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ORIGINAL: OedipusRexIt
I'd be interested to hear thoughts from people (at least those who don't profess to KNOW better than anyone) as to whether they've had this experience and what reaction it provoked in them.

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ORIGINAL: OedipusRexIt

I have had the odd experience, repeated numerous times, wherein the person to whom I'm speaking says, quite blithely "Oh, I lied about that in my profile".

I find this odd because knowing someone lied to me is a major turnoff and almost always results in a complete lack of interest on my part.

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ORIGINAL: LadySashayy

I very much enjoyed reading your eloquent and informative post, MysticFireTopaz. I'm curious what you do to be sure you've found the man's "Dominant" profile here. I hadn't even thought about this and now that I'm getting some responses finally, I believe I should make your technique part of my vetting process.

If you don't want to publicly post it, I'd welcome an in-system PM from you.

1. First, I call up the sub's profile and make a careful note of age, height, weight, and city.  I also mentally note any fetishes he mentions, what he says his interests are, what color background he used, what font he used, and what photo(s) he had posted.   I also notice anything unique about his writing style, e.g. words he commonly uses, spelling or grammar errors he makes, etc.
   
2. I then do a seach that would bring up his submissives profile, but under orientation, I put "any" to call up all male submissive, dominant, or switch profiles.  I usually do the subs age plus or minus five years, because they sometimes fudge their age a litte.  So if the sub I was checking out was male, 40, and lived in Texas, I would call up all male profiles in Texas 35 - 45.
   
3. A good tip that will often nail them quickly is when you see two profiles that have the same age and city that were online at close to the same time.  A common behavior is that they log off of one screen name, then log on to the other. 
   
4. If I don't get an easy hit like this, I methodically go through the dom and switch profiles one by one looking for one that corresponds to the sub's.
   
5. Sometimes they have the same photo on both the dom and sub profile, which is a dead giveaway!  I have caught a few that way.
   
6. If not, I look for matches on age, height, weight, and city.  If you see both a dom and a sub profile where the age, height, weight, and city are the same, you usually have a hit.  I have caught many this way.  Sometimes they don't match exactly, but are close.  Some will fudge a little on the age or weight, or put something a little different for the city.  One I know of has his exact city in the sub profile, but just lists Texas in the dom profile.
   
7. Read the verbiage and lists of interests on the profile.  Often, he will have the same fetishes, but talk about them from the dom perspective in one, and the sub perspective in another.  One fellow on here talks about being at the end of a Domme's leash in his sub profile, but having a sub on the end of his leash in his dom profile.  Another one I caught said something like "I am not a masochist, but understand the necessity of discipline" in his sub profile and said, "I am not a sadist, but you will understand the necessity of discipline" in his dom profile.
   
8. Look at the background color and font.  I have found that many of them use the same on both profiles.
   
9. Look for idiosyncrasies in his wording, punctuation, and grammar.  Some have a fondness for particular words and will use them in both profiles.  One I caught has a habit of not using apostrophes in contractions, e.g. he would use "dont" insead of "don't" and did this on both of the profiles.
   
10. I also have a membership on Alt and do similar searches there.  If you can find a sub profile over there, you can get his date of birth from that.  Then you can do a search on doms by astrological sign and call up the dom profile (I believe you have to be a silver member, though).  For some reason, they seem to be truthful about their day and month of birth, but may fudge some on the year.  Another clue on Alt is that it lists how many miles he is away from you.  If the distance from you on a dom and a sub profile is exactly the same, it means they are in the same location, and may even be the same person. I will also check out Bondage.com, which doesn't take too long, since there aren't that many profiles on there.

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ORIGINAL: juliaoceania

There are two types of lies, ones of omission (someone does not update their profile) and one of commision (one intends to deceive when filling out their profile). I have omitted things and forgotten to change a profile.

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ORIGINAL: BBBTBW

The height/age thing is a biggie to lie about.  I too am VERTICALLY ENHANCED for a woman 6'1 in my bare feet (I got in the height line 3 times)and the numbers of men that lie about their height is abundantly HIGH.  I don't have a problem with men shorter than me, I am secure enough in my femininity and my DOMINANCE to be with men that are vertically challenged, just tell the truth. 

I have also had issues with men that tell me they are sometimes 10 years younger than they are, then they send a pic and I am dumbfounded.  I start second guessing my eyesight or my ability to judge approximate age..  I have my age range set from 18 to 60 and I am willing to go beyond the maximum if I feel someone really has what I seek.  Just be honest people....its really not that scary to let your true self out.