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Then again, I have passed you in post count, so I can understand your difficulties.  We were all there once, we understand.

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ORIGINAL: RedSavageSlave

....goes home to kick the dog...

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ORIGINAL: BitaTruble

OK, someone made a comment on another thread and used the term 'higher kink levels'. I asked him to explain what that meant as I've never heard this term before, but he chose to ignore my question. What, exactly, is a higher kink level? Who determines what's higher and what's lower? Did I miss another memo or something?

I mean, from my perspective all kink is the same 'level' but there's some stuff you don't like and some stuff ya do and certainly, there are things with a higher risk (of injury) factor but I don't see any one thing as being 'above' another thing. Is it based on how many people would do something, so if simply everyone is in to, say flogging, that is lower on the kink scale than people who are into, oh thumb cuffs, so thumb cuffs are a higher level of kink than flogging? If it's based on squick factor, how is that anything other than purely subjective?

Clues please? (Or someone can just send me the Big Book of Kink - in pdf if ya got it.)

Celeste

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ORIGINAL: juliaoceania

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Then again, I have passed you in post count, so I can understand your difficulties.  We were all there once, we understand.

Hey! My post count is higher than your post count and therefore my kink level is higher too, this is not rocket science after all!

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Essentially, anytime someone wants to make themselves feel better, they decide to assign a value to things they do, and assign a lower value to things other people do.  This makes them feel good about themselves.

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It's probably, like Smythe said, an awkward way of describing a degree of intensity in kinky activities. I think it is useful to make comparative statements about the degree to which we engage in a particular activity, but the language "higher kink level" doesn't seem like the best way to do it. We can agree that a stroke with a thick cane that jars the top's arm on connecting is more intense than a hand spanking that doesn't cause the top's hand to tingle, can't we? We might, alternatively, say that a male crossdresser who can pass as a woman when dressed engages in crossdressing more intensely than a man who wears feminine panties. This doesn't mean that less-intense play is inferior to more intense play, or the other way around, but it does indicate that less intense play is different from more intense play, and that a spectrum of intensity may be understood in a type of play. The different intensities that I outlined are probably what the person Celeste referred to considers "kink levels".

Monica

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ORIGINAL: gooddogbenji
Essentially, anytime someone wants to make themselves feel better, they decide to assign a value to things they do, and assign a lower value to things other people do.  This makes them feel good about themselves.