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RE: A question to stir things up - 1/11/2007 4:48:08 PM

MaryT

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Not replying to anyone - just in general: I've come to the conclusion that maybe monogamy often isn't a reasonable expectation. I say this after being married for three decades to a man who was monogamous to the best of my knowledge. I'm not interested in being poly with another submissive woman (I don't want to see someone else getting my treats - greedy subbie that I am). But if we're not going to be having kids (and we're NOT) or the like, and we practice safe sex anyway ... should I care that he finds fulfillment in other women (or whomever)? It seems selfish to think "yes" and sluttish to think not, even though I am the monogamous sort myself.

A recovering Catholic who grew up in the wake of the sexual revolution - no wonder I want to be tied up and flogged.

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RE: A question to stir things up - 1/11/2007 5:34:37 PM

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Here is a question for those of you who replied that finding your Master in bed with a Domme would devastate you because it would mean he was a submissive.

Why did you assume that?

The OP did not specify that they were scening only that they were having sex.

Why do you think a Dom and a Domme could not just induldge in a little old fashion fucking?

Scooter nor Jewel are submissive in any way, shape or form, yet thay are married and the do have sex.

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RE: A question to stir things up - 1/11/2007 6:33:30 PM

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greetings maryt

i thought your question about monogamy was an interesting one. i will admit that with Master the issue never came up between us; yet it was also understood that if he choose to have others, that was his decision. i had no expectations either way about it.

i am curious as to how others would view this though. Do most go into relationships with the expectation of monogamy or with the expectation of it not being monogamous?

i mean no offense by my questions, just curious about how others would view your comment.

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RE: A question to stir things up - 1/11/2007 7:51:24 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: twicehappy
Why do you think a Dom and a Domme could not just induldge in a little old fashion fucking?

Scooter nor Jewel are submissive in any way, shape or form, yet thay are married and the do have sex.

Thanks twice, I wondered that as well. My guess was because they could wrap their minds around their dom being a liar, a cheat, or possibly gay- but not submissive or switch or vanilla.

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RE: A question to stir things up - 1/11/2007 8:05:01 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: LuckyAlbatross
Thanks twice, I wondered that as well. My guess was because they could wrap their minds around their dom being a liar, a cheat, or possibly gay- but not submissive or switch or vanilla.

I'd have to draw the line at vanilla, assuming it was a state of being and not a diversion from kink.

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RE: A question to stir things up - 1/12/2007 8:09:31 PM

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A male no doubt!!! Master is full of suprises and i'm sure he would be warmming her up for my good girl treat........hehhee fluff

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RE: A question to stir things up - 1/12/2007 8:14:34 PM

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it would be the exact same for me, i would feel betrayed no matter what.

I'm with CT on this... betrayal hurts, no matter what form it takes.

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