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RE: What "type" of submissive's approach you ... - 3/18/2007 10:06:38 PM

Vendaval

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Comments guaranteed to piss me off -

"Does the rug match the drapes?"
"I'm married and can't talk to my wife...blah blah blah"
"My wife doesn't know I am here...pause...neither does
my girlfriend!"
"I wanna be a sex slave to you and all your Domina
friends."
"How come all the pros are money-grubbing-gold-
digging-whores?"
"it humbly begs to approcheth"

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RE: What "type" of submissive's approach you ... - 3/18/2007 10:12:08 PM

MySweetSubmssive

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But what about the ones that don't approach? Won't see no way to do it. The shy ones? You miss out on so much.

If I understand your post correctly, and if there exist those submissives who do not approach, these shy ones you hint at, how on earth is one supposed to know they exist?

If a shy submissives pines alone in the forest and doesn't make any noise, does a dominant know?

MSS

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RE: What "type" of submissive's approach you ... - 3/18/2007 10:27:58 PM

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Sometimes they hide in that forest. They never write a Lady. They sit quietly, waiting. wondering. Never knowing for sure if what they feel is real. They don't come out of the forest often. Sometimes you have to come after them. Good Luck.

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ORIGINAL: MsRose

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ORIGINAL: RWAble

But what about the ones that don't approach? Won't see no way to do it. The shy ones? You miss out on so much.

If I understand your post correctly, and if there exist those submissives who do not approach, these shy ones you hint at, how on earth is one supposed to know they exist?

If a shy submissives pines alone in the forest and doesn't make any noise, does a dominant know?

MSS

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RE: What "type" of submissive's approach you ... - 3/18/2007 10:30:21 PM

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Personally, if they are hiding in the forest, then - IMO - they are too insecure about their desires to be anything we want or need.

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RE: What "type" of submissive's approach you ... - 3/18/2007 10:36:30 PM

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"Subs" that tell you what they are going to do to you don't really sound like subs to me. More like desparate little boys trying to get your attention.

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RE: What "type" of submissive's approach you ... - 3/18/2007 10:39:12 PM

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The insecure ones. The ones who are testing the waters, who engage in what appear to be intelligent discussion, and then disappear. The ones for whom the reality of a D/s relationship is a little too "real".

I'm also turned off by submissives (well anyone, really) who stumbles through a sentence without the barest knowledge of sentence construction.

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RE: What "type" of submissive's approach you ... - 3/18/2007 10:49:56 PM

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Do You really know what You want or need? Tell me exactly what You want in a sub/slave. They hide in the forest, perhaps because they tire of the same lies. Have You ever thought of that? When they come out, they get endless lies and crap. They find out that most Dommes are not people, but lonely Women; who wouldn't know what to do with a true; devoted servant.

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ORIGINAL: SweetDommes

Personally, if they are hiding in the forest, then - IMO - they are too insecure about their desires to be anything we want or need.

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RE: What "type" of submissive's approach you ... - 3/18/2007 10:51:22 PM

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Gotta love the subs that ask "do you do online?" or, "care for cyber?". How about the ones who ask "wanna see me on cam?" before you have ever had the chance to even say hello.

How about the unsolicited cock shots? Yes, please send me your cock pix, because THAT is the deciding factor in how I select any slave! C'mon guys, grow up.

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RE: What "type" of submissive's approach you ... - 3/18/2007 10:52:38 PM

MySweetSubmssive

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I know this is an odd one, but a person who is too eager, who seems to like many of the things I like. I've had several of those who seemed too good to be true -- were. They ended up being married or mentally imbalanced or, as MsRose mentioned, unable to make the leap from fantasy to reality. Those can really leave you burnt or jaded feeling because you come so close, only to be deeply disappointed.

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RE: What "type" of submissive's approach you ... - 3/18/2007 11:00:49 PM

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ORIGINAL: RWAble
Do You really know what You want or need? Tell me exactly what You want in a sub/slave.

A good number of us do know exactly what we want/need, though we may not have begun that way.
The first thing I discuss with a man who approaches as submissive or slave, is our mutual understanding of what it means to submit or be a slave; because after those basics we still have to do all of the things a normal relationship needs in order to flourish; such as communicate, like/respect one another as human beings, make one another hot (for myself anyway, lol), etc. I hope that satisfies your question to some extent.
Having said all that though, there is little chance any of it is going to happen with any lady, if you (or she) don't at least say "hello there, how are you?" M

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RE: What "type" of submissive's approach you ... - 3/18/2007 11:06:06 PM

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Ah... Bingo. It is that so hard to find?

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RE: What "type" of submissive's approach you ... - 3/18/2007 11:17:28 PM

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Submissive approaches that piss me off - as many have already stated:
* didn't read my profile (especially the "NO MEN" part - bleh)
* declares their undying servitude in the 1st email (eh??)
* falls to their knees in an immediate kneel in the email
* can't put together a cohesive sentence
* pushes all their kinks & fetishes at me
* asks unending questions abt how I will punish them (bloody wankers)
* contacts me once a month asking if I'm still looking, but does not contact otherwise - even though I've cautioned them before they will have to be consistant & sincere if they want a chance at anything

As MSS previously brought up, I am very skeptical when I am talking with one who is everything on my personal wish list. Like MSS, I, too, have run into a number of these. Don't know if they wound up being married or unbalanced or men disguising themselves as women - none of them ever met me face to face.

All I really ask (& it seems to be too much to ask sometimes), is sincerity & honesty. If we're not compatible, that's cool. I'm a big girl; I can handle rejection.

I'm not just anybody's type of Mistress; nor am I looking for just anyone to fill that sub/slave spot.

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RE: What "type" of submissive's approach you ... - 3/18/2007 11:18:26 PM

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ORIGINAL: RWAble

But what about the ones that don't approach? Won't see no way to do it. The shy ones? You miss out on so much.

You're right - - I am sure there are many sincere, yet shy submissives out there waiting to be noticed, such as yourself, but, unfortuately, for him (or her), that is a fact that goes completely unnoticed...

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RE: What "type" of submissive's approach you ... - 3/18/2007 11:26:16 PM

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Yes, RWAble, it can be extremely difficult to find ... someone who views servitude the same way the dominant does ... someone with whom you can mesh lives to whatever extent ... there are so many individual variables & different aspects each person is looking for/needing from any relationship ... it is even more so with a D/s or bdsm relationship. In all honesty, it's one reason my profile is so durn long! It was important to me that someone get a feeling of who I am & what my situation is & whether or not they could even see themselves in my house.

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RE: What "type" of submissive's approach you ... - 3/18/2007 11:29:03 PM

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ORIGINAL: RWAble

Do You really know what You want or need? Tell me exactly what You want in a sub/slave. They hide in the forest, perhaps because they tire of the same lies. Have You ever thought of that? When they come out, they get endless lies and crap. They find out that most Dommes are not people, but lonely Women; who wouldn't know what to do with a true; devoted servant.

As a matter of fact, we do know. I would venture to guess that most of the long-time posters here do as well.

For the record, being told that we don't know what we want and/or need (or even having it implied) is another thing that turns us off ... which means that I have absolutely no need or desire to explain to you what it is that we want and need. The basics are in the profile anyway, and the details will come to anyone whom we decide to give them to. Submissives haven't heard any more lies and crap than Dominants have, so honestly - not a good excuse.

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RE: What "type" of submissive's approach you ... - 3/19/2007 12:04:51 AM

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First and foremost, those that imply any type of disrespect. This includes, but is not limited to, not knowing their place. Those who do not do any research (such as reading My profile, or at least a few posts of Mine on the board) to know what type of Mistress I am. Those who expect Me to just run out and provide My personal IM information. Oh, and let's not forget those who send cock pics.

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RE: What "type" of submissive's approach you ... - 3/19/2007 12:06:02 AM

RWAble

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Hum....makes one wonder why they even bother. To get lost in the many folds of humanity. A true servant, does so in and out of the lifestyle. It's not a game, it is what they are. They are happy to do so in their daily life, because it gives them the pleasure they seek in giving. Thus they hide in the forest. Waiting for the One to claim them. The One with more knowledge about how they feel, than themselves.
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As a matter of fact, we do know. I would venture to guess that most of the long-time posters here do as well.

For the record, being told that we don't know what we want and/or need (or even having it implied) is another thing that turns us off ... which means that I have absolutely no need or desire to explain to you what it is that we want and need. The basics are in the profile anyway, and the details will come to anyone whom we decide to give them to. Submissives haven't heard any more lies and crap than Dominants have, so honestly - not a good excuse.
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RE: What "type" of submissive's approach you ... - 3/19/2007 12:15:16 AM

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ALL of the ABOVE plus those that recount ridiculous tales.... things that can't possibly be true: For example (this is one of my favorites), being denied food and water and having an IV strapped to his arm for sustenance while having to endure days of merciless, bloody beatings. ---- Hmm, seems to me, if you were being beaten until you are bloody, you can't really keep an IV in your arm. Of course the wackiest is one that I think I've recounted somewhere here regarding some nonsense about OWK.

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RE: What "type" of submissive's approach you ... - 3/19/2007 12:16:31 AM

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"Please cut my penis off and keep it in a jar on Your mantle I'd so LOVE to be your eunich"
Sexy living room decor don't you think!?
"I'm looking for someone to blackmail me - please get back to me at my yahoo/hotmail/aol address as follows:"
If he thinks jail is a turn on, he can do the time, thanks.
"HI I'm a multi-millionaire and if You run off and marry me I will give you all this!"
I get this like what WEEKLY it's so tired, ITS SICK ... What is this insanity???
"HI! I'm in Germany and using a translation program to type; but I'd love to come there and meet with You ... "
Ok maybe its just Me here but um ... how do we talk?
"Hi, I've watched your profile forever and I love jerking off to You, so I thought I'd drop a note and ..."
No comment - ew ew ew ew GROSS!
"Hi, I'm a lesbian, but I'm with a guy right now ... "
"Hello; I have really really good life insurance, take me and make me your slave, and then "off" me. Use my gravesite as Your throne, Your leaping point, Your pillar."
What; AFTER the jail time I guess huh! Sad part is these bozos actually think someone is going to take them seriously.
"Hi" - 10 mins later "hi!" - 10 mins later "HI!!" - 10 mis later "HI!" - 10 mins later "Hi there" - 10 mins later "hello"
This is the epitome of annoying.
ANY of those who use terms of familiarity such as: darling, babe, sweetheart, doll. or the like.
To Me it's like chewing aluminum foil - unecessarilly painful and completely inappropriate.
* In reply to a post ... Do You have a website? *stupid people are NOT sexy*
"Hi, I know you're not a pro, but can I talk you into a session for money?" *see above*
"Hi, my name is ______ I live in _____ I want to ______ Your _______ with my ________. Please take me as your slave."
Cock slingers of any variety, just because you have one ... doesn't mean you have to be one.

BUT MOST OF ALL - the ones who hear what they want to hear, no matter what it is You are trying to tell them, or in however many different very clear ways. I've come to the conclusion the only answer is: these people are psychotic, and ignoring them from the moment such "breaks from reality" occurr, is the only viable answer.
*Signs of the malady: Some of them talk over You, some interrupt and change topics, some pretend they didn't hear, some hear and interpret in their own manner despite Your being consice, some "forget," some change the story in their own minds - In the end none of them are worth the time You've just wasted, or the more You are inclined to waste in working to sort it out, and clarifying. Bottom line is it will never sort out, it is emotional button pushing and attention mongering and the more you work to rectify it, the more ludicrous it will become. As My Mother recently reminded Me; "don't get suckered into wasting Your resources fighting with a serf. Time and energy are valuable commodities. Once (say it), Twice (repeat it)... three times (don't argue it or ... ) they're out. Arguing the point will not bode well in anyone's favour." In the end I know what I said, there is no interpreting; there is listening and absorbing and if that can not be done, the rest will never happen.
I don't play games; as evidenced by the fact I end things as soon as such stupidity begins, as I will not tolerate such powerstruggles in My home, I just won't do it. But that to ME is the epitome of a slap across the face, and when it happens I'm forever shocked and apalled.

I don't get wish list slaves, or married ones anymore - thankfully. Most know I'm serious, those who don't know, discover so; quickly. But um ... Anyone want a penis in a jar for the living room???
*chuckles*
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RE: What "type" of submissive's approach you ... - 3/19/2007 1:30:05 AM

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ORIGINAL: MySweetSubmssive

quote:

ORIGINAL: MsRose

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ORIGINAL: RWAble

But what about the ones that don't approach? Won't see no way to do it. The shy ones? You miss out on so much.

If I understand your post correctly, and if there exist those submissives who do not approach, these shy ones you hint at, how on earth is one supposed to know they exist?

If a shy submissives pines alone in the forest and doesn't make any noise, does a dominant know?

MSS

I agree that shyness is a barrier to a submissive or Dominants search. I have to admit I find shyness rather sweet, but I also know it can cause a person to go unfulfilled in many ways. But the truth is the only way one can find that which they so desperately desire is to go seek it out. Otherwise it may never come.

~Lashra

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