcharmer


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Status: offline 		It's not conventional attractiveness I look for in a pic.  It's that spark in the eyes that bespeaks intelligence, interest and creativity.  Some pics have it, some pics don't.  If a guy weighs 400 lbs and has a harelip, but also has that look that says "smart geeky type" then I want to talk to them.  If they're the handsomest guy in the world but they don't look or sound very intelligent, I'm just not interested and probably won't pursue correspondence.  

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RE: How important is a picture, or appearance - 11/2/2006 2:55:47 PM   
dreamscape


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Status: offline 		I prefer profiles with pics, always have, always will.   I like to see a person, to be able to see if that spark is there.  It's almost a need with me, to be able to see of there's life in a person's eyes.

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RE: How important is a picture, or appearance - 11/2/2006 3:09:35 PM   
Tikkiee


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I am shallow enough to say honestly that not only physical looks, but health also matter a great deal to me.

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RE: How important is a picture, or appearance - 11/2/2006 3:44:16 PM   
onlythewindknows


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Status: offline 		hey what about when someone turns out to be *way* good looking, and you were expecting ordinary? that kind of changes the course of things, too, and not always for the better.

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RE: How important is a picture, or appearance - 11/2/2006 4:56:26 PM   
ZenrageTheKeeper


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Status: offline 		Attraction is a personal aesthetic.

To me: if the eyes and smile are attractive enough.. the rest doesn't matter.


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RE: How important is a picture, or appearance - 11/2/2006 6:06:47 PM   
jesskitty


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Status: offline 		i think the more you understand what you want, and are used to websites like this pictures become less and less important. i personally think having a picture on there is good to show that they took at least some time and effort into their profile, even if it's fake besides just creating a name and that's about it. after awhile i focused more on just interacting with people than activly looking for a partner. while i was single i still noticed some looked more appealing than others but if they fit in my category and presented themselves as real people(though the amount of people that fit the category of real was 1 in 100 or more) i would talk to them either way. then again i always think that i myself know i look different in a photograph than i do in real life, some people just don't photograph well and look stunning in person and have bad pictures, or some people look wonderful in photos but not so much in real life.

so i'd say it's a factor personally but it wouldn't make or break something.

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RE: How important is a picture, or appearance - 11/2/2006 6:10:47 PM   
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hey what about when someone turns out to be *way* good looking, and you were expecting ordinary? that kind of changes the course of things, too, and not always for the better.

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RE: How important is a picture, or appearance - 11/2/2006 6:26:00 PM   
TreSwank


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In other words if you are satan who looks like George Clooney then no thanks but


You know.......alot of girls would really dig that.

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RE: How important is a picture, or appearance - 11/2/2006 6:34:52 PM   
michaelOfGeorgia


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ORIGINAL: slaveaurora

This came up in conversation the other day, and I thought I would put it here just to see what everyone thinks.  
 
How many times have you talked to someone here on collarme who does not have a picture up and you find that you like them, have things in common etc., then when you see a pic of them and they are not beautiful in your eyes, does that change your perception of them?  Do you stop chatting with them?   
 
On the flip side, have you ever contacted someone based on their picture, because you found them attractive, only to find out they are nothing like you hoped? 
 
Does their appearance, or pic, make it or break it for you?
 
~aurora~


depends on who you ask. some people here tend to judge people on their pics (or what's in them), without ever really knowing the person.


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RE: How important is a picture, or appearance - 11/2/2006 6:39:28 PM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: TreSwank

quote:

ORIGINAL: toservez


In other words if you are satan who looks like George Clooney then no thanks but


You know.......alot of girls would really dig that.


Devilish George Clooney? Goodness the idea turns me on.

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RE: How important is a picture, or appearance - 11/2/2006 6:55:03 PM   
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Status: offline 		I generally find pics to be decieving on either end of the spectrum.I will put more faith in e-mails, phone conversations and face to face always.For me personally this will tell me if the attraction is there, and if it should proceed further...Tempting

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