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ORIGINAL: CaptveDesre

I'd like to begin this post by disclaiming some likely first impressions. I'm not writing to step on toes, to flame or troll, or because I am saddened by an empty inbox.

Why would a Domme take the position of a victim, who is constantly molested by a throng of submissive 'yesmen?' Males who have yet to mature to the stage of critical thought?
I should be clear here, my confusion doesn't rest in Dommes who display their distaste in these men. I feel that frustration. I feel their dead weight strapped to my ankles, preventing the repuation of a male submissive from reaching further than that of a pathetic worm (literally).
What does vex me is that this given Domme -and I refer to many that I have noticed- posts a self-promoting and mildly controversial tome of propaganda, rewarding the yes men (who jump at the chance to nod their head eagerly out of despiration) with attention and praise, only to turn around and speak sour about the type they choose to invite moments later.

Furthermore, when the rare submissive respectfully presents a differing opinion on this claim, he is pounced upon by the Domme and her... hm.. posse. Spoken to in a rude and callous tone due to his preference in actual thought rather than immediate, blind, and stupid submission.
Why is it that a submissive can not socially disagree with a Domme, in a chatroom or forum nonetheless; where tasteful and respectful ideas are intended to flow freely? Why is it one like this is frowned upon?

Is it wrong of me to consider this sort of dominant behavior and attitude silly and contradictory? Or should I shut up and nod like the rest of the sheep, next in line for her lambchop dinner rant?

I would also be interested to hear thoughts on the female submissive / male dominant dynamic as related to this subject, since I've noticed similar occurances and complaints.

Thank you sincerely for your time.

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ORIGINAL: Lorelei115

Are you really all done with the thread or can I post my observations and thoughts?

The one place I see this whole thread going wrong is when you said "Why is it that a submissive can not socially disagree with a Domme, in a chatroom or forum nonetheless; where tasteful and respectful ideas are intended to flow freely? Why is it one like this is frowned upon?" That sentence took your line of questioning from the specific (why would the aformentioned chatroom Domme act like this) to the general (why do ALL Dommes act like this?).

Now that I've re read your post and the posts following, I understand that you were not trying to generalize Dommes, just asking a question about this particular chatroom Domme, and some other isolated examples that seem to have the same style.

To THAT question, I think the answer lies in their insecurity as a Domme. They do not truly FEEL dominant, so they need to broadcast the fact that they have submissives hanging on their every word. On the other hand, to further display their "Domliness" they want to appear to be selective.

Not being able to gracefully debate an issue with another person online, be they sub or Dom, is, in my opinion, a sign of emotional immaturity. For this particular chatroom Domme, having someone disagree with her opinions is akin to somone saying "I don't think you're really a Domme." That may not be what the person is actually saying, but disagreement is often seen by these type of people as an attack. Humans being pack animals, she gathers her posse around herself and attacks right back.

Also keep in mind that it is impossible to translate emotion over the internet. While one person may believe they have made a completely innocuous post, someone else might take that post to be directed at them or misconstrue it in a negative manner. Just look what happened with your own post! Simply because of the way a sentence was worded, many of the Dommes here took offense to something you did not intend to be offensive.

*shrug* Just my thoughts on the matter.