HatesParisHilton
Posts: 3513
Joined: 12/27/2006
Status: offline
|
well, even though many skirt around the issue, cybering is many times just a way for people to get off when they have no intention of ever meeting even if they know the other person is - at the end of it - looking to meet. All people? No, but for those that DO con people like that (of any variety and background), sorry to make a declaritive all encompassing statement, but they are no different to men who take off their wedding rings and troll singles bars in r/l or women who pretend to be single and flirt to get free drinks. and DECLARITIVELY, those are both bad people, sorry, because they abuse trust. If you need time and might need a fair amount of cyber to feel comfy with a meet, that's okay, but if you know ou have no intention of meeting and know the person you ask to cyber with IS single and wants to meet? Sorry, you are scum.
on the flipside, before anyone thinks I'm totally anti cyber (which I am not), with good people versus the male "playaz" and female "drink ho's" (sorry guys and gals, you all know they ARE out there and use the net too), cyber can be a great thing, and may in fact HELP lead to a meet and a session even faster than YOU might be ready for, LOL.
This has happened to me more than several times. It's not always the male who's in a rush to meet. In fact more than twice I've had to ask for a bit more "q and a" before ph. #'s are exchanged and/or a meet. Men have to be self protective as well.
Another thing to bear in mind is that we should not limit cyber to the contexts in which it's been presented in this thread. No one has spoken of "accidental cybering" yet, nor the value of it. Dunno what I mean? here ya go ~
non sexual or romantically oriented message boards.
things like sci fi boards, writing boards, even antiquing boards, you name it, "hot and heavy good stuff" happens off those. In fact, IMO, more often than boards DEDICATED to "naughty". Why?
you don't know you'r flirting. That's almost always the most effective flirt. You just act like you don't give a damn about anything, only speak on non-naughty topics that matter to you in a way that presents you as a MIND a SOUL and as a PERSON, and yet, subconsciously, you tend to let your "kink undies show".
And someone who wants to give ya the good spicy stuff almost ALWAYS notices.
Then they play with you a bit on the boards, even though you may not know it... They flirt a bit, their fetish comes out between the lines, then yours does, before you know it...
2 people are hankering for a meet WAY faster than the traditional "send messge to this profile" and e-mail banter based on the premise of both people being on "this naughty site" and maybe you write some erotica for them, maybe you wonder about the time and effort there. But then, as you're questioning "should I write page 5?"
They e-mail you and tell ya, "I'd like to know how soundproof the walls of your place is."
I don't need to explain that to anyone here.
If I do, you ain't ready to meet anybody, LOL.
So there ya go, flipside on positive reasons for cyber, but like I said, like r/l flirting in vanilla land, often, accidental works better.
Best to all.
_____________________________
I am (now) "Hiltie", hear me ROARRRRR! And have a cuffy cake, they're nice.
|
RE: To Cyber or Not - 
Profile
RE: To Cyber or Not - 
New Messages
No New Messages
Hot Topic w/ New Messages
Hot Topic w/o New Messages
Locked w/ New Messages
Locked w/o New Messages
Post New Thread