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RE: Help!!! - 11/23/2006 10:41:08 AM

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Agrees with Darkside.

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RE: Help!!! - 11/23/2006 3:08:12 PM

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poofing is a life strategy for poofers....things get hard they poof: things get confusing: they poof, things get painful or too intimate:....they poof

what life strategy's a person incorporates when things get bad tells you alot about the sort of partner they will be.

this guy will leave you holding the bag... or the baby... every time.

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RE: Help!!! - 11/24/2006 3:19:55 PM

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Nope. I've had a poofer, and they never ever ever stop poofing. He left once, I was devastated. He came crawling back (almost literally) calling a dozen times in a day, leaving a card taped to my door at 4am, etc. I took him back. We did it a half dozen times before enough was enough. I had to move out of town to break the pattern! Ugh!

K just curious, am I a complete bitch for thinking that dominant means he gets one chance? Poof with no explaination makes him yesterdays garbage even if he tries to climb up on my porch.

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RE: Help!!! - 11/24/2006 4:18:15 PM

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No way. Even if he never "poofed" again, how could you want to be with someone who has such disregard for your feelings as to vanish without an explanation after a year and a half?????? Unless he has been hit on the head and had amnesia, and has only just regained his memory of you, you'd do better to never give him aother look.

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RE: Help!!! - 11/24/2006 6:48:40 PM

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" Just say no. "

your face doesn't show, but I know that phrase....is it you Nancy?

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RE: Help!!! - 11/24/2006 6:54:55 PM

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He poof'ed? I would open the window and toss him out. No way would I want that stench in my life a second time.
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ORIGINAL: natasha66

I was involved with a Master for a year and a half. Then suddenly, POOF, He was gone. He called on my birthday out of the blue a few weeks ago. I want to get involved with Him again, but I am scared. Any suggestions would be appreciated!!!

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RE: Help!!! - 11/24/2006 7:18:39 PM

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To paraphrase an old saying: If he "poofs" you once, shame on him. If he "poofs" you twice, shame on you.

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RE: Help!!! - 11/24/2006 8:46:01 PM

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IMO...how can you ever trust a poofer again?..Without trust would that not ultimately destroy a D/s relationship?..without trust how then can the relationship flourish? without trust why would you put your physical, mental and emotional well being into such non trust worthy hands?......Tempting

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RE: Help!!! - 11/25/2006 2:18:37 PM

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We had a very intense Dom/sub relationship for over a year, and suddenly all communication ceased. I have YET to get a really sound explanation, but he keeps calling....I have seen him, but not for more than coffee. If I do resume this, and that is a BIG if, it will be on my terms....PERIOD.

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RE: Help!!! - 11/25/2006 2:23:59 PM

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What are you willing to sell in order to have the relationship? Meaning, are you willing to set aside, or sell, your hurt, your self worth or your independence to begin the relationship again? Can you live with yourself with what you'd have to sell? If this really devastated you, how much are you willing to risk that it might happen again? Only you can decide.

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RE: Help!!! - 11/26/2006 3:57:59 PM

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Dump the Chump......

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RE: Help!!! - 11/26/2006 4:16:26 PM

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Can't trust an on line realationship to not go poof. Not unless you visit each other in real time. Otherwise sooner or later,...poof! It goes away. Seen it myself with my own eyes.

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RE: Help!!! - 11/26/2006 4:26:44 PM

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Dear natasha66, Ladies and Gentlemen;

I can only recall two times I poofed. One was when I had a medical emergency that didn't allow me to contact everybody before hand, as I had hours to live. Choosing to live, I didn't contact people and took care of myself first. Once out of medical danger and recovering, I contacted those who were near and dear to me.

The second time I poofed... which was extended length of time, was when poof hair do was all the rage.

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RE: Help!!! - 11/26/2006 6:13:22 PM

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LOL....poofy hair NEEDED to go poof!

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RE: Help!!! - 11/26/2006 7:04:32 PM

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If he doesn't have a good reason for poofing like death or a serious illness, then I would say move on. Don't really have alot of info other than he poofed.

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RE: Help!!! - 11/26/2006 7:12:50 PM

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Dear windchymes,

Hey, us short ladies got automatic height with poofy hair do styles.
[Chuckles]

The ability to hide things in the poof gave inspiration for 'rats nest' and 'bee hives.' Rat tail combs and teasing combs. (Which were a lady's secret weapon if attacked) and, the hair spray (also a secret weapon against attack and inspiration for pepper spray). Of course trying to hide a machine gun under my hair do was unsuccessful--one always had to consider down sizing. [Chuckles]

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RE: Help!!! - 11/30/2006 1:38:09 AM

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DON'T

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RE: Help!!! - 11/30/2006 2:24:16 AM

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DEATH to Poofers!!!!

heheh

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RE: Help!!! - 11/30/2006 8:43:04 AM

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I'd treat this as with any normal relationship. If he hurt you badly when he went, then you need to judge whether the chance of him leaving you again, and hurting you again, is worth whatever you get out of seeing him again. The fact he went once , and now wants to get back with you, could mean he's seen the error of his first decision to go, or he could just want you around for a while and will go again. Only you can make the choice. Theres not enough info in your post to advise you further. I'd just express caution. Often the easiest thing to do is say yes. Its hard to say no, but might be thr right thing to do.

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RE: Help!!! - 11/30/2006 10:20:17 AM

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Tal,

I would call those tastey cream puffs my mother made poofers. Don't kill them. Not all poofers are bad.

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