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What "type" of submissive's approach you on h... - 3/18/2007 7:25:15 PM   
MzMia


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Status: offline 		What type of submissive's approach you on CM, that turn you off?
Make you want to run for the hills or get out of this lifestyle, ladies?
I mean what are the behaviors that just irritate you?
I will list a few of mine:
 
Submissive's that contact you and are demanding, pushy and needy.
Submissive's that contact you and only want to discuss what THEIR needs are.
Submissive's that contact you and constantly complain about how hard it is
to find a REAL Mistress.
Come on ladies! Let it rip now!

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RE: What "type" of submissive's approach you ... - 3/18/2007 7:30:31 PM   
DianeB269


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Status: offline 		The subs that tell me what they are gonna do to me really turn me off.

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RE: What "type" of submissive's approach you ... - 3/18/2007 7:31:35 PM   
MzMia


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RE: What "type" of submissive's approach you ... - 3/18/2007 7:36:00 PM   
DianeB269


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Status: offline 		Submissive's that contact you and constantly complain about how hard it is
to find a REAL Mistress.

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RE: What "type" of submissive's approach you ... - 3/18/2007 7:50:28 PM   
Lashra


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Status: offline 		A sub that says he HAS to serve me, whether I want him to or not.
A sub that claims he knows "everything" there is to know about being a submissive and brags endlessly.
A sub who asks me right off how big my tits are.
A sub who asks me if my hair is as red down there as it is up top.
A sub who tells me all about his "pro" sessions and wants to know I could do better.
A sub who tells me that s/he could do much better than my current sub.
All in all, not subs at all, just wannabees.
A "real" <gasps yes I used that word> sub doesn't do these things he has humility, dignity and respect for the Lady to whom he is communcating. He shows intelligence, honesty, wit and a hopefully charm. These are the things that I look for in a sub.

~Lashra


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RE: What "type" of submissive's approach you ... - 3/18/2007 7:54:33 PM   
MsRose


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Status: offline 		A sub who doesn't take rejection very well (namely for the infractions listed above) and then determines that I am not a 'twue Dominate'. Said sub proceeds immediately to put me on his ignore list (which, secretly, is ok by me).

MRose.

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RE: What "type" of submissive's approach you ... - 3/18/2007 7:55:36 PM   
MySweetSubmssive


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Status: offline 		Submissives who clearly have not read my profile (or ignored it), i.e. being contacted by a married 57 year old man in Seattle.
Submissives who send one liners, or something ill-spelled or punctuated.
Submissives who ... ooops! ... aren't submissive (granted, I know the definition of this varies for each person)!!!  Bottoms, fetishists, wankers, etc.

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RE: What "type" of submissive's approach you ... - 3/18/2007 8:00:58 PM   
kc692


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quote:

ORIGINAL: DianeB269

The subs that tell me what they are gonna do to me really turn me off.



Haven't read to the end to know if it's been said, but how about the ones that have a list of what they will let you do to them to please you, of course?

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RE: What "type" of submissive's approach you ... - 3/18/2007 8:05:02 PM   
littlesarbonn


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quote:

ORIGINAL: DianeB269

The subs that tell me what they are gonna do to me really turn me off.


Whew! Glad I read that one before I sent out the email.

(goes back to writing intro email to DianeB269)

Dear (fill in the blank):

Can I be your submissive? If yes, please check this box. ( )

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Okay, I gotta really work on that intro email.


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RE: What "type" of submissive's approach you ... - 3/18/2007 8:05:46 PM   
DianeB269


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quote:

ORIGINAL: littlesarbonn

quote:

ORIGINAL: DianeB269

The subs that tell me what they are gonna do to me really turn me off.


Whew! Glad I read that one before I sent out the email.

(goes back to writing intro email to DianeB269)

Dear (fill in the blank):

Can I be your submissive? If yes, please check this box. ( )

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Okay, I gotta really work on that intro email.


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RE: What "type" of submissive's approach you ... - 3/18/2007 8:34:15 PM   
SweetDommes


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Status: offline 		My 'favorites' are the ones who think that they will break up Holly and me, and/or replace our boy.  I actually had one who told me (thinking that it would impress me, I guess) that he could bench press more than our boy as if a) he knew anything about our boy and b) I gave a damn.

Others that are problems for me are similar to those already mentioned - telling us what they will do "for" us, what we "can" do to them, if we are interested in X, Y, or Z fetish, telling us that we have to be interested in A, B, and/or C because of (insert stupid flipping reason here), telling us how devoted they are in e-mail #1 (or even #5), the list could go on for days (unfortunately)

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RE: What "type" of submissive's approach you ... - 3/18/2007 9:30:47 PM   
BlkTallFullfig


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What type of submissive's approach you on CM, that turn you off?
Mostly, the ones on their knees, but they really get me wondering what kind of mother they had if they start off with a story to a total stranger about how they'd like to be indulging themselves (and allegedly moi) sexually.   M

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RE: What "type" of submissive's approach you ... - 3/18/2007 9:34:04 PM   
MistressDolly


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quote:

ORIGINAL: Lashra

A sub that says he HAS to serve me, whether I want him to or not.
A sub that claims he knows "everything" there is to know about being a submissive and brags endlessly.
A sub who asks me right off how big my tits are.
A sub who asks me if my hair is as red down there as it is up top.
A sub who tells me all about his "pro" sessions and wants to know I could do better.
A sub who tells me that s/he could do much better than my current sub.
All in all, not subs at all, just wannabees.
A "real" <gasps yes I used that word> sub doesn't do these things he has humility, dignity and respect for the Lady to whom he is communcating. He shows intelligence, honesty, wit and a hopefully charm. These are the things that I look for in a sub.

~Lashra



That's my take precisely.  


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RE: What "type" of submissive's approach you ... - 3/18/2007 9:34:45 PM   
frostyslave


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Status: offline 		You know, despite the nasty troll crap I put in these threads, I actually do have a Mistress, though I found Her through a different site.  She has a caring and understanding heart, and She has put up with a lot of crap from me.

It really isn't hard to find a Mistress with simple respect, decent writing, and showing interest in her as a person.  I'm in my mid-20s, by no means good looking, hell, even temporarily unemployed.  I don't know how grown men can fumble this simple human interaction so badly.

I would have got into this a lot younger if I knew the real competition for Mistresses was so scarce.  Now back to your irregularly scheduled trolling...  I'd never approach one of these pretentious forum bitches, though they do tell the plain truth about what it takes.

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RE: What "type" of submissive's approach you ... - 3/18/2007 9:35:26 PM   
MistressDolly


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quote:

ORIGINAL: MzMia

What type of submissive's approach you on CM, that turn you off?
Make you want to run for the hills or get out of this lifestyle, ladies?
I mean what are the behaviors that just irritate you?
I will list a few of mine:
 
Submissive's that contact you and are demanding, pushy and needy.
Submissive's that contact you and only want to discuss what THEIR needs are.
Submissive's that contact you and constantly complain about how hard it is
to find a REAL Mistress.
Come on ladies! Let it rip now!


The type of people you're describing as "demanding", "pushy", rude etc are not submissives but rather game players or women haters looking for kicks and believe me - they outnumber the real submissives by a huge margin ( which is why I don't buy into the popular notion that there's a ton more male submissives than female dominants). 

A man searching for a dominant woman to surrender and submit  to, to cherish and adore would always approach her with respect and tact.  Period and end of story. 

:)

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RE: What "type" of submissive's approach you ... - 3/18/2007 9:45:21 PM   
BeachMystress


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Status: offline 		The ones who ignore the big red letters at the top of my profile that say
Seeking LOCAL ONLY!
NO relocations! NO travelers!
Because of course, we all know they are different and special and I wouldn't want to miss out on the chance to serve them (yes, serve them! It isn't serving me to use me as a service top or free pro) while they are in town for 6 hours!


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RE: What "type" of submissive's approach you ... - 3/18/2007 9:52:45 PM   
RWAble


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Status: offline 		But what about the ones that don't approach? Won't see no way to do it. The shy ones? You miss out on so much.

< Message edited by RWAble -- 3/18/2007 9:53:30 PM >

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RE: What "type" of submissive's approach you ... - 3/18/2007 9:53:18 PM   
DiurnalVampire


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quote:

ORIGINAL: Lashra

A sub that says he HAS to serve me, whether I want him to or not.
A sub who tells me all about his "pro" sessions and wants to know I could do better.
A sub who tells me that s/he could do much better than my current sub.
~Lashra


OK, I second all of those. I'll add those that tell me how wonderful and/or interesting I am ... without ever having spoken to me.
Any sub who declares is LOVE for me before we have actualy spoken.
A sub that tends to think they are the exeption to the rules I have and will tell me why in their first email
and lastly, Dom who wants to sub becasue I either sound or look like I could actually control them

DV

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RE: What "type" of submissive's approach you ... - 3/18/2007 9:57:33 PM   
MsRose


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quote:

ORIGINAL: RWAble

But what about the ones that don't approach? Won't see no way to do it. The shy ones? You miss out on so much.


If I understand your post correctly, and if there exist those submissives who do not approach, these shy ones you hint at, how on earth is one supposed to know they exist?

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RE: What "type" of submissive's approach you ... - 3/18/2007 10:03:51 PM   
MysticFireTopaz


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quote:

ORIGINAL: MzMia
What type of submissive's approach you on CM, that turn you off?
Make you want to run for the hills or get out of this lifestyle, ladies?
I mean what are the behaviors that just irritate you?


I had one demand in his initial e-mail that I get on cam to prove that I was real, because he had been "burned by so many phonies on Collarme."  My reply?  "Get  lost!"
 
Subs who go into graphic detail about their cuckold fantasies, despite the fact that I say twice in my profile not to reply if you are a cuckold, and have it listed under things I hate.
 
The out-of-towners who think I should drop what I am doing to make time for them.  They think I should be overjoyed to to go out to dinner with them "just for conversation."  Why am I going to waste time with someone who doesn't even live here and is probably married?  If I want to go out to dinner, I am perfectly capable of paying for it myself, and choosing more interesting dinner companions.
 
Ones who send a chat invitation, despite the words "NO CHAT REQUESTS, PLEASE" in prominent red letters at the top of my profile.
 
Ones who do not even read my full profile before firing off a message.  Now that there is the "Who's Viewing Me" button, I can tell if they have read the full profile or not.  90% of those who applied recently didn't even read the full profile. 
 
There are others, but that's all I can think of right now.
 
Lady Topaz
 

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