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RE: A question to stir things up - 1/11/2007 6:11:54 AM   
valeca


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Status: offline 		Our relationship is also primarily monogamous, but it's certainly within the realm of possibility that he'd be with others.  If it'd been discussed ahead of time, no problem, I'd want to watch/participate, too.

If it hadn't been discussed ahead of time, it'd take some talking to find out what was going on, but I don't think either would cause irreparable damage to our overall relationship.   A couple of scuff marks, maybe.

< Message edited by valeca -- 1/11/2007 6:12:11 AM >

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RE: A question to stir things up - 1/11/2007 6:15:15 AM   
ardelle


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ORIGINAL: sweetnurseBBW

If it wasn't something I knew about or expected than both would be. Betrayal is betrayal no matter who it is. On the other hand I am his property and he makes the rules.

greetings
 
if i may ask a question? you state that your Master makes the rules; if such a thing was to happen, would it end your relationship? i mean no disrespect by my question, i am just curious

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RE: A question to stir things up - 1/11/2007 6:20:20 AM   
sweetnurseBBW


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Status: offline 		As his slave I obey. Knowing Master, it wouldn't happen. We have agreed to a monogomaus type realtionshiop.  I doubt it would end the relationship. Theres no for sure way to know until I was actually being faced with this problem. Knowing me I would be more upset I didn't get to join in.

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RE: A question to stir things up - 1/11/2007 6:22:31 AM   
ardelle


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Status: offline 		greetings sweetnursebbw
 
thank you for your answer

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RE: A question to stir things up - 1/11/2007 6:43:16 AM   
mymasterssub69


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quote:

ORIGINAL: SpinnerofTales

Here's a question just to spark discussion...aimed at all female slaves and subs:
Which would you find more damaging to your relationhip with a Dom...to come home and find him having sex with a submissive man or a dominant woman?


yes it would damage my relationship because i'm a jealous person (wrong for a submissive, i know) and i don't like sharing however i know Daddy wouldn't do that. He's a one-daughter/submissive type of DaddyDom.

quote:


(The reason I don't ask men is that we ALL want to see two women making it so it would be a whole different set of responses)




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RE: A question to stir things up - 1/11/2007 6:46:54 AM   
SweetSarijane


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Status: offline 		It wouldn't matter to me which it was. I would feel betrayed and leave him to it while I left for good. I stick to monogamous relationships. They work best for me. I don't handle being lied to and cheated on very well at all and that's what it would be in my case.

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RE: A question to stir things up - 1/11/2007 7:44:36 AM   
LuckyAlbatross


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quote:

ORIGINAL: SpinnerofTales
Here's a question just to spark discussion...aimed at all female slaves and subs:
Which would you find more damaging to your relationhip with a Dom...to come home and find him having sex with a submissive man or a dominant woman?

(The reason I don't ask men is that we ALL want to see two women making it so it would be a whole different set of responses)

Uh neither.

I'd find it more damaging if they hadn't cleaned the apartment before having company, or were late to dinner because they were fucking.

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RE: A question to stir things up - 1/11/2007 7:52:33 AM   
LuckyAlbatross


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quote:

ORIGINAL: Wildfleurs
I like to watch two men together, but since my owner is as straight as a board its confined to me watching gay sm videos. 

Ditto, hot gay leather sex...ooooooooo.

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RE: A question to stir things up - 1/11/2007 7:59:17 AM   
Mercnbeth


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RE: A question to stir things up - 1/11/2007 8:09:17 AM   
KnightofMists


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quote:

ORIGINAL: SpinnerofTales

one needs what we humans call "a sense of humor


great... let me know when you get one....

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RE: A question to stir things up - 1/11/2007 8:48:27 AM   
slavetsina


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ORIGINAL: crouchingtigress

it would be the exact same for me, i would feel betrayed no matter what.

Ditto

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RE: A question to stir things up - 1/11/2007 9:11:24 AM   
Devilslilsister


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Status: offline 		i'd find it more damaging if it was with a woman.  I actually had something similiar happen about a year ago.  Except i was "right there" and i "noticed" the bed moving while everyone was supposed to be "sleeping" 

Hm - i was of course devastated as i had never seen my Master sleep with another.  Yet i was polite enough to allow them to continue thinking i was sleeping, wait for them to finish, fall asleep and then i walked with my cell phone, no shoes, and no cash.  I ended up about 60 miles away at a friends house.  I did finally make contact with my Master 12 hours later as the police had left a message on my cell phone and it seemed people were very worried.  Master brought me to reason and i allowed him to pick me up and we drove the 3 or 4 hours to get back home. 

i probably wouldnt be upset if it was a man.  i tend to find that erotic and my first thought would most likely be "finally!"  i have plenty of daydreams about taking a man anally and Master has assured me that it will never ever happen with him.  = (    I'm sure if it happened, i would go through shock, suprise and then interest


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RE: A question to stir things up - 1/11/2007 9:17:13 AM   
Missokyst


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Status: offline 		Both would hurt me.  But I would feel more devasted by any man I am with being with another man.  It would mean I didn't pay attention to who he was before I became his.  Although seeing him with a domme would bug me, as I am also a top, it wouldn't throw me for a loop as much as the prior.
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RE: A question to stir things up - 1/11/2007 9:27:18 AM   
MasterGremlin


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Status: offline 		Neither one would be damaging for me.  I would just join in.
Sincerely,
minxy

I should probably add that Master is not bi so a male sub would never happen (much to my dismay) and the only way a female Dominant would happen is if They were on equal footing.  I have no doubt that Master would love to see me dominated by a woman though. 

< Message edited by MasterGremlin -- 1/11/2007 9:42:45 AM >

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RE: A question to stir things up - 1/11/2007 9:56:12 AM   
daddysprop247


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quote:

ORIGINAL: SpinnerofTales

Here's a question just to spark discussion...aimed at all female slaves and subs:
Which would you find more damaging to your relationhip with a Dom...to come home and find him having sex with a submissive man or a dominant woman?

(The reason I don't ask men is that we ALL want to see two women making it so it would be a whole different set of responses)





to see him having sex with another man, regardless of lifestyle orientation, is perhaps the most devastating thing i can think of. it would tell me that our entire relationship, friendship, everything, had been based on a monumental lie. that he was not the man i thought i gave myself to..that he was a stranger.
to see him having sex with a Dominant woman would be bad, but then he would never submit to anyone, much less a female, so he would still be the Dominant one in that situation, forcing a femdom to her knees.

btw...not ALL men wish to see two women together sexually. my Master finds the idea disgusting at worst and boring at best.

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RE: A question to stir things up - 1/11/2007 10:43:46 AM   
BitaTruble


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ORIGINAL: SpinnerofTales

I have said this before and I'll say it again...it was a JOKE fergodssake :grin: I will,  however, in future conversations, make sure to use a special font to denote any attempts at humor. My aplogies for not thinking of this sooner.

Oh, oh. A joke. Ok. See, now the 'grin' I get. The joke I didn't get, but then, it wasn't that funny so you need to be very specific for those of us who actually have no sense of humor, like me. Himself constantly complains that I don't have one, but then, he's not that funny either.
<--your punishment for the bad joke

You're forgiven.  <-- the laughing face to denote that I'm joking. (See how well that works?  )

I would stick with the smiley faces and skip the font to tell your jokes. Changing the font is just going to confuse me.  Besides, you throw a scenario out there talking about two males having sex and I just got all distracted and stuff.

Celeste

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RE: A question to stir things up - 1/11/2007 12:44:11 PM   
slavejali


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Here's a question just to spark discussion...aimed at all female slaves and subs:
Which would you find more damaging to your relationhip with a Dom...to come home and find him having sex with a submissive man or a dominant woman?


We have a monogamous relationship, so I would be upset with either. Underlaying my feelings of being betrayed, I don't think I could differentiate over which scenario would impact me the deepest in a negative way. Both would be putting in my face that he had been misrepresenting himself to me, so my whole belief surrounding our relationship would be destroyed. Both, would damage my slavery to him irrepairably, basically because both would be telling me he was submissive, basically because he had allowed sexual feelings for someone else outside our relationship and he submitted and acted on those feelings, allowing himself to be dominated by something he knew would screw up our relationship and hurt me immensely. I could possibly continue the relationship, but I would never feel submitted to him and my sexual feelings for him would vanish in an instant. Such is the life of a scorpio mindset.

God what a horrible scenario to think about...yuck.

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RE: A question to stir things up - 1/11/2007 12:54:04 PM   
PhoenixLM


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quote:

ORIGINAL: SpinnerofTales

Here's a question just to spark discussion...aimed at all female slaves and subs:
Which would you find more damaging to your relationhip with a Dom...to come home and find him having sex with a submissive man or a dominant woman?

(The reason I don't ask men is that we ALL want to see two women making it so it would be a whole different set of responses)




If we are talking sex either, but then my Mistress & I have a very clear understanding about that.

If we are talking BDSM play (not sex) would not bother me in the least I am well aware my owner has bottomed in the past and might to learn how something feels from the other side.  I am know she plays with others, though her style of play with me and the way she tops others are worlds apart.

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RE: A question to stir things up - 1/11/2007 4:15:35 PM   
littleone35


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Status: offline 		Well i know my Master would do neither but in the spirt of the thread i will answer.

Master and i have a monogamous relationship.  I told him from the beginning of the relationship that if i accept his collar i would have to be the only one.  He said that is fine i only want you.  So if He had sex with a Domme( a submissive male would NEVER happen)  I would be totally devastated and even though i love Him i would have to end the relationship.  My trust would be broken.

He told me that will never happen so i am not worried.

Matt's littleone


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RE: A question to stir things up - 1/11/2007 4:17:13 PM   
Celeste43


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quote:

ORIGINAL: losttreasure

quote:

ORIGINAL: ardelle

greetings
 
neither. If that is what he wishes to do; it is not my place to tell him he can not


I understand the position you take in this, but for me, it would unravel the very fabric of our relationship...

First, because our relationship is monogamous; if he wishes to change that arrangement, I would expect the opportunity to accept that choice before the fact.

More importantly, our relationship is based on truthful knowledge of each other.  As he has shown himself to be a heterosexual dominant to me, to find him with either of those choices would indicate a deception.



Exactly what she said. Either way would indicate deliberate lies and dishonesty.

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