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RE: JUST AN OBSERVATION AND OPINION ABOUT THE subs/slav... - 2/2/2007 6:37:54 PM   
DominaSmartass


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Status: offline 		I will admit I haven't read all 2 pages of this thread. I'm really not interested enough in everyone's responses one way or the other about all the supposed fakes out there. I do have one thing to add though. Anyone ever notice that the people who post the messages about all the "fakes" and "players" out there are sometimes prime examples of those very same "fakes" and "players" ? I wish someone would call people on their bullshit, especially when they go around proclaiming how *they* are the only real ones. I think that all of us could be perceived as fakes or game players based on small portions of our interaction with people. I consider myself "real" but there have been a rare few occassions on which I have behaved in a way which I'm sure could be perceived as being deceptive or manipulative, etc. It's just part of being human. We do the best we can, or at least I think most of us try to.

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RE: JUST AN OBSERVATION AND OPINION ABOUT THE subs/slav... - 2/2/2007 6:38:10 PM   
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Status: offline 		babynyla, I'm sure you get more than your share of cockshots, there are plenty of freeks who send them as introductions to the females, expecting females to just drop everything and run to them. hell after your comment you probaby got 100's of more cockshots sent to you. that's it you posted your last statement to tease more freeks!!:P

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RE: JUST AN OBSERVATION AND OPINION ABOUT THE subs/slav... - 2/2/2007 6:38:53 PM   
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Status: offline 		My observation has been everyone is either fake or so jaded from encountering fakes that they're completely unwilling to make an honest attempt at communication.  I make it a point not lose any hair over online personals though. Note: I was overexagerated I have atleast had some decent message exchanges with people from here (not many though).

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RE: JUST AN OBSERVATION AND OPINION ABOUT THE subs/slav... - 2/2/2007 8:18:46 PM   
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Status: offline 		Dear DomCpl4RTslave, Ladies and Gentlemen;

Real and True included in any part of a statement or sentence; in my mind's eyes is a matter of an individual's perception and what individuals use as a measuring stick of what True and or Real is.

Having a life other than sit behind a computer screen, there can be many justified reasons why individuals do not respond.  Furthermore, people have a right to change their minds.  I like giving people the benefit of a doubt or so.

As for coming into a home of another, it is very risky for a single person.  Having a couple is an instant concern for potential harm, as two can overpower someone and there have been cases in the past; where slaves were enticed into a private home but, in fact it was an abandoned home and awful things were done.  May I suggest that those slaves who may wish to relocate be given consideration on how to address their needs for security, safety and anything that may be of their concern.
I have had neutral areas where the slave can stay at a hotel and spend time in public places and only when comfortable, the second trip may be the time to introduce them into your private home. I would also invite these potential slaves to call into their 'safe call' individuals.  Safety is everybody's concerns.

That said, although I am not exactly seeking a female slave--I have met several of these fine ladies who identify as slaves and also have met some ladies who identify as Dominants.  They have indeed behaved in a manner fitting to their title choices.
Unfortunately, no matter where one seeks, there will be those who make a sport of the lifestyle, some who have no options but to keep to a weekend warrior schedule out of necessity, rather than choice; like those who are care givers, suddenly find themselves sole custody of children.  Sometimes people have to put their lives on pause to commit to a higher good.

Just some thoughts.

Respectfully submitted for consideration,
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RE: JUST AN OBSERVATION AND OPINION ABOUT THE subs/slav... - 2/2/2007 8:38:06 PM   
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ORIGINAL: BlackKnight

babynyla, I'm sure you get more than your share of cockshots, there are plenty of freeks who send them as introductions to the females, expecting females to just drop everything and run to them. hell after your comment you probaby got 100's of more cockshots sent to you. that's it you posted your last statement to tease more freeks!!:P



I actually just posted it to tease mnottertail, hehe. 

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RE: JUST AN OBSERVATION AND OPINION ABOUT THE subs/slav... - 2/2/2007 9:00:47 PM   
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ORIGINAL: windchymes2.  If you are as active and respected in 'the community' as you claim to be, then you would be well aware of the number of "fakes and wannabes" there are and you would surely be as bored and unimpressed with that fact as we are in here and you wouldn't feel the need to make (yet another) thread about it.


<evil smirk> You hit the nail on the head there. I hate to make things personal but from someone who knows, yes, nail, head, just got hit.

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RE: JUST AN OBSERVATION AND OPINION ABOUT THE subs/slav... - 2/2/2007 10:10:29 PM   
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ORIGINAL: DominaSmartass

I will admit I haven't read all 2 pages of this thread. I'm really not interested enough in everyone's responses one way or the other about all the supposed fakes out there. I do have one thing to add though. Anyone ever notice that the people who post the messages about all the "fakes" and "players" out there are sometimes prime examples of those very same "fakes" and "players" ? I wish someone would call people on their bullshit, especially when they go around proclaiming how *they* are the only real ones. I think that all of us could be perceived as fakes or game players based on small portions of our interaction with people. I consider myself "real" but there have been a rare few occassions on which I have behaved in a way which I'm sure could be perceived as being deceptive or manipulative, etc. It's just part of being human. We do the best we can, or at least I think most of us try to.


Go ahead... call me on my bull shit... Wanna see if I'm real? No problem... email me on the other side and I'll give you my phone number... coming through Indiana anytime soon... let me know, I'll give you my address, stop by, hell, spend the night for all I care... And that's open to any one that has the intestinal fortitude to do it. Just remember... turn about is fair play... if you block your number... I don't answer the phone. That easy.
 
Jewel

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RE: JUST AN OBSERVATION AND OPINION ABOUT THE subs/slav... - 2/2/2007 10:18:29 PM   
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RE: JUST AN OBSERVATION AND OPINION ABOUT THE subs/slav... - 2/2/2007 11:00:29 PM   
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ORIGINAL: ShiftedJewel

Go ahead... call me on my bull shit... Wanna see if I'm real? No problem... email me on the other side and I'll give you my phone number... coming through Indiana anytime soon... let me know, I'll give you my address, stop by, hell, spend the night for all I care... And that's open to any one that has the intestinal fortitude to do it. Just remember... turn about is fair play... if you block your number... I don't answer the phone. That easy.
 
Jewel


Just to be clear, I wasn't talking to you or referring to you. But sure, if I'm ever headed that way I will certainly give you a head's up. And same thing goes if anyone is ever in my neck of the woods, I'm happy to meet people (as friends.) It's all the requests to do quicky "sessions" in hotel rooms with traveling businessmen that I don't respond to.

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RE: JUST AN OBSERVATION AND OPINION ABOUT THE subs/slav... - 2/3/2007 2:47:53 AM   
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Status: offline 		The illusions of a website with its graphics, pictures and flowery profiles often cause unreal expectations that this is the promised land where Doms and subs abound waiting on golden bleachers for you to pick um with the 30 second heavenly time clock running.  So you are right, it is not real and it causes frustration.

Once you realize others are attracted to the same things here as you probably are in your desires, you will find what is real. Physical attractiveness, wit, humor, concern for others, trustworthiness and practicality, all get you points in this earthly game.

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RE: JUST AN OBSERVATION AND OPINION ABOUT THE subs/slav... - 2/3/2007 3:39:45 AM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: DominaSmartass


quote:

ORIGINAL: ShiftedJewel

Go ahead... call me on my bull shit... Wanna see if I'm real? No problem... email me on the other side and I'll give you my phone number... coming through Indiana anytime soon... let me know, I'll give you my address, stop by, hell, spend the night for all I care... And that's open to any one that has the intestinal fortitude to do it. Just remember... turn about is fair play... if you block your number... I don't answer the phone. That easy.
 
Jewel


Just to be clear, I wasn't talking to you or referring to you. But sure, if I'm ever headed that way I will certainly give you a head's up. And same thing goes if anyone is ever in my neck of the woods, I'm happy to meet people (as friends.) It's all the requests to do quicky "sessions" in hotel rooms with traveling businessmen that I don't respond to.
 


But what makes me different from the OP? Because they're new here? Because they didn't come on and make the same offer? Simply because I'm bolder? Only a few here know me and mine real time... But that doesn't make me more or less human then the OP, that's my point. Ok... so someone calls them on their supposed bs... then what, that person comes here and says... "Oh yeah, I met with them last week... awesome people!!" Who's gonna call them on their "bs"?
 
That's the point I've been trying to make a along... it's the "real" people.. the ones that are honestly trying to make a connection here that come here, start a thread out of total frustration in the cyber-players and "weekend warriors" that get slammed over and over by people that have become so hateful and unthinking, most likely for the same reason, that I'm talking about... what makes them less worthy of that frustration then everyone that's been posting for years?
 
Yeah, we're all tired of hearing about the fakes and wannabes... that doesn't make them go away. I know that bitching about them doesn't either... but it makes you feel better... that is until a whole group of self-righteous people beat you up for it. Maybe they would like to hear that it's possible to meet people here, maybe they want to hear about the experiences of others, maybe they just want to vent. And maybe that's all it's gonna take to give them what it takes to go back out and face the bull shit a little longer. I know it works for me. You saw what twice happy said... if not, you should... that's me she's talking about... only she didn't mention the weeks of depression I go through because I wear my heart on my sleeve. I'm sure I'm not alone there and if twenty new people start a thread like this in the next week I'll be here to back them up. I know the feeling all too well.
 
Ok, there's a search engine where you can look up things like that... BFD... in all the years I've been here I've used it once... why? Because I don't care what someone had to say about it a year ago... I want fresh input.
 
It's really very simple... If you don't like the subject don't comment on it.. don't read it.. just skip right over it, it's not that hard to do.

This isn't directed at you in particular... it's directed at anyone that thinks it is. I meant what I said... Our doors are open to friends we haven't met yet from here, and I agree, it's the "traveling lifestyler looking to play" that don't hold our attention either.
 
Jewel
 
PS... Loki... if you want spicy food hon... we can do that!!! Bottles water from Mexico? Probably not.

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RE: JUST AN OBSERVATION AND OPINION ABOUT THE subs/slav... - 2/3/2007 3:54:30 AM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: ShiftedJewel

It's really very simple... If you don't like the subject don't comment on it.. don't read it.. just skip right over it, it's not that hard to do.



Jewel, since I happened to be up, I'll butt in here. Forgive me. I know you guys are for real and enjoy your posts. However, it is unrealistic to think others are not going to comment in a negative way at times about what is posted. Tis the nature of all boards. Acutally, I thought she was pretty close, as others said, including me.

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RE: JUST AN OBSERVATION AND OPINION ABOUT THE subs/slav... - 2/3/2007 4:18:48 AM   
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Status: offline 		The first bit I probably agree with. The majority from My own experience didn't apear to be real.... but there are plenty out there, from My experiece who ARE real.... a lot wheren't compatable for ME, but they where real in what they are and what they seek.

I never had any problems arranging to meet the real ones, especialy local as they would simply turn up at the scene events I informed them I would be attending. Said hi, had a drink and a chat. Gave us chance to see if there was that spark in real life.

They DO get swamped with mails, SOME do send mails out. I had around 40 approaches over the last year when I was searching.... OK I maybe sent out 3 times that many, but they where there looking for ME too.

Hope that helps ease your 'inquiring mind'


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RE: JUST AN OBSERVATION AND OPINION ABOUT THE subs/slav... - 2/3/2007 4:21:22 AM   
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ORIGINAL: ExSteelAgain

quote:

ORIGINAL: ShiftedJewel

It's really very simple... If you don't like the subject don't comment on it.. don't read it.. just skip right over it, it's not that hard to do.



Jewel, since I happened to be up, I'll butt in here. Forgive me. I know you guys are for real and enjoy your posts. However, it is unrealistic to think others are not going to comment in a negative way at times about what is posted. Tis the nature of all boards. Acutally, I thought she was pretty close, as others said, including me.


Actually... that was meant as "in general"... like I said, it was only meant for those that believe it was meant for them.
 
And yes, it's unrealistic to believe that people aren't going to post negative comments, I understand the "type first, think later" thing.. and I don't know about how close anyone got to anything... since none of us are privy to information concerning the OP... but opinions aren't much more then that, aren't they? Whether they would fall into the "real" catagory or not... the complaint is legit...
 
I guess I'm just the type of person to avoid opening my mouth to remove all doubt when it's a subject I'm not up to date on and it's very unrealistic for me to thing others feel the same way... admittedly.
 
And it's SATURDAY MORNING... GO BACK TO BED STEEL!!!! lmao
 
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RE: JUST AN OBSERVATION AND OPINION ABOUT THE subs/slav... - 2/3/2007 4:31:33 AM   
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ORIGINAL: BabyNyla
Damn ... how come I never got a cockshot ... I feel so left out :(


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RE: JUST AN OBSERVATION AND OPINION ABOUT THE subs/slav... - 2/3/2007 5:43:24 AM   
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But what makes me different from the OP? Because they're new here? Because they didn't come on and make the same offer? Simply because I'm bolder? Only a few here know me and mine real time... But that doesn't make me more or less human then the OP, that's my point. Ok... so someone calls them on their supposed bs... then what, that person comes here and says... "Oh yeah, I met with them last week... awesome people!!" Who's gonna call them on their "bs"? 



What makes you different, Jewel? (and Scooter and Twicehappy)...
The OP's post was offensive and snotty and you're not.



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RE: JUST AN OBSERVATION AND OPINION ABOUT THE subs/slav... - 2/3/2007 5:50:48 AM   
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Status: offline 		I just want to say that what is real to one is fake to another - Since everyone work differently, everyone have different preferences, and a different view on how things should be done.
But, luckilly there is a shoe to fit every foot.

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RE: JUST AN OBSERVATION AND OPINION ABOUT THE subs/slav... - 2/3/2007 6:47:10 AM   
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ORIGINAL: ShiftedJewel
But what makes me different from the OP? Because they're new here? Because they didn't come on and make the same offer? Simply because I'm bolder? Only a few here know me and mine real time... But that doesn't make me more or less human then the OP, that's my point. Ok... so someone calls them on their supposed bs... then what, that person comes here and says... "Oh yeah, I met with them last week... awesome people!!" Who's gonna call them on their "bs"? 



What makes you different, Jewel? (and Scooter and Twicehappy)...
The OP's post was offensive and snotty and you're not.


Yanno???? I really tried to come across as offensive and snotty!!! lol
 
I think that the people that post here a lot and read the forums a lot just get to know the other posters and some of their personalities show through... I didn't read it as snotty... at least not any worse then some that post all the time, and a lot less then some... I just saw it as new and we don't know their personality yet.
 
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RE: JUST AN OBSERVATION AND OPINION ABOUT THE subs/slav... - 2/3/2007 7:13:56 AM   
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Status: offline 		Each section of the forums on any given day will have a post about people who are "not real" or "fake" or something along those lines.  EVERY day, every forum.

i for one am envious of the people whose lives are so charmed that they have never gotten home with their fast food to find their order was screwed up, who never got a busy signal when dialing the phone, who have never ordered something from a catalog or internet and didn't get exactly what they were expecting.  These same people must always get green lights at intersections, the store is never out of the item they went to buy, they have aced every job interview.  The baseball game has never been rained out, there is never a line at the ride they want to ride at Disney World, their favorite television show has never been cancelled or aired a re-run.




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RE: JUST AN OBSERVATION AND OPINION ABOUT THE subs/slav... - 2/3/2007 7:37:13 AM   
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eyesopened

their favorite television show has never been cancelled or aired a re-run.



Do you know something about "Charles in Charge" that you are not telling me?....They are not taking it off......Are They!!!...Are They!!!

Anywhooo speaking of not being "reaaaaal" again, I have a dilemma.  Ok. Under the name of  "pusslickinlarry" or something "like" that I have been involved in a LTR with a Domme for about 3 months now...Sooo.... She just sent me $170 to purchase a flight to go see her....

What do I do?...Say I am married?...or only 12 years old?....A woman? .....There are so many possibilities and I just want the end of our relationship to be as "twue" as how it started. 

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