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afeathr -> What does a sub look/sound like? (3/5/2007 6:24:43 PM)
I received a message today that started me thinking... and perhaps this question has been asked before but here goes anyway. The message I received said exactly this (verbatim): "i must say , your words and pix do not seem submissive. this is by no means a criticism,not at all, just a casual observation" My question is: What does a sub look / sound like? How do they carry themselves, and talk to others? Is there some sort of expectation when it comes to a subs personality or appearance? Respectfully,

Missokyst -> RE: What does a sub look/sound like? (3/5/2007 6:27:17 PM)
Sound to me like who ever wrote you was a sub hoping you were a dominant. Kyst

afeathr -> RE: What does a sub look/sound like? (3/5/2007 6:28:01 PM)
I don't think so -- I think it was merely someone being curious, but it got me started thinking...

GeekyGirl -> RE: What does a sub look/sound like? (3/5/2007 6:34:41 PM)
I get told I don't look or sound submissive all the time. Probably because, as a general rule, I'm NOT submissive. My job doesn't allow for it. My livelihood revolves around controlling other people....My submissive side comes out in private :)

MasterGremlin -> RE: What does a sub look/sound like? (3/5/2007 6:37:20 PM)
A sub looks, dresses and acts exactly like what his/her Dom/me says to. Cordially, minxy [:)]

MasterFireMaam -> RE: What does a sub look/sound like? (3/5/2007 6:38:21 PM)
They look just like serial killers. Meaning, like everyone else. LOL Master Fire

outlier -> RE: What does a sub look/sound like? (3/5/2007 6:43:34 PM)
Obviously the person who wrote that did have expectations. Your words on your profile set definite limits. Your pose in the photo shows a certain pride. You were not what they were expecting or looking for. It's not your responsibility to be what everyone is looking for. And that is a good thing because it is not possible anyway. Outlier

SDFemDom4cuck -> RE: What does a sub look/sound like? (3/5/2007 6:51:28 PM)
JMO... They look just like anyone else. There is no set of rules on appearances. It's who you are and what you are. It's an aura. sub/slave/Domme/Dom/Master/Mistress are all just labels.

sambamanslilgirl -> RE: What does a sub look/sound like? (3/5/2007 6:52:35 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: afeathr My question is: What does a sub look / sound like? How do they carry themselves, and talk to others? Is there some sort of expectation when it comes to a subs personality or appearance? Respectfully, Daddy expects me to behave, act and speak as i normally would ...He's not the type of Dom whose goal is to change my personality and/or appearance only molding it to be better.

TemptingNviceSub -> RE: What does a sub look/sound like? (3/5/2007 6:53:35 PM)
A submissive looks and sounds like you, a submissive looks and sounds like me..a submissive looks and sounds like any one who identifies as BEING submissive..different ways, different, thoughts, different attitudes but nonetheless, submissive..and many a Dominant thanks the gods for those differences...Tempting

Inhibitor -> RE: What does a sub look/sound like? (3/5/2007 6:55:48 PM)
What does a gay person look/sound like? What does an only child look/sound like? People with a third nipple? Those who prefer pink, rather than black, peppercorns? If a sub farts in a movie theatre, how does it smell? [sm=mrpuffy.gif]

AquaticSub -> RE: What does a sub look/sound like? (3/5/2007 6:58:01 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: afeathr I received a message today that started me thinking... and perhaps this question has been asked before but here goes anyway. The message I received said exactly this (verbatim): "i must say , your words and pix do not seem submissive. this is by no means a criticism,not at all, just a casual observation" My question is: What does a sub look / sound like? How do they carry themselves, and talk to others? Is there some sort of expectation when it comes to a subs personality or appearance? Respectfully, To me, this question is a lot like "What does a feminist look like?". I'm a feminist but I dream of wearing a collar. I have had people comment that I don't seem submissive. My only response to that is that they aren't my owner. Valyraen is and he is happy. That's really all I care about. Why would I put another's opinion on the matter before his?

Piyush -> RE: What does a sub look/sound like? (3/5/2007 7:00:50 PM)
Above all, they all look like people. Just looks and a picture pose cannot convey much. Both can be misleading. The only way that I believe to work is to get to know the person. Cheers Piyush.

Griswold -> RE: What does a sub look/sound like? (3/5/2007 7:08:29 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: afeathr My question is: What does a sub look / sound like? How do they carry themselves, and talk to others? Is there some sort of expectation when it comes to a subs personality or appearance? Excellent question. A sub is between 5/7 and 5/11 (no more, no less). They carry themselves well, but always exactly 7 feet 9 and 1/2 inches behind the Dom or Domme (if you assume there is some variance allowed in these numbers...you're only fooling yourself). They don't talk to others. Actually...they don't talk. They've not only had their vocal chords removed...but also their sphincter. (I had mine removed when I was 9...but that was entirely unrelated to being sub). Sound; Sometimes high pitched, sometimes low...it's more a factor of high or low pressure weather systems (see www.accuweather.com for more clarity). Expectation as to appearance; Men, they are studly. Few men on the planet are as studly as these men. Women...delicious. Delectible in every way. I hope this was in some way of some help.

mp072004 -> RE: What does a sub look/sound like? (3/5/2007 7:17:21 PM)
You get to agree to serve and obey one or more people without presenting submissively to the world at large. But there are submissive and dominant social behaviors. There are cues that you can use to present yourself as more authoritative, and, while I haven't thought systematically about it, it is quite possible that the behaviors that hinder the presentation of authority would assist in the presentation of deference. Clear, articulate speech can signal dominance. Dominance for beginners: stand up straight, walk purposefully, chin up, look people in the eye. Speak slowly and deliberately, and enunciate syllables with some precision--but not exaggerated, of course. Lowering your voice may be helpful. "Command presence," even "stage presence" are terms that are often used. On looks, tall people are generally perceived as more dominant. Doing the opposite of the above would make you present as less authoritative, and might make you seem more deferential. Professionally, I've thought about presenting myself as authoritative, and I've given people tips on developing a more dominant presence, but most people don't seem to need advice on how to be more deferential, so I haven't thought hard about it. I do know that apologizing is a deferential thing to do--it's fine to apologize and you can retain authority when you do so, but if you apologize a lot and when you haven't actually erred, you present as deferential. Difficulty meeting the eyes of a person, especially if it involves quick darting glances down and back up, might signal submissiveness--it's so in dogs. A demure or cute look could translate to submissiveness, while elegant and refined are adjectives that might describe an attractive look with overtones of dominance. There are ways to be quiet and project authority, and ways to be quiet and project deference--and ways to speak and project authority, and ways to speak and project deference--but this moves into "I know it when I see it," which won't help you, unfortunately. Monica

slavemaia -> RE: What does a sub look/sound like? (3/5/2007 7:20:36 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: afeathr I received a message today that started me thinking... and perhaps this question has been asked before but here goes anyway. The message I received said exactly this (verbatim): "i must say , your words and pix do not seem submissive. this is by no means a criticism,not at all, just a casual observation" My question is: What does a sub look / sound like? How do they carry themselves, and talk to others? Is there some sort of expectation when it comes to a subs personality or appearance? Respectfully, [sm=banana.gif] ha ha ha - okay - i'm in a rather playful mood so here goes. A sub is long and grey, and of course has a periscope and one often hears the words "all hands below" when in the presence of a sub. Oh - wait - a sub is long and doughey with stuff in the middle - anything from salami to tofu. Sometimes they're toasted, sometimes not. Oh no, wait - it's the person who stands in front of the class when the regular teacher is out. Okay - i'll behave now - in other words a sub is whoever you are if you believe yourself to be a submissive. i was told MANY times i was not a sub let alone a slave by doms who either had some vision in their head of what i was supposed to look like and act like or were too insecure to handle anyone with some pepper in their personality. Trouble is for me until the right Master came along i honestly couldn't submit except on a very superficial level. It takes alot of trust to hand the responsibility for your well-being over to another person and the physical risks are the least in my book. Submission is like the opening of the door to all my vulnerabilities and secrets. Ya honestly think i'm going to do that with the first blowhard that approches me? - nada. So - let em think what they think. You have the right to your own journey, in your own time and in your own way. And i think your pose is adorable - it can be read in MANY MANY different ways.

Elegant -> RE: What does a sub look/sound like? (3/5/2007 7:21:25 PM)
quote: My question is: What does a sub look / sound like? How do they carry themselves, and talk to others? Is there some sort of expectation when it comes to a subs personality or appearance? A modern sub is usually cigar shaped. This design, visible on very early subs is sometimes called a "teardrop hull". Most large subs today carry themselves by means of nuclear marine propulsion. Smaller subs still use diesel-electric propulsion. Subs 'talk' with others by sonic communication methods, VLF Radio waves, electromagnetic waves and, when not submerged, with sattelite radio.

AquaticSub -> RE: What does a sub look/sound like? (3/5/2007 7:27:23 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Elegant quote: My question is: What does a sub look / sound like? How do they carry themselves, and talk to others? Is there some sort of expectation when it comes to a subs personality or appearance? A modern sub is usually cigar shaped. This design, visible on very early subs is sometimes called a "teardrop hull". Most large subs today carry themselves by means of nuclear marine propulsion. Smaller subs still use diesel-electric propulsion. Subs 'talk' with others by sonic communication methods, VLF Radio waves, electromagnetic waves and, when not submerged, with sattelite radio. Thank you. There is now food on my keyboard...

MistressWolfen -> RE: What does a sub look/sound like? (3/5/2007 7:28:18 PM)
oooooo I want one of those Elegant. Oh hang on us Canucks bought one from the Brits, damned thing sank before it left the harbour le'sigh.

catize -> RE: What does a sub look/sound like? (3/5/2007 7:28:55 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: afeathr I received a message today that started me thinking... and perhaps this question has been asked before but here goes anyway. The message I received said exactly this (verbatim): "i must say , your words and pix do not seem submissive. this is by no means a criticism,not at all, just a casual observation" My question is: What does a sub look / sound like? How do they carry themselves, and talk to others? Is there some sort of expectation when it comes to a subs personality or appearance? Respectfully, What? You didn’t get the manual? You must have an “s” tattooed on your forehead. You must never take a picture of yourself standing up or wearing clothes. You must never ever disagree with any identified dominant. You have no needs or wants, no brains, opinions or ideas. You never get tired. Your knees/back/arms never get sore, your bruises magically heal within an hour, and you only bleed if the dominant commands it. If you are really submissive, you can be drop-kicked from a second story balcony without breaking any bones because you would never inconvenience your dominant with the need for a trip to the emergency room. You never age, gain weight or have a bad hair day. You are: Stupendously Ultimately Beautifully Magically Idiotic, Servile, Stupid, Irrepressibly Valiantly Emotionless. And never USE CAPITAL LETTERS!

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