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ORIGINAL: twistedwillow

As some may know, my relationship with my Sir is\was rocky.
I won't go into details as to the why or blame or anything like that.
But putting aise the terms of  D\s  vanilla  etc,  there were periods of time where my partner(Sir) would just disappear for weeks at a time, and as it was a long distance relationship, i had no way of knowing what was happening. He would not answer my calls, not come online, not ring me,  anything. Anyway we got together and i told him that if he wanted this relationship to continue that he needed to show me the respect of getting in contact with me.If he didnt want to talk to me that was fine,  but  to send me a text every day or two letting me know he was fine etc. To which he agreed.
So after we had made up and were back together again, and had ( so i thought ) everything sorted i put this information on my profile.

This is a new profile for me, my old one was 'nomansdoormat' . My Sir and i have talked and it looks like everything is and will be good, we sorted out a lot of things and i put my very unsubbish foot down about certain things.

Thankyou to everyone who has sent messages of support, it was a very rough time for me.
But i believe my Sir realise how fabulous i am ( blatant self promotion here ) and that he won't do anything to risk losing me again.

Sir's (very happy) dea
 
 
 

Since then he has apparently had many comments from both Doms and subs, about my lack of respect for him, and how i make him look like the submissive one.
For my part i simply don't see it,  it was slightly tounge in cheek, because i was so happy, but i certainly didn't mean to disrespect him. 
Was it disrespectuful?
Is he being over sensitive?

Sorry for the rambling post.
would love some imput on this.

twistedwillow
edited for obvious typos, etc.

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ORIGINAL: PlayfulOne

The answer was yes,  this whole post is even more disrespectful,  down inside you even know it,  thats why your getting so touchy.

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ORIGINAL: jamesthehumanrug

dear willow twist
listen I recall I was first initiated by a group of fantastic beautiful females top of the artist list but one that wanted to stay with me disappeared EVERY G D GOOD WEATHER DAY AND I HAD A HOUSE AND THE WOODS WAS A MINUTE AWAY AND I KNOW SHE WAS READY TO PHOTOGRAPH IN LEATHER AND EITHER IN THE WOODS DOING AN OUTDOOR OR ON THE BEACH CLIFFS OR SOME OTHER ISOALTED PLACE AND SHE WAS A DOM SO IT DROVE ME FREAKING NUTS;HOWEVER THE BEST THING TO DO WITH PERMISSION (cause im a bottom permission counts) is to do the same and be the same; you circulate ;don’t think I can't and will keep on ,till you are ready to settle for me or not.....,or they run....,and, the rest feel for you (pity ), cause ,you have a top looker ;the best and ,you didn’t know they circulate?!! ;oh poor you ;understand?; slick attracts slick ,not homebody couch potato attracts flash from Paris get me?
you got to stimulate to get a response; I had to find equal places good enough to take photos(hey this is great for a photoshoot type outdoor place), and ,dress deck, and, go alone once or twice, then.... take the other body there to go all the way
get me?; I found abandoned hangers; caves on the crashing rock ledges, with witch places and cave next to beach mansions made of mahogany,and monoliths under the full moon; sometimes i even had to run there ahead of time and paint something like landing pad signals on the hill top runway to look like it was ready for some ufo to land ,just for effect;no one knew of these romantic private places (it was like owning an island )and, generally speaking it seemed like no one found these remote places but us so ,if she wanted to take off she knew;fine; I was busy (easy)and she had to make the choice,(while picturing it in her mind) not feel like she'd be lucky to get away and laugh ,cause I didn’t expect it(and, all the tops know what some peoples' m's are doing;) ,so don’t be stupid;and mope;get on it ,asap

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ORIGINAL: carolsea

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ORIGINAL: MaryT

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ORIGINAL: carolsea
HUH???
lolol

Me too - couldn't follow him at all.
MaryT

It reads like some of those spam e-mails I gotten and been curious about what they say.  Punctuation might help, but it's doubtful.

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This last point to me begins to show a lack of respect that you have for him.

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ORIGINAL: defiantbadgirl

I don't think it is disrespectful for a sub to expect contact from her dom or for a dom to expect contact from his sub. Without communication, no relationship exists. You did nothing wrong, he did. I wonder how those who sent the snide emails would feel if their partners rarely contacted them. I'll bet they would have a different attitude. Sounds to me like the dom was disrespectful to neglect the sub.

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ORIGINAL: twistedwillow
My Sir and i have talked and it looks like everything is and will be good, we sorted out a lot of things and i put my very unsubbish foot down about certain things.
 
This would sound to me like "yeh, i told him how it was going to be from now on" (or something along that line).  Disrespectful?  i don't know....but definitely quite 'unsubbish'....lol


But i believe my Sir realise how fabulous i am ( blatant self promotion here ) and that he won't do anything to risk losing me again.
 
And this sounds like "i got him where i want him now....he knows better than to mess with me again" (or something along that line).  Again....sounds pretty 'unsubbish', no?
 
Sometimes willow, things are meant differently than they are taken.  Look, for example, at what Ron said:
 
"I set forth my thought.  It was not intended to be snarky, if you took it as that, well; I am unable to fix it."

He did not intend to be snarky, yet that is how you took it....just as you did not intend your remarks to be disrespectful, that is how others (including your partner) took them.
 
But i am wondering....did HE himself say he felt it was disrespectful...or did he say that because others found it to be?  Just wondering....
 
Daddysgirl



 
 
 

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