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I couldn't help it... What about the Mistress's that ar... - 1/25/2007 1:08:48 PM

ShiftedJewel

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There is sooooo much complaining about female dominants that seek "tribute" or the pro-dommes... Not complaining here... to each their own ok? What about the ones that really, sincerely, are not about the subs/slaves money? The ones that say "You won't be required to contribute financially to the household" or "Your contribution to the household will be minimal" ... I know there has to be a few out there someplace... and those same subs/slaves that complain about us only wanting their money still run like wild fire.... I think they just like to complain... don't you?

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RE: I couldn't help it... What about the Mistress's tha... - 1/25/2007 1:14:36 PM

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The contribution I expect is in proportion to how much time they spend there (I'm thinkin' food bill!) and how many events we go to. As much as I wish to be able to, I can't pay everyone's way nor can I support someone long term. Perhaps one day I can take care of myself and my slaves in a manner to which we could become accustomed. ;-)

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RE: I couldn't help it... What about the Mistress's tha... - 1/25/2007 1:21:49 PM

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I think you are right and they will complain no matter how little you ask of them. I'd love to win the lottery and have two separate households, one for the slaves and one for my family (oh yeah, and a nanny for the family...lol). But I bet then the slaves/subs would complain about their non monetarial contributions to the house...

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RE: I couldn't help it... What about the Mistress's tha... - 1/25/2007 1:36:29 PM

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I agree... we had one here that not only didn't contribute financially to the household (we didn't need for him to) but complained because we didn't spend enough money on him... WTF??

Some people are just incapable of being happy no matter what you do.

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RE: I couldn't help it... What about the Mistress's tha... - 1/25/2007 1:43:41 PM

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Those that complain like that I think are not real slaves or subs. Maybe they are just spoiled brats looking for a handout. Kick them to the curb and let the next one have them.

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RE: I couldn't help it... What about the Mistress's tha... - 1/25/2007 1:57:46 PM

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I am my Mistress's gardener. She refuses to take my money. I work hard for her and often give her plant material. I prefer that so I can plant as I wish. On occassion she will have a new sub come and work with me. She offers four hours of labor for a one hour session. This is very fair. I do not count the hours or nickle and dime her. She knows this and gives me extended time. In the winter when I can not work as much she expects me to come for sessions every 2 weeks, on the house. There have been guys who I have worked with that have complained because they have worked more that four hours and only got 1 hour session time. It is usually like 4 1/2 to 5 hours that they worked. One actually called her up and told her she owed him 15 minutes because he worked overtime. She tells these guys to get lost and never to come back. I think these guys have balls and they should be sent away. How cheap can they be.
I am lucky to have such a good Mistress and I give her good help. I reap the benefits. Why can't these guys see that they need to show some dedication before they recieve perks.
The nerve of them. Now I know why my Mistress tells me I am #1 slave.
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RE: I couldn't help it... What about the Mistress's tha... - 1/25/2007 2:07:53 PM

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Well, I think people have taken things like tribute and housework to extremes. I have seen examples of 18 year old trolls getting on CM and say "I want a slave that pays my way." Well, for those girls(I do use that term purposely) I think that BDSM is an idea that is simply over their heads. It is not about if you can make a living by portraying a Domme and how much money and stuff you receive. It is far more deeply rooted than that.

For you guys, your labor is meant to be a gift to your Domme. you shouldnt expect an alloted amount of play time in exchange for money or labor because that is simply prostitution. It should be a gift to your owner, a token of your appreciation for her.

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RE: I couldn't help it... What about the Mistress's tha... - 1/25/2007 2:27:14 PM

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quote:

For you guys, your labor is meant to be a gift to your Domme. you shouldnt expect an alloted amount of play time in exchange for money or labor because that is simply prostitution. It should be a gift to your owner, a token of your appreciation for her.

Thank you.

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RE: I couldn't help it... What about the Mistress's tha... - 1/25/2007 2:30:38 PM

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Jewel, my grandpa had a phrase that fits "some people" to a T...... "He/She'd bitch if you hung em with a new rope!"

I always liked that one.

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RE: I couldn't help it... What about the Mistress's tha... - 1/25/2007 2:30:51 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: ShiftedJewel

Thank you.

Jewel

*chuckles* no problem.

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RE: I couldn't help it... What about the Mistress's tha... - 1/25/2007 2:46:40 PM

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Personally, I feel these responses are reacting to a tiny segment of the community that has a larger voice than it really deserves. It's why I hate these threads, regardless of what bent they take. I'm pretty sure there's a group of wannabes that love riling people up and pretty much enjoy themselves with no end everytime one of the women takes up the gauntlet, further allowing them more opportunities to continue their bantering.

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RE: I couldn't help it... What about the Mistress's tha... - 1/25/2007 2:52:21 PM

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I personally don't like to mix submission and financially contributions to the household. I told Fox (and he expected & desired to contribute) that we would not be supporting him. He and Tom then work out what Fox pays monthly into the household (I find finances to be very stressful so as head of house, I laid that burden on the husband). I believe they based it on how much he consumes in the household -- utilities and food.

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RE: I couldn't help it... What about the Mistress's tha... - 1/25/2007 3:09:49 PM

ShiftedJewel

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quote:

ORIGINAL: littlesarbonn

Personally, I feel these responses are reacting to a tiny segment of the community that has a larger voice than it really deserves. It's why I hate these threads, regardless of what bent they take. I'm pretty sure there's a group of wannabes that love riling people up and pretty much enjoy themselves with no end everytime one of the women takes up the gauntlet, further allowing them more opportunities to continue their bantering.

I absolutely agree with you.... and believe me sarbonn... I'm not one to pick up the gauntlet and argue with them, I really do have other things I'd rather be doing.. or not doing.. whatever the case may be. Like I said... I couldn't help it... it's all just as silly as the "old fashioned" threads...

But sometimes we need some silliness in our lives.

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RE: I couldn't help it... What about the Mistress's tha... - 1/25/2007 3:14:21 PM

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I agree with you also Jewel. Reading the whining does get old and I loved the idea behind this thread. And yes, fun and sillliness is extremely under-rated.

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RE: I couldn't help it... What about the Mistress's tha... - 1/25/2007 3:20:47 PM

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Yeah, but the Mistresses who dont want money.. you know..... they want commitment or something! Whats that about?

I mean, how's a guy to get what he wants and just go on his way for goodness' sake? Its so unfair!

Mind you, he could always become a grammatically lazy panda I guess; one who eats shoots and leaves.

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RE: I couldn't help it... What about the Mistress's tha... - 1/25/2007 7:54:23 PM

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Wonderful topic Jewel!
**clapping hands here**
Let's see, many of us NOT seeking money or financial support
{around here} have no serious submissive.
Why?
Could it be that many of the men here want someone that looks great in
fetish ware, has a big toy chest and is looking for someone to "play"
with, and NO committment!
Imagine that! Most of us want real relationships with our submissives.
I have talked to several women that went Pro, because they were disappointed
in the males they ran across.
That way they are getting SOMETHING out of it.
I could be wrong here. Maybe there are great amounts of women that want to
dominate and play with virtual strangers and have no committment.
Sounds like great fun, letting a total stranger into your life and personal space,
touching genitals and having intimate contact.
Sign us all up what a bargain.
Wow

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RE: I couldn't help it... What about the Mistress's tha... - 1/25/2007 8:07:14 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: dicipline2
For you guys, your labor is meant to be a gift to your Domme. you shouldnt expect an alloted amount of play time in exchange for money or labor because that is simply prostitution. It should be a gift to your owner, a token of your appreciation for her.

splitting costs down the middle is fair, anything else is a profit/loss center

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RE: I couldn't help it... What about the Mistress's tha... - 1/25/2007 8:12:23 PM

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Its a shame when the realities of life ruin the fantasies in our heads huh? You think it wouldnt be a big surprise that I am in my 20's and not independentally wealthy yet.

But...then again male Doms are so much simpler. Blowjobs over money. Priorities in order.

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RE: I couldn't help it... What about the Mistress's tha... - 1/26/2007 12:56:45 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: MadRabbit
But...then again male Doms are so much simpler. Blowjobs over money. Priorities in order.

LOL, you have a point... I have had days I wish I was more about the horniness factor. M

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RE: I couldn't help it... What about the Mistress's tha... - 1/26/2007 6:13:11 AM

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You know, ShiftedJewel, I'm about much more scary things than money.

I'm about honesty, time, training, focus, energy, committment, active service, obedience, fear, openness, self-control, lossing self-control, self motivation, creativity, spirituality....

My goodness I seem to want it all expect the money, don't I?

That in my experience is far more scary to most wannbes than asking for money.

They can just complain about the money more because its more socially questionable with the shadow of prostitution claims.

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