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ORIGINAL: cjenny

It's a shame this went into the direction it has. I'm sorry but I find joking about incest within a daddy thread to be a bit much.
It seems to taint the entire concept of daddy/daughter with a stain it has tried to overcome.

sighhhhhhh. imo.

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ORIGINAL: SusanofO
On another note: I wonder what Daddies do when their little girls feel sad? This is a serious question for me, btw. I am curious what other peoples' Daddies do.  

- Susan

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ORIGINAL: justheather

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ORIGINAL: RiotGirl

heather - it was my uncle - i am/was a consenting adult.  (and my cousin is older then me) 

Joke lightens up the seriousness of it as the turn it took it shouldnt have...... so have a laugh...... we arent talking about sick twisted stuff and get on with the show.

Kind of like - get over it.  Its a kink....... thats all there is too it

Didnt know you were an adult.
Funny, Im the one saying fantasies are ok to explore and Im supposed to "get over it" because I thought something was about something against TOS.
Sometimes your logic escapes me.

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ORIGINAL: SusanofO

My Dominant doesn't mind if I have a male submissive, either (he already said that very clearly, in fact. Several times).

- Susan

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ORIGINAL: SusanofO

I am just wondering if this is reality, or a myth. I am currently involved with a Dominant who is my Daddy, but also can be (and has been, in the past) a fairly sadistic Master. But he has also been a Daddy Dom before, too. He is the one who suggested we start out as Daddy and daughter (I am not objecting, I like it, so far - I think this maybe had to do with my lack of bdsm experience, or something).

I think that's wonderful he can go "either way", really - because I suppose that means our dynamic could change, if either of us (or more likely he) ever got in the mood to change it. He is a caring man, but -

**In general, what do you think is the biggest difference (if any) between Daddy Doms and Masters? What has your experience been, if you are  Master or a Daddy, or a submissive or a slave who has dealt with both (or either) kind of Dominant?
 
Susan

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ORIGINAL: CreativeDominant
 
I think that there are numerous facets to most people.  I identify more along the lines of "Sir" or "Master" type of dominant than I do as a "Daddy" type of dominant but that is only when viewed within a strict context of their differing qualities as defined in several sources, including threads on this site. 

When viewed myself, with the infinite shading that colors most individuals, I discovered several years ago that while I mainly identify as a Sir/Master type of dominant (as noted), I also have "Daddy" aspects in me.  I am not locked into some rigid view of myself other than being dominant/father/healthcare provider/friend/brother/etc.  But those are roles and they are all colored by differing levels of what is needed within each role at a specific time.  I could be "Daddy" even while whipping the stuffing out of my "little girl" and I could be Sir while teaching her something about protocol.  Or...the situations could be reversed.  It depends on what the dynamic calls for at a given moment...just as it calls for clear-headed concision sometimes, at times it may call for loving understanding.

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ORIGINAL: VeryMercurial

So I guess it is okay to be a Daddy Dom, but not a Mommy Dom?
Or is this some sort of female submissive/male Dom issue?

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ORIGINAL: VeryMercurial

Here is another comment.  I have nothing against the Daddy Dom concept and I think I understand it.
But, there are many submissive males looking for a "Mommy" and plenty of adult babies around.
I personally do not ever want a submissive to call me "Mommy".  I feel uncomfortable with that title.
Yes, I understand nurturing and etc.  But I don't know of many Dominant women that want to be called
"mommy".
So I guess it is okay to be a Daddy Dom, but not a Mommy Dom?
Or is this some sort of female submissive/male Dom issue?

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ORIGINAL: lateralist1

The question was asked is there any mummy Dommes. The answer is yes I am one. I am also a daddy Domme. I know they are both archetypal so they are only useful as labels.
What I mean by that is if a submissive needs a type of relationship that is mummy or daddy then I provide it. Until the need is no longer there.
Relationships change and develop over time. When considering a relationship which will hopefully last for life I am careful to be aware of the possible changes in the submissives needs. D/s relationships take more nurturing and trust than any other type of relationship anyway because hopefully they are emotionally deeper than any other type. My sadism is perfectly under control. I will use it at the right time in a relationship and not before.
The main elements of a D/s relationship for me are nurture and control just as in a parent/child relationship.
Discipline of one sort or another is part of control. But it has to be loving discipline. That's why the traditional Mistress/slave relationship would never work for me.