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darkinshadows -> RE: Why is age such a big deal? (4/12/2005 3:18:29 PM)

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i was referring to finding my parents and their friends attractive. cause that's sick.


I find my parents incredibly attractive, beautiful people. There is nothing sick in that.

(Although by the tone of your post, you are referring to a more sexual orientation.)

One mans sickness may indeed be another mans cure.
As for finding my parents friends attractive. Sure. Nothing wrong in that either.
And there is nothing wrong IMO in finding my parents friends sexually attractive.
Some of my parents friends are younger than them, some the same age, some older.

They are not relatives, they are people. Just like your best friend. Or the person walking down the street in front of you.

Maybe people in the media who are voted 'the worlds sexiest people'... Like Sean Connery, or Madonna, or Tom Cruise, Harrison Ford, Eric Clapton etc... (ok... trying to think of universal names here...[;)])... maybe people finding them attractive are just 'sick' also?

There is nothing sick wrong with wanting to be in a relationship or scene with people around your own age. But theres nothing sick or wrong with being attracted to an older person, be they family friend or munch attendee.
To each their own.

I am constantly amazed at the lack of respect shown for peoples personal choices.

Peace and Love



siamsa24 -> RE: Why is age such a big deal? (4/12/2005 3:25:00 PM)

Beautifully said angel, I totally agree.

I have been critisized (not so much here, but it still happens) for discriminating against the people that I date based on age. I am simply not as attracted to guys my age, I have tried to date them and it just doesn't work. My current boyfriend is over 17 years older then me, does that make me sick? No, it just makes me different.



pboy2004 -> RE: Why is age such a big deal? (4/12/2005 7:38:14 PM)

I dont think age is a big deal, you should be judged on your personality and maturity when considered for a relationship. Im a submissive so wouldnt it be normal to be atrracted to an older woman.? I am generalising though, but most times ive met a dominant lady she has been older than me :) So i guess over time thats what attracts me



Kinkypupper -> RE: Why is age such a big deal? (4/13/2005 9:55:35 AM)

Age is not a big deal to those over 40
For those under 40 it is. and it was also to us as well when "we" were under 40.

Age creates experiance and wisdom, it also creates the illusion that we want our youth back.



caitlyn -> RE: Why is age such a big deal? (4/13/2005 2:18:57 PM)

Age is really not an issue.

I'm 18. If you are between the ages of 75 and 90, have a nice retirement plan and are willing to sign a prenuptial agreement, please shoot me an email. [;)]



siamsa24 -> RE: Why is age such a big deal? (4/13/2005 2:35:34 PM)

That's not really fair to those of us who actually seek older partners for reasons other then money. There is more to these relationships and we are not all gold diggers



caitlyn -> RE: Why is age such a big deal? (4/13/2005 2:43:19 PM)

Dude ... it was a joke.

It may have been a bad joke, but to most people that little winky face at the end is a dead giveaway.

peace ... c



angelinbondage -> RE: Why is age such a big deal? (4/13/2005 2:45:53 PM)

Age is a big issue for a lot of people because not all subs walk into this lifestyle iwth the mindset that they are a piece of property or some animal to be trained. I want a lasting relationship that goes beyond the kneeling, and it's a bit difficult to take a relationship with a much older man seriously when he is old enough to have children my age.



Sinergy -> RE: Why is age such a big deal? (4/13/2005 6:05:43 PM)


Hello,

For me the whole issue revolves around maturity, education, and life experiences,
as opposed to age.

I have met any number of 25 year olds who amazed me, and any number of 55 year
olds who didnt.

And vice versa.

Sinergy



SirSTRYKER -> RE: Why is age such a big deal? (5/16/2005 10:09:22 PM)

One reply of dismissal is sufficient I think, at least it is for Me. I have had some write again and again but I don't read them - I just delete them. Hey, it happens both ways too. There have been some I WISH WOULD have accepted this 52 year old man, but then they didn't so...life goes on.



ILovePain13 -> RE: Why is age such a big deal? (5/19/2005 9:10:05 PM)

I have an age specification because I was looking for a serious relationship which is much more easyand logical with someone in a similar life experience/ goals/situation as me just to be compatible. For play I understand that experience is fantastic and that age often equals experience and maturity but not always. However I was abused by my father and so it kinda creeps me out when a guy is close to his age, looks similar to him, or wants me to call him daddy. Its nothing personal and I know its a symptom of some light post-traumatic stress and what-not but I love my guys with a lot of libido and power anyways and I find it hard to see that in much older guys (regardless of being violated by my father-it doesn't make much sense but...) I respond politely to those outside of my age range if they are interested in play, relationship, etc... but it is a polite "As my profile states... thanks for ur interest" It does still piss me off that they want to contact me without reading my profile or desire me to domme or be sub to them without paying attention to or respecting my limits and interests.



Domcat -> RE: Why is age such a big deal? (5/20/2005 10:52:08 AM)

I am 48 and most people I see at events are My age give or take. I do see some people in their thirtiies and even less in their twenties. I too find it creepy to see people at play parties that are the same age as my kids but that is just Me. Anyone who turns down an older person because of the age difference is throwing away an opportunity to be part of a wealth of experience.



SirCJ -> RE: Why is age such a big deal? (5/22/2005 11:12:52 AM)

I feel as though a woman's beauty comes from within, not from what age she is. I do seek an age range that I might find the perfect partner, but it is not a factor when it comes to my feelings for her. 18-80 blind, cripple, or crazy(lol)..just a little humor for the other older guys. The choices for Men and Women are much different, if You are looking for a male sub You'll be able to find one at any age, the choices for female subs are much more limited. More Men will explore out of their desired age range to increase their chances to find a partner, does that make us dirty old men? or is it just supply and demand. CJ



onceburned -> RE: Why is age such a big deal? (5/22/2005 12:56:29 PM)

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does that make us dirty old men? or is it just supply and demand. CJ


I don't think it would make you a dirty old man if you are considering subs who are older than you are.



Manawyddan -> RE: Why is age such a big deal? (5/23/2005 7:29:25 AM)

I don't have any problem with being a dirty old man, personally.

I admit that I find the idea of dating a much younger woman a pleasant fantasy, but that's as far as it goes. Ultimately, what draws me to someone is their personality and experience, and I'm statistically more likely to find someone compatible with me in that aspect when they are closer to my own age range. I'm also just as likely to be attracted to a woman more than a decade older if she has the right sort of flair.

In addition ... I really, honestly, don't expect women half my age to be sexually attracted to me (I know there are exceptions, like some of the posters on this thread). Sometimes, yes, I do send chatty e-mails to women who happen to be younger, and I do consider it polite if they respond (I'm not really looking for penapls either, but a brief interchange can be pleasant). However, if I don't get a response, I assume their inbox is overcrowded already and, frankly, it's not something I am excessively ego-involved in.



ginger21 -> RE: Why is age such a big deal? (5/23/2005 10:42:02 AM)

Age isn't a big deal for me.

I'm 20 and my Master is 51. He's been into BDSM longer than I've been alive. But I must admit, there are challenges that our age gap presents, so that could be a big reason that young people aren't interested in you old buggers. ~_^



fourpeas -> RE: Why is age such a big deal? (5/28/2005 6:57:46 PM)

I think it's all interesting. And yes, you have to take it all into consideration.

My Dom is almost 20 years older than me and so far, so good. Obviously we'll see what happens, but in vanilla-land I have a tendency to date older men simply because I can relate so much better to the goals that many men my age just simply do not have.

I raised my little brother from the time I was 12 on, and I have been functioning as an "adult" for most of my life. I have done everyone for a child except birthed one myself. I want to have a family and I have serious goals in my life that, for the most part, I have found that older men simply relate to better.

I find it's easier for me to operate on a case-by-case basis.

That said, it is especially annoying to date someone 25 years your senior only to find out that *you* are more mature than they!

sighs...



mstrj69 -> RE: Why is age such a big deal? (7/5/2005 5:40:24 PM)

Sorry caitlyn, I am not old enough for you although I do have a nice retirement plan. Also, why bother with a prenup. just leave everything to you. Everybody has given some good points, especially when it comes to at least reading the email. If I write someone I make sure they have not said they do not want to here from someone my age or can not relocate. If they read it and do not reply, I delete the copy of my original mail to them. If they reply and say I am too old or give another reason for not wanting to chat or exchange emails I may write them back but only to say thank you for the reply and I will honor your request not to write you any more. I generally delete that email immediately and do not expect another reply from them. I occassionally write to say congratulations when they say they have just found their master but here too I do not expect a reply. I guess I am trying to be nice when I shouldn't.



Faramir -> RE: Why is age such a big deal? (7/5/2005 6:12:47 PM)


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ORIGINAL: LordBennett

Especially the younger members who are just getting into the lifestyle. Don't they realize that an older partner is more likely to have a lot more experience and could train them better and then release them to find whomever they want. What is really rediculous is when you email someone to say good luck or congratulations and they do not even read it because you are of the wrong sex for them or you are too old for them. They miss out on positive emails that way and why?


Whah whah whah whah whah wha - cry cry cry cry cry - boo-hoo-hoo!

People won't do what I want them to!



Gemeni -> RE: Why is age such a big deal? (7/5/2005 6:21:14 PM)

Just as charming as ever MO.

Lots of people won't do what you want them to either(like take you seriously).life is tough.

Boo hho hoo to you too.[:D]



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