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Funny you should ask......
Not very long ago a cool dude I met (who is also on this site and geez I hope he doesn't mind me reposting this as I ought to get permission first, but it is anonymous...soo...uh... lol) wrote this in his blog....I hope you enjoy it as much as I...and of course, your mileage may vary!
The other day a nice woman asked me what the difference was between a Master/slave relationship and a Daddy/little girl relationship.
It seemed the kind of question that would be hard to completely answer just in the course of one casual conversation so I decided it would be an excellent subject to write on in my blog.
Just about anyone who is familiar at all with the lifestyle has at least an inkling or version of what a Master/slave relationship is. In its simplest form it is a relationship based on the supposition that one person is the Master and owns the other person whom is the slave.
Most Masters have an idea of how they would like the slave to behave and perform, what functions and duties will be required and what the boundaries and limits of the relationship should be. It’s the Master’s duty to communicate those to the slave, teach them those things if necessary and to then reward when the slave meets or exceeds expectations or to discipline when and if the slave fails to meet those expectations.
Most slaves also have a well defined idea of what a Master should be like, what limitations they wish to place on their service and where the boundaries in their relationship should be drawn.
For those of you who don’t know, limits are fetish oriented acts that someone does not want to indulge in or be subjected too. Boundaries are areas of life where the Master/slave relationship is to be suspended. Instances of boundaries would be things like no references should be made to the Master/slave relationship around relatives, or the respective work places.
Slavery has no actual mechanism within the law. The rights of the Master as well as the rights of the slave are only as great and enforceable as each one deems of their own freewill to make them. The notion of slavery can be very provocative, powerful, erotic and for some even romantic.
Modern D/s and BDSM Master/slave relationships can take on many forms. It can be and is for some a substitute for traditional marriage and is considered by them to be as sacred a bond if not more so. Some slaves as well as some Masters only seek short term specified contractual commitments void of any love or emotion. Others might choose to approach it somewhere in between by entering into the relationship casually with an open mind to considering emotions and feelings that might later blossom.
Because there is no mechanism within the law to make slavery real, the success of the relationship is predicated on each of the two participants strictly and consistently adhering to their respective defined roles.
Communication is considered vital to not just creating those roles but establishing the trust that allows a person to give all that they can and grow all they can in the endeavor.
Most Master/slave relationships fail as a result of ineffectual or dishonest communication.
Someone who is to reserved, timid or shy, dishonest or manipulative to communicate fully should not attempt a Master/slave relationship.
An alternative to the Master/slave relationship is that of Daddy/little girl.
One might be inclined to view that as being a pedophilic fetish but it has a different premise behind it.
Like the Master a Daddy is a teacher and an authority figure. Like the slave, the little girl is a pupil and supplicant.
Unlike a Master who might choose to dismiss a slave who is a poor learner, troublesome, dishonest or an underachiever a Daddy provides undying parental type love. Though he will likely choose to discipline her, and continue to try to teach her better he does not withhold or deny forgiveness.
Where as Master/slave relationships can be based on nothing but obligation to one another void of love or feeling, Daddy/little girl relationships are always based on love and feeling.
There are times when the line between/hate and love is as thin and as obscured as those between pleasure and pain. What child hasn’t hated their parents at some point, what parent hasn’t been tragically disappointed or displeased with a child as well?
Just like actual parents and children sometimes runaway, go there separate ways, or even become estranged, the denotation of Daddy/little girl too a relationship usually results in each seeing the other in that role in perpetuity in a heartfelt and meaningful way.
Ideally a slave is a person who has come to terms with a desire to submit and serve, is accustomed and dedicated to full and honest communication and eagerly looks for a Master who allows her to be, and share those things.
A little girl on the other hand typically has not reached that juncture in life. She likely will be a grown and mature woman who by most definition would be considered to have led a full and even richly rewarding life. Because she hasn’t yet reached that place where she is comfortable or experienced with her desires and as such can’t communicate them fully or honestly she retains more childlike traits than does the ideal slave.
It is because of those traits that she likely can and will respond better at least in the initial stages of her growth to a Daddy as opposed to a Master. The Daddy role as an authoritarian and teacher is something she is usually already familiar with and something considered much more natural as opposed to handing over one’s rights wholesale to a Master.
The initial expectations placed on a little girl will naturally tend to be significantly less than those placed upon a slave. Though many if not more of the same aspects and goals of slavery might be eventually sought as the little girl matures. The teaching process takes much more time in the Daddy/little girl relationship.
Like any child there are likely to be times when they wish to be more mature and do the things that maturity enables. Like any child there are likely to be times when they become angry or frustrated that they can’t. Like any child there are likely to be times when they can’t understand why it is they can’t. Finally like any child there might be times when they choose to take it upon themselves and go ahead and do it anyway.
Those last circumstances though of course are why they are more suited for the little girl role to begin with. Though her heart and libido might yearn to skip to the head of the class and into the more grown up role of woman versus girl, or slave versus little girl if the initial traits that led to the casting in her original role haven’t significantly and successfully improved there is little likelihood that she could fully appreciate or succeed at a much more precisely defined slavery.
Like slaves belong to Masters, little girls belong to their Daddies. The premise of ownership can be a strong and provocative as well as erotic bond to both types of relationships.
Unlike Master/slave relationships that can connote status and commitment through collaring, the Daddy/little girl relationship have nothing to neither signify nor sanctify it. This can also be a frustration for a little girl who would like to have something physically tangible to display as commitment, like a collar or wedding ring does.
Little girl’s can successfully grow up during the course of a Daddy/little girl relationship and it’s up to each Daddy as to what form of relationship they want to have with their grown little girl.
Most little girls will end up running away though at some point from their Daddy to foster a new relationship or resume an old one.
Even in the case where that does happen, little girls typically keep their Daddies in higher esteem and retain a greater emotional fondness for them; than a slave typically does for a Master she seeks release from.
Both types of relationships have their distinct advantages and disadvantages dependent on skill, experience, perspective, communicative abilities, personality and emotional availability.
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