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Heck, I've even let a sub try topping me, and while this may be seen by some as being submissive, I don't think it is, because I was in control the entire time.

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ORIGINAL: CreatfreeAccount

My point isnt to say
"it's a 'bad thing' to do what a sub asks you to do." 

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ORIGINAL: CreatfreeAccount

Do Dominants ever submit to a sub's request to do something specific to the sub that the sub likes?

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If so, is the dominant being submissive when acting out the sub's fantasy for the sub?

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ORIGINAL: SimplyMichael

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Heck, I've even let a sub try topping me, and while this may be seen by some as being submissive, I don't think it is, because I was in control the entire time.

That is a very ballsy and Dominant thing to state, my hat is off to you Sir!

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ORIGINAL: CreatfreeAccount

When he incorporates and does things you have requested of him, is that not submitting to your request?

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ORIGINAL: juliaoceania
You seem to be asking if dominants service their submissives, in my opinion smart ones do.

• A Dom which never pleases a sub
  
• A lone foraging Barbarian wandering the land.

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ORIGINAL: CreatfreeAccount

Do Dominants ever submit to a sub's request to do something specific to the sub that the sub likes?  If so, is the dominant being submissive when acting out the sub's fantasy for the sub?  If yes,  does that mean the sub has some type of control within the sub/dom relationship? 

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ORIGINAL: Padriag

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ORIGINAL: CreatfreeAccount

Do Dominants ever submit to a sub's request to do something specific to the sub that the sub likes?  If so, is the dominant being submissive when acting out the sub's fantasy for the sub?  If yes,  does that mean the sub has some type of control within the sub/dom relationship? 

Your question, as worded, cannot be answered.  One cannot and does not submit to a request.  A request is just that, the hope of something without guarantee.  One does not submit to a request, one considers a request and, if one chooses and it is within their power, grants the request.  This is not exclusive to the lifestyle, it is universal to life.  Thus if a child makes a request of a parent, the parent chooses whether to grant it or not.  A subject makes a request of their king, but has no guarantee it will be granted, they may only plead their case and hope.  The devout may make a request of their god, but there is no guarantee it will be granted and again they may only plead their case.  A slave may make a request of their owner, but they have no guarantee it will be granted, only the hope that the dominant will see fit to do so.  In any of these examples, that the parent, king, god or dominant choose to grant a request, it is only because they choose to do so for whatever reasons appeal to them, yet they are under no obligation nor compulsion to do so.  Perhaps it is granted as a reward, perhaps because it merely amuses them to do so.  There is no submission involved in that.  Submission only occurs when a demand is made and it is acceded too because the one making the demand has the authority / control.  A submissive who makes a demand is treading on dangerous ground, one who does so repeatedly will be shown the door. 

Dominants do not service submissives.  There is however a word for individuals who do... Service Tops, and they are a different animal.

Dominants reward and reinforce, they punish and take away.  How well, fairly and reliably they do this may sometimes be given as a measure of their quality as a dominant.  But they do not serve.